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How to let go of someone you care about

Updated on March 3, 2013
a "lifetime" friend!
a "lifetime" friend! | Source

During our lifetime, we meet many people. Some of them become friends or family for life. Others we know only for a short time. Some of these relationships can be intense and leave an imprint on our hearts. Sometimes it's a teacher, religious leader, a boy/girlfriend, a coworker. Often these relationships come to an end. Usually it is a natural ending like summer camp or changing jobs. These are good-byes that are expected. These are good-byes that linger in the back of our minds even as we start. I'd even venture to say that knowledge of the imminent parting helps to sweeten the relationship. If we know we are to be together for only a short time, we strive to make that time as good as it can be. But what of the relationships that end abruptly? The ones that either dwindle into nothingness or just stop...with out warning. How do we handle this? How does it make us feel? Sometimes, quite honestly, it is relief. There was something wrong, not quite right and it was time to move on. But other times, it hurts. It's confusing. You may or may not know what happened or why but you do know that you didn't get to have a say in it. Someone else decided for you. and that can be an interesting feeling, indeed. The following is a collection of sayings, poems and thoughts on letting go.

“Letting go has never been easy, but holding on can be as difficult. Yet strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go.” - Len Santos

Saying good-bye
Saying good-bye | Source

Lost Time

Today I cried....

For: what has left me, what I've lost and what I've thrown away

How time tricked us into thinking there was more. How it tricked us with it's optimistic words; later, tomorrow, next time.

Today I cried for all the tomorrows that time took away

when you left.

"If someone you love hurts you cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it." -Unknown

let go

surrender

don't fight

let go

don't cry

the pain will diminish

in time

like everything

it only hurts in the beginning

"You are responsible for your life. You can’t keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on." - Oprah Winfrey

When I hear a song that reminds me of you

When I see a movie that I know you'd like

When I hear a joke you would think is funny

When I meet a friend that you would admire

When I taste a food that you would savor

I think of you, my friend, my friend

I think of you. It's bittersweet.

Sweet was your smile of anticipation and joy

always at the ready

Bitter was the taste in my mouth when you left

No good-bye, no fare-thee-well, no it was nice

“To be able to move on, one has to learn to forgive not only the person (or people) who have done one wrong but also oneself” - Eugenia Tripputi

"When people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anybody who leaves you, and it doesn't mean that they are bad people. It just means that their part in your story is over."-Unknown

This is probably the hardest part. Not running after someone, begging and pleading. We can take some time to reflect, try to understand what happened but we need to let the other person go. Unless something specific happened, it is probably a natural parting. After the initial shock, it's time to pick yourself up and start over. With all my friends, close and less close, I try to remember and appreciate what was good between us. When I reminisce, I smile, remembering the good, the funny and the fun. I focus on the depth of the friendship and look back on it as my good fortune to have had that person in my life, even if, for only a little while!

Do you know this quote?

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.”
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    • btrbell profile imageAUTHOR

      Randi Benlulu 

      5 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Ah, nighthag, I do know that feeling.....bittersweet, indeed! Thank you so much for the votes and share!

    • btrbell profile imageAUTHOR

      Randi Benlulu 

      5 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Jami, I don't know how I missed our comment before. I am so sorry. I am glad this hub came at the right time for you and I hope it helped! Thank you so much for the votes!! :)

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      K.A.E Grove 

      5 years ago from Australia

      I miss an important friend who has moved on, so this hub brought tears to my eyes, so very bittersweet.

      thank you voting this up and sharing on!

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      Jami Johnson 

      5 years ago from Somewhere amongst the trees in Vermont.

      I really liked this hub, and it came to me at a good point in my life, for that I thank you.

      Voted up, useful and beautiful.

    • btrbell profile imageAUTHOR

      Randi Benlulu 

      5 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you so much, Denise! you are appreciated! :)

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      Denise Handlon 

      5 years ago from North Carolina

      Good points here, Randi. I enjoyed the quotes as well. Up/U sharing.

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      lovedoctor926 

      5 years ago

      my pleasure:)

    • btrbell profile imageAUTHOR

      Randi Benlulu 

      5 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, lovedoctor! I appreciate your stopping by and your comments and vote!

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      lovedoctor926 

      5 years ago

      Excellent. I agree with all the points you made here. This quote is very true. "When people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anybody who leaves you, and it doesn't mean that they are bad people. It just means that their part in your story is over."

      Voting up awesome!

    • btrbell profile imageAUTHOR

      Randi Benlulu 

      5 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Well, Mark if you do, let me know! Because I am batting a thousand!

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      Mark G Weller 

      5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      You do deserve that, I would love to find that myself!

      Mark

    • btrbell profile imageAUTHOR

      Randi Benlulu 

      5 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      You are right, Mark. I just try to remind myself that I deserve someone who wants to be with me, 100%! Thank you for reading and commenting!

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      Mark G Weller 

      5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      These are great thoughts and quotes. It is very hard to let go of someone you loved, cared for, gave all for and move on, but sometimes we just have to accept that that is the reality.

      Mark

    • btrbell profile imageAUTHOR

      Randi Benlulu 

      6 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, doctorulna for reading and your comments! I look forward to sharing our new challenge these next 2 weeks!

    • btrbell profile imageAUTHOR

      Randi Benlulu 

      6 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Valid point! Thank you!

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      Jose Velasquez 

      6 years ago from Lodi, New Jersey

      You have to live each day like it's your last, because tomorrow is never guaranteed. Hug the people you love, make sure you smile each day, and never leave angry.

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