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Why women prefer older men?

Updated on February 5, 2014
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Why do women prefer to have a relationship with older men? This is a question that many people have asked themselves throughout the years. And this is for you, soconfident (the hubber who inspired this hub).


There are basically two types of women that like old men. Gold-diggers and fighters or entrepreneurs. While gold-diggers like older men for the obvious, entrepreneurs are not focused on finding one. Still, they do not discard the possibility of having a man in their lives, but they select men which they think gather the requirements to be their representatives. Since I consider myself a fighter, I will focus on the reasons we as entrepreneurs have, to prefer older men.

Men our age vs. older men

In my personal case I have experienced both, relationships with men my age and with older ones. And which do I prefer? Older of course. When dealing with men your age or near your age, there is a tendency of finding a lack of maturity, which really makes us women uncomfortable. When you find a man that is not mature it feels like you are raising a child of your own. They can't make their own decisions, they lack of confidence and courage to perform their duties and responsibility is not included on their vocabulary. With older men it is totally different, they tend to have experiences which give them confidence and they tend to take action under difficult situations instead of pulling their hairs off their heads waiting for us or 'mommy' to come and solve for them.

Many people think and most women say that we need a man who is sweet, comprehensive, sensible, bla, bla, bla...That's all bull sh...What we really need in a man, is not to be sweet and sensible, but to be a companion, a complement, a partner. Someone that goes along with you or is ahead of you so that when you stumble, instead of dropping dead or crying for 'mommy' right next to you, helps you up again and finishes the race with you. And we tend to find this in older men.



It is also emotional

Part of this is association. We need men with experience, not to teach us what we do not know, but for the emotion of thinking we are going to experience new things. We also like big men, for the sense of protection. But older men compensate being big with the wisdom and maturity sense created by being older. We tend to associate wisdom and maturity with age, supposing more age is proportional to more experience. That makes us feel very comfortable.


Natural need of a leader

When dancing, who's the lead? The man or the woman? It is of general knowledge that a man leads the dancing couple. Women can do the job, I am not saying we are not capable, but ask yourself, would it look right? Imagine yourself leading the man and the man moving his body like a woman. Seriously, would that look right? I do not think so.


Disclaimer

I do not want to implicate that all young men are immature or that all older men are experienced and mature and wise. My arguments are based only on a tendency I have identified throughout my personal experiences. To prove that I my intentions are not to generalize I will give you a personal example. I am married to a man who is 11 years older than me because I found in him most of the characteristics I was looking for (and I say most because no one is perfect and you are never going to find a man that fulfills all of your needs). But I also shared a relationship with one that was 9 years older than me and even though he was older, in some areas he didn't seem much mature and trustworthy and comfortable for me.

Conclusion

Generally we need a man that either controls us or contends with us. A man that can listen and learn from us but shows us more than we can show them. One that can cover his and our expenses or at least his own, but never make us cover his. In other words, generally we look for a man who is besides us or a few steps ahead of us. And that is why we prefer older men.

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      MissSugar 3 years ago

      I always thought that women that like or prefer older men want to be lead or controlled - need a father figure...

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      creativesq 4 years ago from Puerto Rico

      Important those two last statements. I totally agree. (1 statement) You have to distinguish between control and abuse. And I really meant that we need a man who can take control in difficult situations and take control of us when we are in our 'special' moments cause I have to accept we really are a project for men. We tend to have our moments where we drive men crazy. (2 statement) You must have a limit when it comes to looking for older men. Avoiding to feel like raising a big baby you can end up taking care of an old baby.

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      Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

      "Generally we need a man that either controls us or contends with us. A man that can listen and learn from us but shows us more than we can show them. One that can cover his and our expenses or at least his own, but never make us cover his. In other words, generally we look for a man who is besides us or a few steps ahead of us. And that is why we prefer older men."

      Exactly! As long as these men know the difference between "abuse" and "control," all should be well.

      I must add this: Women, please do not "shop" for older guys "at the nursing home. " You will end up buying size 20 geriatric diapers! No offense is intended, only truth. But, if you love it, go for it!

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      Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

      "When you find a man that is not mature it feels like you are raising a child of your own. They can't make their own decisions, they lack of confidence and courage to perform their duties and responsibility is not included on their vocabulary. With older men it is totally different, they tend to have experiences which give them confidence and they tend to take action under difficult situations instead of pulling their hairs off their heads waiting for us or 'mommy' to come and solve for them."

      "How true! When I think about the many women who are caring for children singlehandedly, I know that some of this is due to immature men who do not assume responsibility for their children."

      I do not like older men who use woman for their youth, but I do appreciate older men who have honorable intentions.