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You're About To Run Into An Old Suitor - What Should You Do?

Updated on May 17, 2012
Should you ignore or face an old suitor?
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You happen to be...

... walking alone in the city park, or spending some time alone in the mall, and you see a former suitor walking towards you.

What do you do?

A. Should you try to hide?

B. Should you wait for him to see you first and see what he’s going to do?

C. Should you call out to him first and wave him over or walk over to where he’s at?

Answer the poll below and read on some common reasons for selecting what you chose!

What would you do if you see an old suitor walking down the street?

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If you have answered A, then you probably didn’t like him much in the first place.

Either he didn’t meet your standards – not good looking enough, not rich enough, not tall enough or whatever – or you’ve had a negative memory of him – he’s too needy, his palms are too clammy, he tried to kiss you without your permission, etc.

Alternatively, you may be embarrassed to have him see you alone. You don’t want him to get the satisfaction that after turning him down, you’re out alone in a public place (of course, there are loads of perfectly acceptable reasons why you are out alone in the park or in the mall!).

Whatever the reason, it’s perfectly fine. What matters is that you have chosen to hide and not let him see you.

If you answered B, then you probably didn’t have as much of a bad experience with him than if you had chosen A.

You simply want him to take action first. You probably liked him but you were more interested in somebody else or you were in fact seeing somebody else at the time he was trying to court you.

If you are still in a relationship, then it’s a perfectly acceptable idea for you to wait for him to notice you first. However, if you are not seeing anyone then he might take it as a sign you are finally showing some interest in him -- good if you ARE interested in him but if NOT then you might want to reconsider choosing option B and go for A instead!

If you chose C then it can mean any of the following:

1. If you were in a relationship when he was trying to court you, then you are probably already back to being single and would like to reconnect with a person who may genuinely like you.

2. If you have some bad blood between you and this guy, and you’re going to meet with him face to face, then you probably already moved on and are willing to let bygones be bygones. Or you are the confrontational type and want to sort out whatever issues you’ve had with this guy directly.

3. You are just a naturally friendly person and you will take the opportunity of catching up with a former suitor anytime!

What I chose

I wrote this hub because I thought it would be interesting to see the number of people who would answer A, B or C.

My answer is B. Just last week I saw an old suitor in the mall. I didn’t think it was going to be awkward so I put a smile on my face and waited for him to notice me. He saw me and our eyes locked for maybe 2 seconds before he looked away… I was a bit hurt but wasn’t surprised to be honest. He’s already married and I am in a happy relationship at the moment but he could have returned my smile, for crying out loud!

If you haven't voted already, please do so just for fun! I would appreciate your feedback!


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    • angied83 profile image

      Angie D 5 years ago from Cebu, PH

      Hi Dee, yes, he could at least have tried to smile! But no, he just totally ignored me. If only I hadn't seen the recognition in his eyes when our eyes locked, then I wouldn't have minded so much.

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Well dang, he could of grinned or something! ;) very cool hub, i usually I don't like to do the quiz, but it was so interesting, I was even in a hurry to do the quiz. Ha. Well, that happened to me, we are still cool, wave & stuff. But what if you see a class mate ( one of the prissy cheer-leaders)from high school... Then you jump in the bushes to hide? Ha. I chose b.

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      Angie D 5 years ago from Cebu, PH

      Thanks, Ekstrom! :-)

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      ekstrom002 5 years ago

      You're welcome, good work!

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      Angie D 5 years ago from Cebu, PH

      Hi ekstrom002, thanks for your comment. Yes, you are correct in saying that time plays a role in letting old disappointments and feelings of regret die down. Contrary to what some men may think, women do feel bad about having to turn down a particular suitor due to whatever reason. All the same we appreciate a guy's interest in us. It is indeed very flattering. :-)

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      ekstrom002 5 years ago

      I think the amount of time passed would effect the options, sometimes it's hard for both parties to let bygones be bygones

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      Angie D 5 years ago from Cebu, PH

      Hi Ingenira, thanks for the kind feedback and for following me. I'll certainly try to find time to write more hubs. :-)

      Yey, more B's! :-)

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      Ingenira 5 years ago

      i'll choose B too. :)

      Interesting article. Yes, you are right about what you said in your profile. You can write very well. Glad you find your way to Hubpages.

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      Angie D 5 years ago from Cebu, PH

      Same answer as mine, clairemy. :-) Thanks for the input. :-)

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      Angie D 5 years ago from Cebu, PH

      Hi Rosalinem, thanks for letting me know your answer! I would probably have answered C if it wasn't that particular ex-suitor and if I was really friends with him. I don't think I have ever been 'into' any of my former suitors. If I had they would have ended up as boyfriends! :-)

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      Claire 5 years ago

      I chose B. But found your ideas interesting.

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      Rosalinem 5 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      I choose C meaning that I would just talk to him to get over any awkwardness and know for sure if I am over him completely. Voted up and interesting.