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Why Do we Misunderstand Others & Understanding Quotes

Updated on April 9, 2013

“The noblest pleasure is the joy of understanding. “ ~ Leonardo da Vinci

“Life is the first gift, love is the second, and understanding the third” ~ Marge Piercy

Let us be frank, misunderstanding each other is causing many problems for us; many times, we blame ourselves for not giving chances for others to explain their ideas or their own viewpoints more clearly, before we give our judgement.

Some people miss their loves because of misunderstanding them.

Fortunately, understating others is a skill we can practice & do.

You maybe misunderstand me, that is related to many circumstances like:

- Being tired, being hungry, being angry, being in hurry or having stress.

- I am using a word that is not appropriate for you personally (maybe this word reminds you about a bad previous experience).

- Your emotional feeling towards me is not well.

“Folks never understand the folks they hate.” ~ James Russell Lowell

“A clear understanding of negative emotions dismisses them.” ~ Vernon Howard

- Your attitude about my own personality (maybe if you hear same words from someone else you will understand him better).

“Everyone hears only what he understands.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

- If you believe someone, who has backbitten me, so you listen from your mind & heart not from your ears, etc.

Robert McCloskey said, “I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.”

Anyway, everything can be better if you keep in your mind that I worth to be understood, otherwise no benefit if you have decided already how you would understand me.


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Some more Understanding Quotes

“Who you are speaks so loudly I can't hear what you're saying.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” ~ Ernest Hemingway

“A good listener tries to understand what the other person is saying. In the end he may disagree sharply, but because he disagrees, he wants to know exactly what it is he is disagreeing with.” ~ Kenneth A. Wells

The highest activity a human being can attain is learning for understanding, because to understand is to be free ~ Baruch Spinoza

"There is a great difference between knowing and understanding: you can know a lot about something and not really understand it" ~ Charles F Kettering

“A single moment of understanding can flood a whole life with meaning. “ ~ Unknown

“Keep constantly in mind in how many things you yourself have witnessed changes already. The universe is change, life is understanding.” ~ Marcus Aurelius

“Understanding is a two-way street.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

“To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to.” ~ Kahlil Gibran


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If you need to enhance your ability to understand others, read my recent Hub which includes 18 points How to understand and accept others as they are


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      Taleb AlDris 6 years ago


      Thanks for comment.

      Happy you like it.

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      ciaron davies 6 years ago

      This is great!

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      Taleb AlDris 6 years ago


      I'm happy that you liked the quotes.

      Thanks for stopping by and comment.

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      sofs 6 years ago

      “Everyone hears only what he understands.” how true! Loved these quotes. Thanks for sharing :)

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      Taleb AlDris 6 years ago


      I am happy you like my Hub, so thank you for giving me the listening ear I was hope.

      Let us take the right decision "We will understand other as much as we can."

      Thanks for the comment.

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      Moira Garcia Gallaga 6 years ago from Lisbon, Portugal

      This is a very interesting hub. There is so much misunderstanding in the world. You are right in your point that we are so quick to judge before we give the others a chance to fully explain their views or ideas. We seem to be losing our ability to listen. I like the Kenneth Wells quote best, that is the attitude we should all develop.

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      Taleb AlDris 6 years ago


      Thank you for your great addition to the hub.

      You mentioned a very good real example to support the idea of the hub .

      I like the idea of filters which you have mentioned.

      Thank you for stopping by & comment.

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      danfresnourban 6 years ago from Fresno, CA

      You make an excellent point with this Hub. Many people misunderstand each other because they listen through their own biases and prejudices.

      As a lawyer I have had a number of occasions to witness this happen. During court hearings there is a court reporter that records everything that is being said. I have had clients claim that something was said and I would tell them, "no that is not what was said." The client is usually adamant that they heard it correctly. Fortunately I can ask for a read back from the reporter and clear it up. The interesting thing is that the client usually claims that what was said was a lie or somehow shows that the client is being set up. I believe the client is hearing what they already believe or suspect in their mind. Their filter actually changes what is said to match what they believe.

      As humans we all have to check our filters. Try to make sure you understand what the person is really saying.