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Would you tell your Friend about their Cheating Partner?

Updated on April 6, 2017
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Friendships

Telling a friend about the cheating partner could make, or break your friendship.

Sometimes, telling a friend about their cheating partner may not be such a good idea.

What happens afterward?

Do you think children from cheating marriages will follow in the same footsteps?

Will telling your friend ruin your friendship?

When a friend is being treated with such disrespect by their partner, the whole cheating act can be hurtful and is a completely wrong act.

The friend would be distraught by the whole affair, and you will have to face up to a greater challenge.

Your friend is not aware of the affair, and continues to trust their partner thinking they are in a good marriage, or relationship.

It is not your fault your friend is affected by adultery.

In telling your friend all feels and seems like the right thing to do. Overall, it is not the best of ideas to blurt out to a friend of the affair.

You could try to focus on what you think is better to do, but the outlook of the act won't see fit.

You think you are doing right by telling your friend of the affair but you are doing more wrong than right.

How would you handle such in certainties about the affair?

Would you do the right act or the best act?

Are you comfortable in telling your friend of their cheating partner?

You want to be faithful friend and guide your friend in a cheating situation. Such decisions can be most difficult.

It is your friend's life, and marriage, not yours.

What would my friend want me to do?

Respect the wishes of others.

I won't mention a word!

I am not the kind of person who would go up to a friend and tattle about her cheating partner.

Whatever goes on with a couple is their problem.

It would be the worst if I had to say anything to a friend.

What if the friend tells me they have a certain understanding about the affair issues?

The problem is sorted out and both have an arrangement.

What would I then have say to all of that?

I know I would feel like a fool if I said anything.

Poking my nose in someone else's life is not the right attitude.

You may think you are helping your friend when all you are doing is creating more problems.

Your friend is unaware of the affair and you are trying to tell her about it will make a good friendship a bad one.

If your friend is aware of the cheating more options are available.

When you interfere in the lives of others lots can go wrong in the friendship you once treasured.

I think it is better for the friend to find out for his or herself.

The cheating partner must come out with it.

I will offer to be there for my friend. To be a friend, to share ideas or concepts from the experience but will not interfere in any way.

Friends do watch out for each other’s backs, but in a cheating situation it is best for the friend to keep quiet.

It is how I feel about such issues.

In a crisis, it is better to be there to listen and talk about the problem than to tell on each other.

Be able to show an interest and help wherever you can and do so with caution.

The series of events in a marriage allows for strengths and weaknesses to be n and dealt with.

In trying to make other couples' lives fit from your side won't workout.

I don't believe anyone should get involved in these situations.

The couple met and married each other and knew one another well enough to fix their issues. You getting involved will worsen the complex situation.

Everybody has to go through these events.

I would be there to comfort a friend and learn from these experiences.

It is different in the role of a friendship. Friends talk about issues bothering each other, and have secrets if necessary.

Advising your friend is also a different option taken. You can't guide, or develop your friend's life. It is not something you can do as you would when parenting your child.

You can teach your child, and shape your child's development. In a friendship you respect the boundaries of each other.

Avoid stepping over these boundaries.

Respect your steps taken when in a friendship.

The friend won't always find out so easily without anyone bringing the affair to their attention.

It shouldn't be you to tell your friend!

An affair will hurt any member of the family as it would hurt you in the friendship.

It is risky to tell your friend of the affair.

Some individuals will find it as the better idea to tell the friend of the affair.

I feel it is a wrong way of assessing the problem.

Would you confront the cheater?

Confrontation with the cheater can be looked as you are going behind your friend's back. Keeping him, or her out in the dark about the cheating.

You are being disrespectful to your friend.

Your friend has to take charge of their own problems not with you intervening.

Are you able to handle the situation?

How would you assess the cheating issue?

What happens when the couple has a separation agreement, and decide to get back together after a while spent apart?

Where would you be placed?

How would you feel?

Sometimes friends don't want to get into the affairs of friends.

Certain individuals enjoy getting involved in the lives of others.

An example:

A friend found out that her best friend's husband was cheating on her.

She got the cheater to one side of the room and told him that she knows about his affair.

She told the cheating husband there is no way that she will keep the cheating a secret from her best friend.

The cheater did not confess to his wife. In the end the wife found out about the affair from viewing text messages between him and her.

Being a friend shows in your weaknesses and in strengths.

Some friends do feel it is right to tell a friend about their cheating partners.

They feel it shows concern about their well-being.

Friends need support and a true friend can give you that.

Do you see yourself as a good friend, if you tell your friend about their cheating partner?

People cheat so often these days, and you trying to be a good friend in helping out, may not always play a correct role for many couples.

A friend has to know when to get involved in their friend’s lives.

Certain situations are bad.

Once the cheating goes public many lives can be ruined.

What are friends for in life?

Why do you have friends?

Friends supposed to be there for each other throughout all times.

To trust one another with secrets and to be able to social with a free mind.

A friendship requires respect and honesty.

When it comes to such complicated issues, it is best to confide in each other about such problems.

Telling a friend about their partner cheating is not the best idea.

It is not your place to tattle.

You could do more harm than good when tattling.

Nobody asked you, so stay out of it.

It is like you pruning someone else's garden when you haven't been asked to.

These problems don't need you the friend to bud in.

Bud in when you are asked to help out at a bad time.

Couples need to sort out their own issues.

When you wait your turn you show respect for the needs of your friend.

Marriages are not perfect, and sometimes the advice given does not help from a friend, or a family member.

Work out what it is good for you and for your friend.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I have not faced such a situation and hope that I never do. Seems like a lose lose matter for everyone involved. Darned if you do and darned if you do not.

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      dashingscorpio 2 years ago

      I believe it really comes down to how close the friendship is. I have a couple of friends who are very much like my brothers. If I knew for a fact that their girlfriends/wives were cheating on them I would tell them.

      On the other had if the "friend" is more like an acquaintance, co-worker, or an associate I wouldn't feel obligated to tell them anything.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I can't see myself doing this...no way would I tell...but I'm sure there are those who disagree. Interesting topic for sure.

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      Colleen Swan 2 years ago from County Durham

      I wouldn't tell. I would try and work out a strategy whereby my friend would find out about her cheating partner without her knowing I led her there to catch them out.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I would never tell a friend about a cheating partner. Interesting topic..

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      billys1 2 years ago

      I believe that true friends will share the truth with each other no matter how much it hurts. True friends will also be there for each other for support going the extra mile to help each other thru any personal crisis. I believe that is the love that true friends share with each other. Great topic, provides us all with a lot to think about, thanks.

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      Pamela Oglesby 2 years ago from United States

      I don't think I would want to tell my friend something like that. I think sometimes people suspect and will learn anyway. This is a very difficult situation as you know how your friend will hurt when they do learn about the cheating. You made me think about what my reaction might be in such a case, but thank goodness I don't know of one right now.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Not sure what I would do. Hope I never have to find out. Wish there were no cheaters.

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I'm glad that I've never been in this situation. It would be very difficult to make a decision! Thanks for raising the topic, Devika. It's an important one.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker, thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      dashingscorpio I wouldn't! Thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Colleen Swan nicely thought of thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billys1 thank you for sharing your thoughts here, I would not tell.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Pamela99 so kind of you to stop by. I appreciate your clear thoughts here.I would not mention a word, such issues should be encountered in their own ways. Thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora thank you for sharing your mind here

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC, thank you for stopping by.

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      Dave 2 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Devika, what a subject to find an answer too. If you tell a friend about a cheating partner, you could very well be resented for interfering and you would certainly loose the cheating partner. If you do not tell and they find out you knew ,your friend would still resent you. Great subject once more about human emotions, written as always with unique skill. Voted up , interesting and useful.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. I appreciate all votes from you and comments. A topic such as this one is often so difficult to think about. Should you tell or shouldn't you tell? I won't mention a word. Thank you for sharing an opinion.

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      lovedoctor926 2 years ago

      Excellent hub & topic. No, I would definitely not get involved.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi lovedoctor926 thank you and I so agree with you.

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      Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

      No way! there is nothing that would make me tell a friend that their partner was cheating on them! at the end of the day, after they break up, or get back together, you will be the one dropped because the blame will come your way! lol! phew! glad I got that of the old chest! interesting stuff, voted up!

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Nell Rose, so glad you stopped by thank you for all comments. Neither will I!

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      Sunil Kumar Kunnoth 2 years ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

      It is a painful decision to inform the friend about a cheating partner. How to cope with this situation is terrible and vary according to how close our relation stands. I can't give a one word reply to this shocking question. At times I may inform or may not. It depends on my gravity of the friendship and certain other points. Informing and not informing, each has its own pros and cons. It may even damage our friendship. Your selection of topic as always is so great and commendable. Keep on writing. All the best.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Sunilkunnoth2012, Thank you kindly for stopping by here I appreciate your kindness. Always helpful!

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      Nicu 2 years ago from Oradea, Romania

      I think it's better to not get involved in this. It depends on what kind of person it's your friend. But in many cases partners know if they are cheated.

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      Nicu 2 years ago from Oradea, Romania

      I think it's better to not get involved in this. It depends on what kind of person it's your friend. But in many cases partners know if they are cheated.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Romanian thank you for commenting on my hubs I appreciate your time and effort.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Romanian Your comments mean a lot to me thank you.

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      jtrader 2 years ago

      I agree with many of your points. Sometimes your friendship is put in danger while the cheating partner makes it up with the friend and they continue on.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader I appreciate you stopping by thank you

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      Patricia Scott 2 years ago from sunny Florida

      I wish my friend had told ME. My now ex was cheating and my very best friend knew it. She did not tell me until we were divorced. It is a complicated story that I will not go in to but I wish I had been told.

      I am not one who wanted to be 'in the dark' or who would have been in denial.

      You make some valid points here however.

      Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      pstraubie48 thank you for sharing your mind here I appreciate all comments.

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