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Women and Understanding them
Women can seem complicated and men have know idea on how to react or handle situations when it comes to women in their relationships.
Many men have tried to concur but have failed dismally due to the fact that they do not understand women and how to treat them.
Females are seen as emotional, complicated and irrational human beings but that is only because men do not fully understand how the mind of a woman works.
As men and women are very different in many ways, you will find that they are not as complicated as you think, you only need to understand them and once you do, then things will go smoothly for you in a relationship with a partner, friendships and even work colleagues too.
Women and Emotions
Women are emotional! They cry in movies, they laugh at funny jokes and they want to feel loved and connected.
You might find her telling you something with tears in her eyes and you have no idea on how to react. Some men will run away, others will wonder why there are tears and very few will hold her and let her know that everything will be alright.
To console a women is to understand why she is crying in the first place. Naturally if she is not happy with something, she will sulk and keep it in but there will be a moment where she will need to let you know that she is not happy and you need to be able to console her not judge her.
Women also get very emotional and sensitive a week before their periods and during and a few days after too. During this time you need to just back off, give her the remote and understand that she will be sensitive to anything at this time. If she wants a hug, give her one and should she be a little teary eyed about something then just be there to hold her.
Women love love and love to be loved!
They want to feel adored, they want to be comforted and they need you to make them feel this way.
Outbursts of what you might classify as "crazy" is triggered off by something that you have done or by having a bad day in general. They need an outlet for their emotions and if they have not been able to emote at work, then be prepared because it has to be released in some way and soon.
Many women keep in their emotions for a while and if something about you or what you have done bothers them, they will eventually have to let you know and you might think that she is going crazy about one thing when she suddenly brings up something that has happened weeks ago. You might have forgotten about it but she has not and if she didn't get the opportunity to talk to you about it then, she will do it at some stage anyway.
What Women Want
All women have the idea that love is like what you see in the movies.
Romance and a man that will love and adore her. They also want a knight in shining armour and a man that will make them feel safe, protected and will defend their honour.
Sadly life is not like it is in the movies and the modern day woman just wants a man that will be faithful, honest, loving, respectful and most importantly someone that can be their best friend and the person that they can talk to, at anytime about anything.
Women want to feel loved and be loved. They need you to cuddle and allow them to lay their heads on your chest in a "chick flick."
They want you to listen and let them know that everything will be alright and they need a shoulder to cry on.
Women want to feel adored and you need to let them know that they are the best thing in your life at all times and that you appreciate them.
You do not have to shower them with gifts at all times (although they love it) but you do need to shower them with love and affection.
Everyone deserves respect and your woman should be treated with respect. If you don't have any then don't date her.
When you first date a woman, you meet her at the front door, open the car door for her and introduce her to everyone that you know. You listen to her and get to know her with signs of interest but after dating for a while, men tend to take their women for granted and the things you first started doing are not things that you do anymore.
Buying flowers for no reason, taking her out often, holding her hand and giving her all your attention are things that tend to fade out after dating for a while.
Always keep your relationship fresh and treat her as if it is the first time that you are dating, then you will keep her happy.
Respect her decisions and her opinions as she also has the right to be heard and to do what she feels is right.
Always make her feel important and never talk down to her as if she is a lesser being than you.
Honesty in relationships
Women want a man that has the courage to be honest at all times. She needs to know that you are telling her the truth, even if it hurts.
A woman also has a sixth sense and can tell when you are lying or being untruthful, so don't try to deny or lie because deep down she will know.
When she asks you if she looks okay, this could be a tricky situation because she does want to know the truth but at the same time she will be a little offended if you tell her that she doesn't look okay.
It is in the way that you say it which will make the world of difference. Gently let her know that she looks nice but you are not a fan of the dress, makeup or shoe choice.
If she asks you whether she looks fat or not; Honestly, if it is just before you go out then it means that she has taken two hours to get ready, a little white lie won't do any harm and she will feel good going out. She probably already knows that she looks fat and it is your job to just make her feel confident and sexy so that you can go out and have fun. By answering with the truth, you will just delay your night out and she will end up feeling miserable, uncomfortable and angry with herself, which means she will take it out on you.
Women want to let you know when they are not happy and it is great to be able to communicate with your partner without having to be afraid to say something.
It should work both ways and you should always be honest no matter what. Be gentle when being honest and understand that women are emotional.
What does it mean when a women sulks and says never mind?
Love and Women
Women love to be loved and they want to feel adored all the time. They need love, adoration and lots of hugs and kisses.
She wants to know that when she kisses you, there is a magnetic feeling and when you look into her eyes, there is love and attraction.
They want a man that can make them feel good about themselves and they need attention all the time. Even if they say they don't, they really do.
A woman needs to be held, to be listened to and to feel loved. If they don't feel it, then life with her will be miserable and what's the sense in that?
You do not have to go out all the time but it is important to keep the dating alive so that she has a chance to get your undivided attention. This is the opportunity for her to get dressed up and to be told that she looks good, to be heard and to be treated like a lady that you are proud to be out with.
She needs to be held and when there is a bad day, you need to be there to comfort her and make her feel that the day doesn't matter because she is loved by you.
Communication with a Woman
Women love to talk and they need to air out their opinions, views and issues. They need to know where you stand and should they not be happy with something, they need to let you know.
How it comes out depends on you. If you are a man that closes off and runs away when there is something wrong, then your woman will keep whatever it is that is bothering her inside until she erupts and forces it out. You might not even know what she is talking about because it is something that happened a while ago but she needs to let it out.
Should you be a man that listens and communicates with your partner all the time, then you probably will not have any of these issues to deal with.
Communication is important and listening is extremely important to her. If there is a problem she wants to resolve it as soon as she can, she needs to know that you understand and you need to be able to work on it together, without conflict.
If there is something that you are not happy with, then speak about it. Should there be something that you are happy with, then talk about it.
Talk, talk and listen.
Women need love and want to feel loved, adored and as if they are the most important person to you.
They want to feel safe and have someone that they can trust, be honest with and be defended by.
Females are emotional and need attention, affection and someone to listen to and speak to.
As long as you show love and understanding, then she will act the same.
How to Respond to an Emotional Woman
When a woman is emotional the first thing that you need to do is to be COMPASSIONATE.
Showing compassion will make her feel a little better and if you could go further and ask if there is anything that you could do to make her feel better, would help a lot.
Those that leave her to cry or ask her why she is crying in anger, will get nothing but more emotion from her.
Emotional women need tender loving care and lots of hugs. If it is because of you that she is crying then it is best to leave her for a bit and then go and resolve the issue without playing the blame game.
Should she be angry and shout at you for what you think is no reason, realise that there must be a reason why she is angry and it is probable that she is angry with you or because of something that you have or have not done.
REMAIN calm and ask her if there is a way to fix the situation without anger and rage.
If you have looked at another woman the chances are that she has noticed you looking and if you are questioned about it, don't deny looking. Be honest and the truth is that she will not mind if you have noticed a good looking woman, as long as you are honest.
If she is sulking and does not want to speak to you then leave her alone. You must know why she has suddenly started to sulk or give you the silent treatment and the only way to fix that is to apologise or explain.
Being a Women's best friend
Women love to talk, listen, shop and cuddle. They want you to come with them when they go shopping but they do not mind if you stay at home, especially if you are impatient.
They love to talk and love to listen and will want to tell you every detail of the days events but will get angry if you are not showing interest in the conversation. It is also wise to let them know about your day and the trick to a happy and healthy relationship is to be best friends, who can tell each other anything, including how you feel or don't feel.
They enjoy sad and dramatic movies and will watch the action ones that you choose but allow for "girlie" time too and don't forget to cuddle whilst watching the movie because they want to feel close to you in this emotional movie.
How women think
Women are not as complicated as you think but they are intelligent and they do possess "esp."
They know when you are up to something, when you are hiding something or whether you love them or not.
Should you not be affectionate enough and show no interest then they will think that you are cheating or that you do not love them enough.
If you are not interested in taking them out at anytime then they will think that you are ashamed of your relationship or that you are uninterested in having social time with them.
A woman that has a boyfriend or husband that is continuously on his phone, out with friends or always on line, will become suspicious if you do not have an open relationship which means sharing every thought, call and conversation that you have.
Men that drink too much are hiding themselves in the bottle and trying to avoid conversation.
Men that do not help out around the house are lazy and take you for granted which means that she will eventually get sick of doing everything for you and will want to look for better options.
Men who have lots of girls as friends are wanting to or have slept with them and this will not be good for your relationship.
Should you forget a birthday or anniversary than it means that you do not care and love her.
Men who deny looking at a beautiful women are not trustworthy and this will get her thinking that you are not honest, which means you will not be faithful.
Should you be the guy that talks to her and listens even when you don't want to then you are off to a fantastic start.
Adoration and concern will keep her interested as well as lots of affection. Keep your eyes closed when you kiss her or that will mean that you do not love her and you are not in the moment with her.