5 Reasons to Stop Nagging
A study by Everyman, a health campaign group, which covered over 3000 respondents revealed that women on average spend 8000 minutes in a year just nagging their spouses.
You read it right, that translates to over 133 hours or roughly 5.5 days of wasted time. The top reasons on why women nag include; 1) the husband not helping in house cleaning, 2) not doing the dishes and, 3) drinking alcohol.
Some people cannot help it and though women get a bad rep for doing it, men are equally guilty of this nasty habit. Nevertheless, nagging should never be a go-to resort when another person slacks.
You may have reasons to nag but there are other ways to do job without resorting to nagging.
Why do we nag?
People nag for different reasons: washing the dishes, cleaning, putting clothes in the hamper, leaving the toilet seat up and so many others. In short, nagging basically centers around not doing and not doing another's share in keeping the household. More often, you nag to scold someone so he will do something he does want to do.
It really boils down to making an effective way to make someone responsible for certain household tasks. If a person does not want to do his part, nagging will not likely make him to. It depends on the situation and the personality of the person what will make him do things around the house and nagging is definitely not one of them.
1. Nagging seldom works.
Most people do not like to be told what to do and when to do something especially when it comes to doing household chores or when trying to convince a partner to modify a behavior. Teenagers resent this, how much more for an adult?
If a person needs constant reminders to make himself useful it can backfire. Unless a person is convinced that doing it is for his own good, it will only help to create a strained relation between those affected.
2. Nagging irritates people
Bad news, everyone hates it, but still many do it. Some get offended, insulted and it even makes a person feel like a little child needing to be told what, when and how to do things.
Surely you don't want to act like his mother telling him to do the simplest task each time. Spare your partner from the same ordeal. Nagging is counterproductive.
If someone is a big time slacker, try communicating in a more mature way. Try positive reinforcement. If this fails, maybe it's time to ask for serious counselling help or better put an end to your one-sided relationship.make concessions or compromises when it comes to who does what.
3. No one likes to be nagged
Initially, it can make someone spring into action. Though it works sometimes, it breeds resentment or animosity between two people. One study by US researchers found that the constant nagging caused such mental fatigue that men have no other choice but to give in. A person may give in when he is too tired to oppose or just want want to have some peace.
Endless nagging could also turn someone 'nag-resistant'. According to a study conducted in Duke University, nagging can be a real threat to someone with control issues.
In a husband's case, nagging may even be perceived as a threat to his autonomy. It is possible to tell someone that you need things done but try to do it without nagging. There are definitely ways to make someone do something without him thinking it is your idea.
4. Nagging breeds resentment
Constant nagging destroys any relationship you may have. The person being nagged would most likely get defensive about it. It is simply human nature to resist something we are constantly pushed to do.
On one hand, the person who nags will end up getting frustrated and unconsciously begins to view the other differently. Nagging is the fastest way to drag two people apart.
5. It chips the walls of a loving relationship
Who would want to be with someone who sees only your negative side and proceeds to nag about it each chance. Really, life is not about the tiny details. It should be enjoyed and not allow the the nitty gritty to get to your nerves each time. Maintaining an affectionate atmosphere in any kind of relationship is hard enough but when you do nag, you are literally driving the other person away a little each time.