- Gender and Relationships
You're About To Run Into An Old Suitor - What Should You Do?
You happen to be...
... walking alone in the city park, or spending some time alone in the mall, and you see a former suitor walking towards you.
What do you do?
A. Should you try to hide?
B. Should you wait for him to see you first and see what he’s going to do?
C. Should you call out to him first and wave him over or walk over to where he’s at?
Answer the poll below and read on some common reasons for selecting what you chose!
What would you do if you see an old suitor walking down the street?
If you have answered A, then you probably didn’t like him much in the first place.
Either he didn’t meet your standards – not good looking enough, not rich enough, not tall enough or whatever – or you’ve had a negative memory of him – he’s too needy, his palms are too clammy, he tried to kiss you without your permission, etc.
Alternatively, you may be embarrassed to have him see you alone. You don’t want him to get the satisfaction that after turning him down, you’re out alone in a public place (of course, there are loads of perfectly acceptable reasons why you are out alone in the park or in the mall!).
Whatever the reason, it’s perfectly fine. What matters is that you have chosen to hide and not let him see you.
If you answered B, then you probably didn’t have as much of a bad experience with him than if you had chosen A.
You simply want him to take action first. You probably liked him but you were more interested in somebody else or you were in fact seeing somebody else at the time he was trying to court you.
If you are still in a relationship, then it’s a perfectly acceptable idea for you to wait for him to notice you first. However, if you are not seeing anyone then he might take it as a sign you are finally showing some interest in him -- good if you ARE interested in him but if NOT then you might want to reconsider choosing option B and go for A instead!
If you chose C then it can mean any of the following:
1. If you were in a relationship when he was trying to court you, then you are probably already back to being single and would like to reconnect with a person who may genuinely like you.
2. If you have some bad blood between you and this guy, and you’re going to meet with him face to face, then you probably already moved on and are willing to let bygones be bygones. Or you are the confrontational type and want to sort out whatever issues you’ve had with this guy directly.
3. You are just a naturally friendly person and you will take the opportunity of catching up with a former suitor anytime!
What I chose
I wrote this hub because I thought it would be interesting to see the number of people who would answer A, B or C.
My answer is B. Just last week I saw an old suitor in the mall. I didn’t think it was going to be awkward so I put a smile on my face and waited for him to notice me. He saw me and our eyes locked for maybe 2 seconds before he looked away… I was a bit hurt but wasn’t surprised to be honest. He’s already married and I am in a happy relationship at the moment but he could have returned my smile, for crying out loud!
If you haven't voted already, please do so just for fun! I would appreciate your feedback!