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What is with Younger Women dating or marrying Older Men?

Updated on March 20, 2014
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Anamika S Jain has been a social media consultant for six years. She has written more than 200 articles on relationships and dating.

Older Man Younger Woman Relationships

There are many celebrity married couples where the man is old enough to be the father of the woman. Whether it is younger woman dating older man, older women dating younger men or women getting attracted to already married men, society does not look kindly at the woman in such relationships. Those women are often branded as gold diggers, cougars or the other woman whereas the man in the relationship would be called a ‘stud’ or ‘hero’. While I am not supportive of those ladies who ruin the homes of other woman or those men who leave their wives for younger women, I would give the benefit of doubt for those single women in the other categories that they may have been genuinely in love.

17 Older Man Younger Woman Celebrity Couples

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Ronald Reagan and Nancy Elvis Presley and PriscillaBrad Pitt and Angelina JolieJohn F. Kennedy and JacquelinePrince Charles and Diana SpencerDonald Trump and Marla MaplesPaul McCartney and Nancy Shevell Nicolas Cage and Alice Kim Robert Redford and Sibylle SzaggarsBruce Willis and Emma HemingSylvester Stallone and Jennifer Flavin Steven Tyler and Erin Brady Paul McCartney and Heather MillsHarrison Ford and Minnie DriverCharles Bronson and Kim WeeksTom Cruise and Katie HolmesMichaelDouglas and Catherine Zeta Jones
Ronald Reagan and Nancy
Ronald Reagan and Nancy
Elvis Presley and Priscilla
Elvis Presley and Priscilla
Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie
Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie
John F. Kennedy and Jacqueline
John F. Kennedy and Jacqueline
Prince Charles and Diana Spencer
Prince Charles and Diana Spencer
Donald Trump and Marla Maples
Donald Trump and Marla Maples
Paul McCartney and Nancy Shevell
Paul McCartney and Nancy Shevell
Nicolas Cage and Alice Kim
Nicolas Cage and Alice Kim
Robert Redford and Sibylle Szaggars
Robert Redford and Sibylle Szaggars
Bruce Willis and Emma Heming
Bruce Willis and Emma Heming
Sylvester Stallone and Jennifer Flavin
Sylvester Stallone and Jennifer Flavin
Steven Tyler and Erin Brady
Steven Tyler and Erin Brady
Paul McCartney and Heather Mills
Paul McCartney and Heather Mills
Harrison Ford and Minnie Driver
Harrison Ford and Minnie Driver
Charles Bronson and Kim Weeks
Charles Bronson and Kim Weeks
Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes
Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes
MichaelDouglas and Catherine Zeta Jones
MichaelDouglas and Catherine Zeta Jones

Famous Celebrity Older Man – Younger woman Couples

There are many famous men who married women who are only old enough to be their daughters. Here is a list of some celebrity couples in older man younger woman relationships. I have not listed all of them but a few with a 10+ year’s age difference.

  • Jim Carrey - Jenny McCarthy
  • Elvis Presley - Priscilla
  • Ronald Reagan -Nancy
  • Brad Pitt - Angelina Jolie
  • John F. Kennedy - Jacqueline Bouvier
  • Prince Charles - Diana Spencer
  • Donald Trump - Marla Maples
  • Paul McCartney - Nancy Shevell
  • Nicolas Cage - Alice Kim
  • Robert Redford - Sibylle Szaggars
  • Bruce Willis - Emma Heming
  • Sylvester Stallone - Jennifer Flavin
  • Steven Tyler - Erin Brady
  • Michael Douglas - Catherine Zeta-Jones
  • Paul McCartney - Heather Mills
  • Harrison Ford - Minnie Driver
  • George Hamilton - Kimberly Blackford
  • Charles Bronson - Kim Weeks
  • Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes

Reasons Why some women prefer Older Men for Dating or Marriage

There may be many reasons why a younger woman may prefer to choose an older man. Some of them can be because

  • They may be more matured and responsible.
  • Older men mostly have established Careers or Business which gives the financial stability and comforts a lady desire.
  • Older men tend to be more caring and may pamper her more and also be an authority figure in her life who takes change of things better.
  • They are more reliable and disciplined compared to their young counterparts.
  • They also seem to be more devoted to their partners and normally do not run around flirting or sleeping around with several women.
  • They are more sexually experienced and know to please their partner.
  • They are also knowledgeable because of their own experiences about what makes a relationship work and do not commit the mistakes younger men does.
  • An Older Man may not possess the energy of his younger counterpart and thereby need not be pleased sexually on a daily basis which most woman consider as a positive thing.
  • He also may not want children from you as he might already have some which is definitely a plus for a career oriented woman.
  • He is more knowledgeable because of his age and because of this wisdom he can teach her and make her feel more secure and confident.

If it is not his Qualities which make a younger woman drawn to him then may be she is genuinely in love with him. And love is blind, isn’t it? If it is not love that has attracted her to him then may be she is a Gold Digger who is after his money. What do you think?


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    frenchguy1902 4 years ago

    A good post. I have been reading many similar stories and could never figure out the hype in them. I have been dating a man who is 27 years old that me for over 10 years now. Its the best things that's happened to me.

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    Amanda Jones 4 years ago

    I really want to believe in true and sincere love. Love tyrannizes all the ages!

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    Levertis Steele 5 years ago from Southern Clime

    Many older men are going through severe midlife crises and crave a young woman to make them feel young again. They have fears of aging and are desperate. So, naturally, they will do all in their strength to keep their heat source happy. Women like to feel loved and secure, so these relationships survive sometimes. When the old mate starts losing control of some bodily functions, the grits may hit the fan. Imagine trying to romance an old partner wearing a diaper! At my age I could love and care for a good husband even in a diaper, but is a 28-year old woman ready for that? She has not reached the prime of her life! If he becomes disabled, and she is young, what would be the chances of her cheating on him or even leaving him? Serious problems could lie ahead.

    Many old celebrities leave their aging wives to marry young, beautiful trophies. What is the possibility of those trophies doing the same? They do not have much reason to feel guilty since he did the same. He should understand if he is able to. If he has to go on life support, of course she would pull the plug "because it was his wish." then, she could marry a younger man and share all of that money! Cotton has indeed come to Harlem! Truthfully, all do not end this way, but some do, and you all know it.

    I have had serious talks with my daughter who came to me with the possibility of dating older men who asked her out. I went through an act of congress to get her to see that it could be a mistake. She was curious and found it amusing. A 54-year old man asked my daughter out! At that time my husband was 55. He showered her with gifts that I thought were inexpensive. She went out with him twice and lost intererst. I was happy. I advised her to offer the jewelry back. He refused it and said that it was a gift, not a deposit. She later had the jewelry evaluated and discovered that it was very expensive.

    I do not see the sin of marrying an older mate, but there are some serious disadvantages. If my daughter had been in love, she would not have listened to me.

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    Navin Bk 5 years ago

    I think the age and the money does matter to the couple (for marriage)

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    freewriterguy 5 years ago

    well I get why they marry younger. For me, when i was younger, the girls my age weren't interested in me when I was 18-30 id say, so I spent my time working and getting wealthy so now that Im 47 why the hell would I consider one at my age when they didn't want me at the marrying age? Id still try to marry the younger more sweet, less damaged goods, more respectful, and appreciative younger female, and if I couldn't get one here in America, then Id just marry a younger foreign woman who would appreciate the opportunity that land gives us.

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    Owscar 5 years ago

    The mind does not perceive age! The mind sees potential and possibilities. If the mind can see happiness in a younger relationship that is all that it takes in order to create an environment of love, respect and understanding!!!

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    lh 5 years ago

    I am currently dating someone who is 33 while I am 20. I am still in college while he works as a highly decorated Firefighter at West Point and received medals from helping in 9/11. Our relationship is based on love and respect for each other. Because one is older than the other does not mean maturity and chivalry have gone out the window. My advise to anyone is not to let society tell you dating an older man (within reason) is wrong. I'd like to pose a question to everyone : Some friends, and my parents are unwelcoming to my dating him. Is our age difference really so big and wrong?

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    Levertis Steele 5 years ago from Southern Clime

    Oh, forgot! If you marry an older person who soon tells you that he does not want to socialize with your young friends because it makes him feel uncomfortable, or if he tells you that he is tired of doing things because he does not have your energy, be ready to deal with it. I have seen all of the attitudes I wrote in this and a previous post. This is not to make anyone feel down. It happens, and young spouses need to be aware before they are met with it without warning. I suppose true love like anything else is a chance. All young people are not as mature as they think. Sometimes experience lets them know.

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    Levertis Steele 5 years ago from Southern Clime

    Women like to have a good male figure heading their households. Women want to be loved and desired by a good man. Women love strong men who know how to be leaders, husbands, fathers, and providers. A good woman wants a man who knows that she is a woman. Good women are willing to work to help their providers. Women like having a well-rounded family and a happy, safe home with kids who look like mom and dad and foreparents. Every normal married woman craves such a life with a mature man. Wives want settled and faithful husbands. Even though they may not get all of these, they have a better chance of getting them from older men than younger, who may not be as mature. If there are no skeletons in their closets, like wronging a previous spouse or breaking up a home, who could ask for more?

    Like anything else, there are always disadvantages to marrying a significantly older spouse: short marriage due to death of the aged, problem sharing spouse with children from previous marriage, guilt that destroys the relationship due to previous marriage drama, distrust of spouse because he/she cheated with him/her to build their relationship, regret if real love is discovered to be absent, younger spouse cheating if not sexually satisfied with older spouse, or possible decline in romance due to aging if a medical condition prevents the use of sex enhancers if they are desired.

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    john sodini 5 years ago

    i was on a public transit bus one day, and this underage girl got on the bus and walk to the back where i was sitting, and sat down close to me. and i got the courage to ask her why do girls your age like dating older men. and she reply because guys her are verbally and physically abusive, to girls her age. and she also said she likes older guys because they are nice and sweet.

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    RealLife! 5 years ago

    I read so many stupid articles written by people who want to promote and sell their own intentions. People who marry older people like celebrities also divorce mostly and get out of those relationships after a while. The good things about them is that they can, they are famous, wealthy and don't care about fitting into society norms much. For-example Men over 40s divorced and with kid try dating young girls in their 20s is a bit creepy and indecent. They should rather marry someone who is also divorced with/without kid to help each other’s pain rather than adding pain to a younger single individual and making their life hell. Now I say we are not living in dark ages any more where old men were the only bread winner and the women was treated badly and had less social and economic status, hence they had to rely on old partners who were wealthier and put up with their controlling and more experience in life attitude. In order to build a best relationship you need to be able to do many thing together and no matter how older individual (normally over 10+ years age gap) try, there is bound to be energy level, interests, life experience differences and then raising kids for-example...You also need to be realistic as to how long a person would keep on (or willing to be) pushing child pram for you in his 40s around the malls. Best live the age you are at and enjoy most of it. You are young for a reason....shift the balance too much here and there and you may feel empty and lonely sometime, when all your friends are married and living their own life and you stuck with someone significant old partner and his society.

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    Name 5 years ago

    Love is butt. Imagine kissing hugh heffner with all the wrinkles and the overactive salivary gland.come on, you are young for a reason!anything more than four years turns me OFF!I CANT go with a guy 1 sec younger than or twice as rich as i am.

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    MsDixon26 5 years ago

    My past of dating one older man has come back to haunt me. I am married to a younger man, now he doesn't want to be with me because he just found out that I dated a man 22 years older than me. I love this man with all my heart, but it seems he keeps letting my past define our relationship and the type of person I am now. That was5 years ago. I do not know what to do, any suggestions?

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    Claudine 6 years ago

    Loved this hub!! Im 23 & dating a 35 year old man..his the only one ive ever imagined getting married too. Godwillingly that's a sign ;)

    Nice Hub!!

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    Don 6 years ago

    Love this I didn't know this was here. Great.

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    Chandani Jayasundara 6 years ago

    Still i am unmarried,i would like to married over age man between age gap 15-25,I hope he will be a stable partner for my life.

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    dominic Ambrose 6 years ago

    i am going to marry a girl who is 20, I am 53. I asked her if it bothered her much that i was so much older than her and she replied. . . I wouldn't have known you were if you hadn't have told me. . . . I love her very much

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    ladycebuana 6 years ago

    nice hub.. kudos!

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    6 years ago

    Hi I date a bloke 40 years older than me s long as you are happy and over the legal age it shouldn't matter if that's all people have to talk about they have a very sad life themselves, just because you go out with an older guy does not mean you are any different to anyone else inside we still have feelings and a heart and you can't help who you fall in love with, also women my age are having children already well I'm not this man has stood by my wishes to be a lawyer and I do everything people do my age and even more. Age means nothing and doesn't mean you stop being who you really are inside. It's just a number as long as you are legal defo. And I have been very happy repute what people may comment. For 6 years now.

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    Natasha 6 years ago

    Hi People, My problems really weird. I love a guy, he is 6 years older than me. And he has two younger sisters. The problem is, his younger sister is a year older than me. Do you think it can be a problem if i date him? I did not ask him out yet.

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    Bhawana Salaria 6 years ago from Australia

    Love has no set phenomena..Love is undefined reality of life..Loving elder or younger has no meaning but the only concern is whom u r happy with end of the day?

    Your hub is interesting,

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    fred lamica 6 years ago

    when god made man and made women i dont think he ever said that you cant love some body older then you or younger then you just love each other or he never said you cant love somebody that is a different color

    So wat is the promable if you truly love each other age should not make any different in any way even if somebody eals dont agree. Which in any case is no body business but your own.Rather if they like it or not

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    julietmorgan07 6 years ago from Germany

    I don't believe love is blind, lovers are the one that is blind for this is how true love goes. I agree with msorensson physical appearance, characteristics and so on are not important if you really love someone for you are being blind on accepting all of his or her weakness and strength because you love him or her so much.

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    kallini2010 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

    I would rather first define "older" men. 10 - 12 years of difference is palatable, but anything beyond 20 is repulsive. Especially for a marriage. You may have a fling, a temporary relationship with a parental figure, but for marrying "till death do you part"? No, thank you.

    There is a huge problem in the attraction - women who like much older men, old enough to be their fathers, have not matured themselves, they are not adults, they are still children, waiting to be spoiled, pampered, taken care of. Eventually, they will end up babysitting their old men (grandpas) and their bank accounts. And I would not be so sure in these women's fidelity. They can be married to bank accounts and have sex with young studs on the side.

    I am simply old enough to know that love is just a word. Too many other considerations are taken into marriages.

    A confident woman marrying a much older partner? Yeah, right. Think again. That is why wealthy older women take younger lovers (OK, not lovers, sexual partners) because it is easier. No messing with love, today is one, tomorrow is another. Sex is power, money is power.

    When there is such a disparity, look deeper into transaction - the older power buys the younger beauty, stamina, sex, arm candy, you name it.

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    Jasmine JellyBaby 6 years ago

    I've dated an older guy 16 years my senior and it was wonderful and I was genuinely in love with him. Unfortunately he cheated on me but I always treasured the lovely moments we had. Older men are definitely a big attraction to me mainly because of their maturity, sense of responsibility and of course the financial bit is plus.

    Younger men are a waste of time, untrustworthy and all they want is sex sex sex (not even making love!)

    Nice hub though xx

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    kevinex 6 years ago

    Searched Google. My God, I didn't know Bra Pitt is 47 years old. he looks like he is in his 30s.

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    Anamika S 6 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    @kevinex Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie age difference is 12 years.

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    kevinex 6 years ago

    how do Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie fit into this. They are pretty much the same age.

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    angellove24 6 years ago from United States, somewhere where the winters are nice and the summers are hot

    money sometimes maturity level

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    tasha 7 years ago

    My husband is older than me but not rich... he works at a department store and I'm starting college.... I love him very much.... he's 37 and I'm 22... but I'm not in love with him anymore due to his insecurities and controlling/possesiveness... I wish I would of stayed with guys my age because I regret getting married to my husband.... he doesn't respect me in many different ways like literally breaking his neck to look at women and almost getting in a car accident because he stares so hard... he does this in front of me all the time... he gets extremely jealous when another guy opens the door for me and starts cussing... I'm now seeking a divorce and a restraining order due to him stalking past ex girlfriends.... all guys are different.... but I will make sure next time to see the signs of an abusive guy and not to ignore them...

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    bhupi 7 years ago



    Yes, you are right, i have woman friend who is younger than me 20 years, but she and me are enjoying best of our life, she like me so much, as give her all she wants in bed,she gets what she did not had from her hubby.

    She is crzy for me.

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    deancortez044 7 years ago from Las Vegas

    I can tell you from my own experience that dating a younger woman is a fantastic thing. I am 43 years old and my beautiful and loving girlfriend is 22. I have felt more youthful and energetic ever since we started dating. In fact, I read a scientific study that claimed that dating a younger woman will actually make a man live longer -- and I believe it!

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    leonardo 7 years ago

    I am 80 years old and I em happily married since 17 years youngera than me.

    What is wrong?

    My wife is beautiful and slim; I am really an old man walking with the help of a cane

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    awesome 7 years ago

    older guys have more money, success, confidence, and authority. That's what is attractive, age is overall irelevant.

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    ericvonjed 7 years ago

    Well, men are attracted to youth, energy and good health while women are attracted to strength, power and wealth. If an older woman has enough strength, power and wealth to satisfy her own needs, and is also able to project enough energy and good health, she can get herself a younger man. This has been happening for millinea; today's greater awareness of it comes from mass-media.

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    bingskee 7 years ago from Quezon City, Philippines

    it is not that love is blind. love can be felt even when distance is there. it is such a strong feeling that comes unexpectedly.

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    terigottfried 7 years ago

    very interesting article, I think a good reason why woman also might date older men because it's kind of wrong, which makes it fun. Although Im sure some are in love too but I feel like I would just because I could. Not that i am though

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    shazwellyn 7 years ago from Great Britain

    What might need to be thought of is why a man can completely destroy his family for the sake of a younger woman? The younger woman might be the opportunist, but the older man likes to have a pampered ego with a younger woman on his arm. Just a thought,

    Good hub, my friends :)

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    HappyHer 7 years ago from Cleveland, OH

    Great hub! I think age is irrelevant for the most part.

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    quicksand 7 years ago

    Older men punch harder! :lol:

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    Sandy Mertens 7 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

    Interesting hub. Sometimes age doesn't mean anything.

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    Peter Dickinson 7 years ago from South East Asia

    It really has to be a two way thing. If neither partner is bothered about the age then the question does not arise. I have dated many people much younger than myself. It has always been a positive experience. There is no shortage of things to talk about, see, do and enjoy together.

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    rizwan_isria 7 years ago from India

    its true

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    Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    Very true msorensson.Love is often blind.

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    msorensson 7 years ago

    Hi, Anamika,

    I don't think age plays a part when you are really in love and neither does color, economic status, etc..etc...

    Much love,