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Women Who Change Gay Men Straight And Women Who Change Straight Men Gay
This is a phenomenon that scares some gay and all homophobic men. It’s quite simple when you understand sexuality and how it works.
First of all, there are very few people who are 100% heterosexual or homosexual. Most people are bi-sexual, meaning they find both the opposite as well as their own gender sexually appealing. People will deny it but it is true. When you understand this it makes the title a bit more understandable.
In some cultures it is acceptable to be whatever you want to be with no sexual hang-ups. These people are psychologically healthier than those in countries with religious handcuffs. People are born attracted to one or both sides and trying to reprogram the brain only does harm.
Myths about sexuality
Not all gay men are effeminate and not all effeminate men are gay. Some behavior is learned while some is genetic. Having a father who is effeminate can produce a son who is as well. Men who are raised primarily by women and having mostly sisters will have more feminine traits.
Effeminate men can be bisexual but not always.
Not all macho/butch men are heterosexual. That manly guy who drives a truck, is covered in tattoos and seldom bathes could be gay. Only his lovers can tell the tale.
Men who aren’t interested in women are not all gay.
Some men are into objects (blow up dolls, cars or even structures); some are asexual or have medical conditions that hinder sex or the interest of it.
You cannot automatically tell a man is homosexual by looking at him.
Usually men who speak the loudest against gay men are in denial about their bisexuality, the side of them who are attracted to men scares them to death. Many are religiously brainwashed into thinking homosexuality is bad and the thought of someone changing them into one gives them nightmares.
Most totally straight men don’t care and have no problem with homosexuals. They just ignore them… because they can. Homophobes have feelings that make them uncomfortable so they can’t ignore gay men. They think if they extinguish these people it will go away when the fact of the matter is: what they fear most is themselves and their unwelcome feelings.
Women who turn gay men straight
Somewhere out there is a woman some gay men fear, she’s the one who could change him or his lover’s mind about his orientation. These guys are not totally gay to begin with so “turning or changing” is not really accurate.
I emphasize the word “some” because not all men have this worry, most don’t care and some find it amusing or even intriguing that a woman could change his mind about who he loves or beds.
For the record, most women who do this do not have an agenda to change the world one man at a time... it just happens. Some of them are aware they have this ability and some can only change a few or even one man but it does happen. She doesn’t have a certain look or appeal so you can’t pick her out of a crowd. She is whatever that particular man needs or wants, usually easy to talk to and makes him feel at ease.
It usually starts out as a friendship and this is why bisexual lovers will sometimes forbid their partner from having female companions. Secure completely gay men seldom have a problem with this so if you, your partner or your friend’s lover has a problem with this type friendship he is more than likely bisexual.
Some women don’t get along well with other women and prefer the company of gay men. They feel safe in a relationship where there will be no sexual tension but on rare occasions these friendships become more if he is bi-sexual.
Women who change straight men gay
Again, these guys are bi-sexual to start with and what happens is that after being married for a while or long-term relationships with a woman, some men will start to have a curiosity about a same sex encounter.
Sometimes they aren’t getting what they want in their sex life or they aren’t getting enough. They know men are usually more sexually open to new things and have more desire so they start to experiment.
They usually still love their wife or girlfriend they just aren’t happy sexually. Some men can only be happy when having sex with both sides of the coin and some are just bored with what is going on in their conjugal bed.
Many don’t want a separation they just want a fling on the side but some hope they will be caught because they aren’t really happy in their current relationship
There are many marriages today with open relationships where the wife turns a blind eye to her husband’s philandering on the side. Some think they are having affairs with women while some simply don’t care as long as he leaves her alone. These women don’t like sex and are possibly bi-sexual themselves but I won’t go into that right now.
Women who habitually find themselves with men who later turn gay can feel frustrated. There are a few reasons this keeps happening.
a) You are attracted to bi-sexual men and you aren’t fulfilling his sexual needs.
b) You could be bi-sexual as well and not really into men and prefer women.
c) You don’t like sex at all regardless who the partner is and you subconsciously choose men who are mostly gay feeling safe from that aspect of a relationship.
This is a ridiculous notion. You cannot stop a person from being attracted to someone. Just like you can’t take a completely heterosexual man and force him to be attracted to other men. It doesn’t work that way.
We are born having desire for one gender or both, putting a person through rigorous brain washing will only cause them to go crazy.
Some who are bi-sexual can be guilted into keeping their actions at bay, but I assure you their mind is still saying what it wants. In fact it tends to work like telling a child to not think about candy.
Celibacy is not true reform.