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Why the unhappy Marriages?
Unhappy marriages are more that frustrating.
He started everything in her life and stopped everything in her life.
His first touch, first kiss, and those first moments made her feel what she had never felt before or had experienced any other.
He swept her off her feet and taught her the meaning of true love.
Years have gone by and they still love each other. He no longer shows interest in her like he did in the past.
She learned from him and he showed her everything for the first time. The person she once knew her is no longer the same toward her.
He has passed the phase that she longs for from him.
Most men don't like to be asked such questions:
''Why have we stopped being intimate?''
''Why do we spend less time together?''
Questions that are often ignored and the woman involved with that man sees everything in her marriage and does not speak about it.
She knows her man will not like the idea of such conversations.
Communication in this marriage is not good enough and that can destroy a good kind of love.
He is not into her needs.
A selfish individual to think of life from only his side.
This man gave her a good life also took that good life from her. The only man she had ever loved and still loves.
He has become motionless and has a different agenda.
Their lives are different but still in love.
It is all about the want and wants but no giving.
Will the couple open up to each other?
I doubt that would happen he is a traditional man and she has to live with him loving him passionately allows her to be this way.
She does not know any other love.
He sees it only from his side.
What is a Marriage?
When two people say, ''I do, and till death do us part, what do you expect?''
You would expect the married couple to stay in the marriage and work through their worst moments together.
A marriage is for better and worse and is a commitment to both partners.
They love each and would expect teamwork.
Sometimes the little aspects of a marriage fade away and no one notices their breakthroughs.
When he turns head away from her to gaze at the television he does not see his acts like she would see it.
To the woman, he is ignoring her and to the man, he wants to watch television.
He needs to give her the attention and to hold her hands and tell her that he loves her.
She needs his attention and when you fail to pay attention she can become needy.
It allows her to search elsewhere for a friend who will give her that attention. Usually, it is another male friend to fill the gap.
You choose your partner for different reasons but don't act on what you know will keep you together.
Just a lack of interest shows you have taken your love for granted.
Different needs and different thoughts can lead to other paths ahead.
What makes you unhappy in a marriage?
The lack of proper communication can destroy a good marriage.
The lack of respect and understanding can open your eyes to a poor relationship in a marriage.
When couples spend less time together they tend to go their own ways.
The often yelling at each other can make a marriage most unhappy.
Financial situations grow and get out of control.
Stressful moments make couples feel pressured into their marriages.
Disagreements can cause many arguments.
The annoying bad habits like smoking, or the excessive drinking, or constant spitting on the ground.
Bad eating habits such as notable manners can make one feel frustrated.
The constant nagging and threats, for example, ’’if you don't do that, I will do something else you don't approve of.''
Nagging is when you won't stop at it. You keep on going at one problem and that can really get to a man’s head.
What she wants he can’t give to her anymore.
You feel rejected and like you have accepted him/her for the wrong reasons.
Two wrongs don't make a right, but yet you still go ahead and try to get back at each other in some way.
You want to get back at him or her for what they have allowed coming between you and him.
Decide what you think is right for you not of what you are going to use to get back at each other.
Your marriage becomes unhappy when you don't meet the needs of a partner.
Trust lost makes you see how unhappy the marriage has become over time.
You feel torn apart in a marriage.
Blaming each other is totally unnecessary.
You treat your partner like dirt and criticize them making the individual feel down about themselves.
Most couples feel broken up and like they don't know their partners anymore.
An unhappy marriage is when couples have to stay together for the kid's sake or for other people's sake.
These thoughts force them to stay in loveless marriages.
If you stop talking and find that communication is long gone your marriage is going downhill.
The joy of both people has disappeared making the marriage lifeless.
Being ashamed of your partner can cause an unhappy marriage.
Vulnerability in marriage can show unhappiness in a marriage you won't even see it right away.
Avoiding the problem makes marriages unhappy and effortless.
Sometimes couples don't look at intimacy to solve their problems.
You should not see that way, but if that is the problem then you should really talk about it.
Marriage is about many aspects of life and not only about sex.
Every part of your marriage should be fulfilled if you can meet up with the standards of your partner then go ahead and make each other happy.
If you are not able to meet the standards of your partner make amends and compromise.
What should you do if you are in an unhappy marriage?
Leave if you feel unhappy and can't solve the issue.
Avoid regrets and move on.
Don't fear your next move.
Be positive about your plans.
You can love again and never doubt love.
Make you the priority.
Giving it all up can be the hardest for you but remember if you are not happy in the marriage it is not worth your stay.
Avoid feeling guilty.
Don't think of loneliness or that alone feeling instead think about how unhappy you are and that you got to get out of that rut.
What makes you think you are unhappily married?
When he tells you the grocery cupboard is empty and in some cases that can make you feel like the maid.
The glass is not clean and he looks at you like, ''why did you not clean it properly.''
The lack of loving makes you feel as an outsider in the marriage.
He wants you to be there and does not know what is missing in your life.
Letting you go will be a mistake, no one to pick up after him and to clean after him.
If he mentions,'' it is time you got a job.''
He can't afford you anymore. No time for you and no money to spend on you on any special occasion.
He looks at you as old and changed.
You hate each other’s parents that ought to tell you something about your marriage.
Couples who believe in this line ''With all that you have been through we can go much further,'' are fooling themselves.
They find it a way to keep going to avoid fixing their real issues.
Marriages don't always workout as expected
What if you are unhappy in your marriage?
Are you in an Unhappy Marriage?
© 2014 Devika Primić