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YOUNG WOMEN- Do YOU Own Or Are YOU Owned!
The Pluses and Benefits of Being a Young Indepent Woman Who PAYS Her OWN Way In Life
The Minuses and Pitfalls Of Having A Sugar Daddy To Pay YOUR Way In Life
Are YOU A Proactive, Mature Woman Or a Dependent Little Girl?
This is in response to the request by inimitable hubber Dashingscorpio, YOUNG LADIES, BEING AN INDEPENDENT CAREER WOMAN OR "SUGAR BABY" WHICH ONE WOULD YOU CHOOSE AND WHY. Isn't it better for a young woman to be independent, self-supporting, and earning her way than to be someone's sugar baby? The answer to that question is a strong and emphatic yes!
Independent young women have a sense of pride knowing that they possess the wherewithal to take care of themselves. They furthermore feel a sense of accomplishment, knowing that they have achieved their respective goals. They also develop the prerequisite life and survival skills as a result of being independent.
Nothing is more exhilarating to young women's self-confidence levels than to earn their own way in life. Being independent is something to be admired and emulated. Yes, sometimes the path can be rough and tenuous especially when young women are starting out in life. However, if young women are resolute and tenacious regarding their lifepaths and goals, they will eventually achieve them.
Of course, life is not without its adversities, challenges, and difficulties. This is par for the course for without such, one simply does not grow. Adversities, challenges, and difficulties are exercises and life lessons to make one think and evolve as a human being. If life is too easy, one becomes mired in a particular comfort zone, often becoming fearful and/or refusing to grow and evolve until circumstances force such events.
Independent young women possess the prerequisite life and survival skills to thrive in both positive and negative circumstances and situations. They also have the wherewithal to adjust and overcome adverse circumstances. They are not the type of women who complain when life does not go their way. They know how to make a quite deleterious life situation highly advantageous.
These young women have a knowledge of of what they want out of life. They know that planning, strategizing and hard/smart work equals success. They are not afraid to exert the necessary effort to achieve their respective goals. They are also willing to make the necessary sacrifices to achieve their goals. They do not believe in taking the easy way out to be sure.
Independent women are take change women who believe in taking responsibility for their lives and actions. When they succeed, they take the credit for it. However, if they fail, they assess the situation, remedy it, and move on. They adamantly refuse to play the blame game. They are mature enough to acknowledge both their strengths and weaknesses.
Independent women are very proactive regarding their approach to life. In other words, life does not happen to them. They make life happen. They believe in the adage that life is generally what one makes it. They are of the school that one makes his/her own destiny and it is a folly to believe that others make one's destiny.
An independent woman is also empowered. She is empowered knowing that she can take care of herself through thick and thin. She does not have to depend upon anyone else, particularly a man, to support her and buy her the things that she needs and/or wants. She can do that herself, thank you very much. As everyone is well aware-money is power. Since she earns money, she has the power to do whatever she wants in life without answering to anyone. In essence, she owns her life.
An independent woman also possesses inner dignity and resourcefulness. She knows what she works for, no one can take away. She can plummet to the lowest depths, pick up herself up, and start again. In addition to outer power, she possess inner power knowing what she has is HERS and HERS ALONE. She cannot be bought because she is her OWN WOMAN.
A young woman who is a sugar baby or a kept woman who depends upon a man to pay her way through life often has many problems. Yes, he may make her life easier and more luxurious than ti would otherwise be but at what cost. Such a woman often have to compromise in order to keep the relationship afloat.
A young woman who depends upon a man to pay her way is clearly not her own person. A young woman who contends that she is independent although a man is paying her way is sorely mistaken. The man, by virtue of his money, is the dominant one. He exercise the true power in the relationship. In other words, he is pulling the strings, calling the shots, and holding the calling card in the relationship so to speak.
The man who is paying the woman's way in a relationship can tell her what she can and/or cannot do. If the woman decides to protest this, he can inform her that HE is the one paying the bills, not she. He can further interject that if she wishes to be independent, then maybe she should pay HER OWN bills.
A young woman who has a man to pay her way oftentimes have to be at his beck and call. Yes, there is a price to be paid to being a sugar baby and/or kept woman. Such a price is oftentimes sexual. Many sugar babies and/or kept women enter into sexual bargain in order to maintain their lifestyle. Sometimes the women in question enter into such relationships willingly. There are still others whose relationship can be aptly described as a choiceless choice to say the least. Such women know if men pay their way, they have an unspoken expectation in return. In other words, there is definitely no free lunch in this regard.
In addition to sexual compromise, many sugar babies and/or kept women often endure even more intolerable situations such as abuse, either sexual, verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical. These women often believe that they are unable to sufficiently support themselves as is. They contend that although they may suffer a few indignities, the material benefits oftentimes outweigh what negatives that exist in the relationship. They often lead a life of quiet and utter desperation.
Many young woman who are kept love the luxurious lifestyle that they have. They oftentimes believe that they are more advantaged that their counterparts who are socioeconomically struggling and earning their own way in life. They believe if they want something, all they have to do to ask the man to get it for them.
However, there is no equal parity in such relationships. The man has ultimate power over her. He oftentimes view her as an underdeveloped person who does not possess the wherewithal to make decisions on her own. He has the ultimate power of give and take with her. In essence, what he has given to her, he can easily take away from her if certain conditions are not met.
The young woman has little or no power in such relationships. If she does have power, it is often a passive type of power. In other words, there is a strict demarcation of the roles of the sugar baby or kept woman and the man who is supporting her. Of course, the man is the overlord while she is.....well, not. She has to know how to behave around him if she is to get her desserts so to speak. If she does decide to be more assertive and/or independent, there is a very high and harsh price for this assertiveness and independence. So, in order to lead the comfortable life, she often have to stay in line.
Then there is the issue of aging. If the sugar baby or kept woman ages, the man may lose interest in her and look for a new version or he may simply tire of her, pure and simple. Oftentimes, the sugar baby or kept woman do not possess the skills to take care of herself or if she does decide to take care of herself, it would not be at the level she is accustomed to. To say that such a woman would be a dire situation would be the understatement of the millennium.
Many such women become as displaced as a housewife is when she is divorced. Many sugar babies and/or kept women, if they do not have any savings, end up poorly. So they have learn the life and survival skills that they should have learned when they were younger. For many displaced sugar babies and/or kept women, it is many times too little, too late.
In summation, it is far better for a young woman to be independent than to be a sugar baby and/or kept woman. An independent young woman develops the prerequiste life and survival skills to achieve what she wants out of life. She also has the wherewithal to withstand the negative as well as the positive aspect of life.
She also is empowered regarding her own persona. She does not have to depend upon anyone, particularly a man, to support her. Whatever she has is HERS and cannot be taken away from her.
In contrast, a young woman who depends upon a man to support and pay her way has to answer to him. There is no equal parity in the relationship as he has the money and hence, money is equal to power. Because of this power, he can easily dictate what she can and/or cannot do with impunity. If she doth protest, the man can state that she could pay HER OWN bills if she does not like the arrangement.
If the sugar baby or the kept woman gets older or if the man is tired of her and wants a new model, there is going to be QUITE a problem. Woe to the young woman who has no savings, she had to learn certain skills, often starting from the bottom up. She is back where she started. Oftentimes the easy life is one with a very high price. At least, the independent young woman will never encounter such for she has the skills to tide her over through thick and thin.
© 2013 Grace Marguerite Williams