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You Don't Find Love, Love Finds You
Let love find you.
Without love, you're the lonely number one. It's easy for some, it falls in their lap and engulfs their life beginning from the first look to the first date to the decision to make it the final choice to be together - exclusively. For others, regardless of their warmth, beauty, sweet disposition, love evades them like the sun behind a huge grey cloud. Those seems to be the ones who are looking for love.
Love can be such a simple thing. I don't understand why people make it so complicated. There's nothing complicated about true love. It'll find you when you're not looking for it. When you're not waiting for it, when you're not doing anything at all to have it.
Love is a strange yet simplistic phenomenon I've not been able to understand until the past few years. I think after I broke off with my last boyfriend, for the sake of freedom, and realizing his world didn't revolve around me, nor mine around him. It was an intense "like" with almost all the bells and whistles. We'd of been better off not to waste the time and risk passing up the real love of our lives by wasting the time not being just friends. Not friends that have anything more than a conversation about wishing they'd find "the one." Unfortunately I grew bored, he didn't noticed and his heart got broken. Sadly, I wasn't sad for him. Not nice, but we live we learn, and it'll not happen again.
If only young lovers, who are really in it for the lifelong haul, to grow OLD AND GROSS together *smile-laugh* they should recognize and take life seriously so when they part due to a quick attraction that should be passed off as just that. When you ring the cheat bell, it's one that just cannot be un-rung. If someone is the true love in each others lives, my belief is you might see an attraction, but then look back to the one you've already felt the life long love with and never turn away again. If you act on it, the true love that two people would have shared slipped away and there's never going back. Even if you do, you are sadly mistaken.
- This is truly one hard concept for many to grasp.
Some never realize it until it's too late. Some know it, something unknown to the couple can intervene and put the test of two people's love to an ultimate test. How long are you willing to wait for that person?
You met, you fell deeply in love. Each other was in your every waking thought but something separates you. What do you do? Move on for "all intensive purposes" or wait. That's a decision only you can make of course, and take the circumstance as it comes.
- TRUE LOVE WILL NEVER FAIL YOU!
I married at 18 and had a child. Divorced a year later. Yes, I was most definitely heart broken, but that feeling quickly ended when I got my second apartment. Just me and my son. We'd moved from a 2 room flat to a 2 bedroom apartment. Little did I know the true love of my life would walk right up to my doorstep.
It happened to us, we were parted. Not by attraction to another but by chance. Reasons aren't important, but what is, is that we could never forget each other. We spent years before the internet came calling past friends neither of us had contact with anymore either. Neither parents either home or had moved. Sadly his grandparents passed away and the house was sold to people, now we know neither of us knew.
Ah, one day fate stepped in and lent it's, ever so handy hand. Just by chance, just as this young boy walked up to my door, he walked back in my life again just as straight forward as he had 30 years ago. Neither of us had found another love that had lasted, neither of us were happy, until the day we reunited and knew no others were with the proverbial bell that couldn't be un-rung. ALL bells were wiped away as clean as the slate we started with.
Love found us.
In closing, view the couple on the porch swing to the right. Knowing nothing about them, I chose this photo of this elderly couple who could have been together a lifetime, and submitted their photo to free stock photos at the National Geographic website. Just as I have submitted many. It could be a couple such as my story, the could be models just for free stock. They might not even know each other. I used the photo, of course, for the illusion of a couple in love from their youth, throughout their midlife years, never having a problem outside of the norm, into their elder years and when their lives we all hope to live to someday lay next to each other in eternity just as my parents are now in Lake View Cemetery in Waterford Michigan.
I remember as my mother was in her final days, I would step outside her hospital bedroom giving them their last minutes alone, my dad saying; I'm right behind you mama, I love you.
I stepped away, tear in my eye, but knowing while their lives may not have been perfect, in theory it was. They met as young people, married, had children, worked and raised a family, gave their children the American dream - a home, toys, bikes, vacations & visits with their families every summer. Saved money for their retirement and were laid to rest besides each other within 7 years almost to the date in November. I have come to believe that just because marriage vows say "In Death Do Us Part" it doesn't necessarily mean that will be true
Love had found them. Love that endured over 50 years, and all that goes with, they didn't "settle" for each other, love had found them, and it was true love.
Please don't sell yourself short.