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"Would You Like To Choose Your Children Mates"?

Updated on April 12, 2011

"Would You Like To Choose Your Children Mates?"

Would you like to choose your children mates, since you have the expereikence it might would make it better for them .
Would you like to choose your children mates, since you have the expereikence it might would make it better for them .

"Would You Like To Choose Your Children Mates?"

Wouldn't it be Nice if we could pick and choose a mate for our children, I know it sounds crazy but when we look at the pain and frustration of our children going through bad relationships and heart break; mothers want to help their children find happiness. I decided to write this hub after listening to my three daughters vent about bad mates, poor choices and bad relationships. I'm sure that all mothers feel exactly like I do , we want our children to be with someone that's going to bring them extreme joy and happiness. I know for a fact that there is not one mother out there that wouldn't pick or choose a mate for her son or daughter if that would make them happy; if they had a choice in the matter.

I think the mothers are more in tune to; what their children want and need in a relationship than the fathers, because the fathers are out making money and making sure everything goes as planned. Moms are home watching their children grow up and get hurt and disappointed with the wrong men and women that comes into their lives and mothers relive the pain and heart breaks that their children go through each time a relationship end. Mothers know what their children want because the children tell them : Mom, all I want is just one guy to love me, accept me for who I am and treat me with respect as an equal. Mothers listen to their children with bated breath and the only things mothers want to do is help find their child's Mr. Or Miss Right that their child want and need in their lives now. Before any of you think I'm loony tunes, I know, I can't pick or choose for my children; but if I could, I would because it would be less wear and tear on all of us.

What I'm writing about really doesn't happen in our culture; but if it did, there would be more happier children and better relationships. I know there's not one mother out there , that hadn't wished that she could find a good man that's worthy of her daughters love or a good women to make her son happy. There's not a mother alive that wouldn't replace her child's pain and heart break with everlasting joy and happiness if they could. The reality is that all mothers have to accept that we can't fix it for our children; but we would really love too, if it was in our power...because we love our children and want them happy if at all possible. We know that other countries rearrange or fix up marriages all the time and some maybe even last, but that doesn't work in the United states because we have the freedom to choose.....Thank God. I guess that having a choice makes it all worth while. Hypothetical, if I did a personal for my daughters, it would read: A loving mother in-law, looking for a godly, loving,caring and understanding son in- law, for my wonderful daughter, looking for a son in-law that would love, protect her and fill her heart with joy and happiness and above all ...give her the desires of her ad make her feel like his queen.

My personal ad I would place for my son ; would read like this: A loving mother in-law , looking for a godly, loving, unde4rstanding and caring daughter in-law to put a never ending smile on my son face and give him all that he needs to make him feel like a man and king in his own castle; someone that can cook delicious and tasty meals and want to have children. This is what I would love to happen; but I got enough sense to know that this type of scenario, only happen in fairy tales... but can't a mother wish and hope for the best for her children, even though she can't pick or choose their life's mate. A mother can pray  real hard, that God send her children exactly who they need in their lives.

Benny Faye Douglass(C) Copyright 2011


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    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      momachipmonk, I feel the same but we both know we can't choose for or children, even though, we probably would pick beter mates for them. Unfortunately they also have to choose for themselves just as we did. Thank you for your comment and visit. Godsped, creativeone59

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      6 years ago

      Yes I would because I have a beautiful daughter that is socially akward and we live in a very rural area and limited introductions.

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you dahoglund,for your visit and comment, I thought about all the pain and heart break that out children go through so no one want that for their children, Like I said, it was just a passing thought. Thank you for your honesty. Godspeed. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you for your visit and comment Micky,we know we can't choose for them, they have get their own experiences,but it was just a thought. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Don A. Hoglund 

      7 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

      As a father I would not want to choose my children's mates, nor their vocations. I say this because I would not want someone else choosing these things for me. Some support in making these decisions would be nice.

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      Micky Dee 

      7 years ago

      I wish I could. I can't choose my own. God bless your family Faye.

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Sweet Ruby,thank you for your visit and commenton understanding why I wrote this paricular hub. I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      7 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Wouldn't it be super if our children got the perfect mates? All we can do is hope and pray. I like your thoughts. Thank you for sharing.

      Happy Smiles

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you so much Eiddwen, for relating to what my hub is all about. I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Hello, I totally agree with you. Thanks for your visit and commenmt. Bless you. creativeone59

    • Eiddwen profile image


      7 years ago from Wales


      A great hub and yes you are so right, this is just what every caring mother would wish for but unfortunatly life isn't that straightforward.

      Thank you so much for sharing this oh so true hub.

      I rate it up and up.

      Take care


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      Hello, hello, 

      7 years ago from London, UK

      Well written and I can see a big loving heart in it but with all the well meaning indention, including me, you can't into a person even if you can be mlore objective. Also people cn change so much. It only takes 10 minutes in the wrong company and they are lost.


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