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Willpower - it's everywhere!

Updated on January 15, 2011

The idea for this hub came to me last night - an epiphany I suppose you could call it - something like an inspirational thought. It was also inspired by a follower I got on Twitter.

I'm not sure it is fully coherent but I write it anyway.

I was thinking about WILLPOWER, how it rules lives everywhere and is expressed as a desire to act or think as we want to act or think for our goals despite what everyone else is telling us to do.

Is it like an undercurrent? Perhaps, and perhaps it is stronger than we think?

Perhaps, willpower comes from our authentic self - what we really think and feel and our goals rather than what others are trying to get us to think, feel and do.

It lives between our relationships making it's presence felt behind the scenes of conversation, interactions, questions and answers...and so it should, where would we be without it!

Do any of us actually change our minds or goals based on what others want us to do? I don't think so.

Do you ever agree with another person just to appease them while you are thinking something else?

This is called the Abilene paradox. See  this hub:

Sometimes we deny our will, other times we might impose it on others inappropriately.

WILLPOWER is an ever-present force and can limit our awareness when we speak to others as if he or she will just accept our opinion or what we have to say rather than getting to really know another person and finding out what really makes him or her tick, what their goals are, why they don't agree with us, what they like, why they will not see things our way which is everyone's prerogative anyway.

To do that side of the equation is hard detective work but if we do it our eyes might really open and we might really see others rather than living in a delusional world of what we want others to be.

We should give everyone this chance to trually follow their goals if they are not hurting anyone in the process. That way we can meet each other and find common ground without any pushing and shoving.

The reverse is a tragedy because it is human distortion if we expect others to be something we want them to be or change their goals just for us.

"The old way is to push, push, push. The new way is to simply allow. Life supports you if you allow it. Relax into the new way, why not?" Kristopher Raphael


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      drbj and sherry 7 years ago from south Florida

      Thank you, pd, somehow I missed that link - must be my CRS surfacing again (Can't Remember S...t). "Playing in the recesses of your mind?" What a great phrase. P.S. I've linked your hub to mine, also.

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      Author 7 years ago

      Energy advisor thanks for letting us in on this view of willpower from the belly. For me that opens up the issue on when we might need to control our willpower/the energy beam or at least transform it into acceptable outlets. That's my question to you. Thanks for dropping by.

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      Author 7 years ago

      drbj, I read your Abilene hub and it was also playing in the recesses of my mind when I wrote this one. I've put in a link to the Abilene hub here. Thanks. You are the man when it comes to these subjects!

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      EnergyAdvisor 7 years ago from The nearest planet to Venus

      For me, willpower is not the will, want and intending in our heads. Willpower is more, it's energetic. Like Qi or the "Intent" from the shamans. It is the force that gives purpose. The other wanting and willing are just to nourishing the ego and keeping it in place. True will stems from the belly like an energy beam.

      thanks for the share;)

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      drbj and sherry 7 years ago from south Florida

      Hi, pd - you stated "Do you ever agree with another person just to appease them while you are thinking something else?" That is precisely the subject I wrote about in my hub: Abilene Paradox - Why Do We Say Yes When We Mean No. There are a number of factors behind our behavior and lack of willpower or assertiveness is often the reason.