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Understanding Women and Cheating

Updated on January 31, 2015

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Understanding cheating among women

Cheating is a complex activity because when you cheat, you also tell a lie and be deceptive. What comprises cheating? it might be physical (one night stand), emotional cheating (internet, flirting). You cheat when you are in a committed relationship and you know that your partner doesn’t like what you're doing and you still doing it. A case in point is when your partner doesn’t approve of you chatting with other women and you still do it, then that’s it. Agreement and talking what is admissible to your partner is important. In short, respect should be there always. Talking about your problem with your partner is very important at the very start so as your partner will avoid seeking comfort in others arms. The whole gamut of the definition of cheating is wide and it needs another article just to define it, but in my opinion cheating is cheating is cheating and there’s no justification for it.

Understanding women who cheat

Human behavior is a factor of the five basic social institution, family, education, religion, community, economy. It has been said that we are a product of the society in which we live in. Very crucial are the circumstances in which we were raised, moral values in the family, the community in which we live in, and factoring the economy, we are a by product of the current mode of production, meaning as society becomes more industrialized, people become more technologically advance and it does indeed promote cheating because of the easier mode of communication like cell phone, internet etc. Cheating becomes tantamount to just clicking your fingers. It becomes faster and easy. Experiences in life plays a major factor in the way we think, react or behave. On the other hand, since we are in full control of our own behavior, we can avoid cheating. Cheating is very destructive form of behavior which shakes the foundation of a relationship (issues of trust). Sometimes, it cannot survive it, but true love prevails and it understand and stand the test of times.

In the recent decade, there is an increase on cheating on the part of women comparing to men. In the past, it has been said that there are more men who are cheating than women. If this is true, then we may ask the question, whom are the men cheating with? Of course women, dummy. Whatever the reasons for cheating, it can never be justified, some would say “you can never tell unless you’re in their situation“. Many people will not agree to this statement. As human beings we always try to be good, whatever obstacles and problems we have during the course of life, we have the will to change it, we may never change what in the past, we can change the way we look at it. Surely we can look at it in a positive way.

Mostly, we want to know why do women cheat because women in our society still is considered the caretaker of the family. They are still the major nurturer of children and once they are emotionally challenged and they cheat, the whole foundation of family crumbles.


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      godfrey 6 years ago from California

      DarkHorse, It is obvious that the issue of cheating is a salient area of vexation for you. The great thing is that you have a large contingent of company. The real omission in the discourse is what instigates departure from fidelity; which is what I think you mean by CHEATING. I personally find the word disturbing: it means very little. The larger question should be whether sex means love. Conflating the two is a serious mistake. Another component that merits examination is whether people are actually capable of the vows they take. Is it natural? Another question is whether people are transcendent of social chains or purely subservient to social abstractions. The final question pertains to the psychological health of members of society and their level of intellectual curiosity. There are so many questions. The investment of ego in social norms is a huge problem for a vast majority of people. One can detect this in weddings. It is sad how far people will go to deceive themselves for social ego. No wonder they fall apart when nature takes its course. Of course people WILL stray. They lied to themselves. Social constraints are a plasticized disservice to the essential nature of humans. PS: People are NOT bad people just because they express their sexual desires beyond their relational bounds. SEX IS NOT LOVE. Finally, it is crucial to note that boundaries are the abstraction; physical desires are REAL. Distance is the best remedy for relationships.

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      Tony 8 years ago from At the Gemba

      High PDH, what are you doing later??? Hehehehehe

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      yes hehe, morning chicago, Maita

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      Chicagovision 8 years ago from Chicago

      Crazy stuff

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      Hey T, yes it is scary, take care, maita

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      Truth From Truth 8 years ago from Michigan

      I seem to have missed this one also. This had great information, they I hope I never need. Enjoy your weekend.

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      hi coolmon, thanks for dropping by, Maita

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      Coolmon2009 8 years ago from Texas, USA

      Well written, and informative

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      hi Wag the Dog, you are most definitely correct in your opinion, i totally agree with what you said! thanks for dropping by!

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      hi disturbia! good, you have done counseling about it, and at least you are working on it too, it is painful being cheated on, I know the feeling too, but either you choose to be with him again or not, you just need to move on....have a good day, thnaks for reading this one

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      Disturbia 8 years ago

      Oh baby do I know first hand how much it can hurt when your husband is chatting up women on the internet. I have vented my anger in a dozen poems that I have put in my hubs and been to counseling with my husband over it. Just because they are not physical doesn't mean there is no emotional betrayal. I agree, cheating is cheating is cheating! Excellent hub!

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      Wag The Dog 8 years ago

      It is due to a lack of Love. Those who cheat do not love, nor do they know the meaning of the word. They are selfish. They only care about "self". If they understood the meaning and concept of Love, they would not feel the desire to cheat. FYI. Love is self-less. It is not "What's in it for me?" It is when one sacrifices for another without wanting anything in return. All the other stuff, upbringing, socio economic statis, education, location, ease of access, and lust, are nothing more than excuses. One chooses to cheat. Or, one chooses to Love. It is a choice. Not a product of ones circumstances. If you cheat, or are considering cheating, ask yourself, "Do I Love the person I am going to cheat on?" If so, then ask yourself, "How can I show them the Love that I have for them?" I do not think that the answer will be that you should cheat. Keep in mind that it is a choice. You can choose to Love.

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      hi there, i respect your point of view. people has different take about cheating, our society here in the US is more permissible than other society. Peoples behavior is affected by the religion and the moral values he/she grew up, but of course we do have our own decisions for ourselves. Cheating is done when your partner would not approved of it, otherwise it is not cheating. thank you for being my fan

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      loua 8 years ago from Elsewhere, visiting Earth ~ the segregated community planet

      I don't know about this the whole concept, it is nebulous, its saying that you can't have any feelings other than what you commit too...

      What on earth is consistent? Do you want people to be static and solid in one area of social activity but in others their suppose to be dynamic and role with the punches...

      What are the options? This is the issue if not cheating what?

      Its a Freudean world ~ sex and self...

      Great article though... Very emotionally charged...

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      hi J. McCoy: thanks for reading this hub! we have the same take on the issue, and we are also new here, cheers and hope to read more articles from you..

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      J. McCoy 8 years ago from CA (originally)

      I like your definition of cheating and I certainly agree with your perspective.

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      to ralwus: yes other say it is lust, while it is varied of course for different women. mostly women cheat for emotional purposes.

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      to reiki; thanks fir reading this, this is my opinion, cheating is between the couple I mean, if you know that your partner will get hurt then, you should stop doing things which will hurt them. it is a matter of talking and laying down your expectations, respect should always be there..

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      Reiki 8 years ago

      So many people have written hub on women and cheating but this one is the best you are saying it loudly "is cheating is cheating" i am so impressed with that those who are thinking they are chatting on the internet and never see that person actually is a cheating isn't it...

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      ralwus 8 years ago

      It is lust. The only justification, and boy have I had it. Still there somewhere too. And wifey knows alla bout it.


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