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You're Such a Liar!

Updated on February 9, 2014
Examine yourself in front of a mirror. Can you spot the changes of becoming a liar?       (Thank you Hannah for sharing this wonderful, conceptual photo. You are one talented young lady.)
Examine yourself in front of a mirror. Can you spot the changes of becoming a liar? (Thank you Hannah for sharing this wonderful, conceptual photo. You are one talented young lady.) | Source
Satan said to Eve, "Did God really say, 'You must not eat from any tree in the garden?'" (Gen. 3:1)
Satan said to Eve, "Did God really say, 'You must not eat from any tree in the garden?'" (Gen. 3:1) | Source

Lies and Deception

Satan, the fallen angel, persuaded Eve (the first human to sin) to rebel against God with lies that would make her separate from Him, to become apart from Truth by offending God. Satan himself is a Liar for there is no single truth in him. Satan is not just a liar, he is also the biggest deceiver.

Satan’s lie to Eve and Adam is to lure them to the tree with which God have warned man and woman not to eat the fruit of the tree that is in the middle of the garden.

“When you eat of (this tree) your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” -the serpent Satan

Satan deceived Eve and Adam by telling them what is not true (a false belief) and partly true (by evidence). The crafty serpent squirmed to tempt Eve and Adam standing before the tree, before the fruit, before himself- Satan disguised as a snake. “You will be like God,” he said and that is a lie because God is God alone. “You will know good and evil," he said this too and it is the truth for when Eve and Adam failed God and sinned, they were cast out from the Garden of Eden and instantly they knew what evil was.

"I look into the mirror and my reflection is not who I want myself to be. I see an image of a liar and I want to change that, and the mirror will never lie to me again."
"I look into the mirror and my reflection is not who I want myself to be. I see an image of a liar and I want to change that, and the mirror will never lie to me again." | Source

You’re Such a Liar! Lying Destroys.

Your parents point their fingers at you and swing it side to side right before your eyes like that of a hand of a moving meter and firmly warns, “don’t you lie”. “When you lie, you lie to God.”

When attending a Catholic school, we hear masses in our own school’s Catholic parish, a walking distance from our school grounds. Our religion teacher teaches us ‘tips’ to confession. Really, I remember my religion teacher writing on the blackboard enumerating a long list of sins that children commonly commit. And then she faces her now ‘shy’ pupils (chins down, eyebrows arched, eyes up) and tells us to pick our sins from the blackboard, list them down a piece of paper and be secretive about it. “Don’t show it to the person next to you even if he/she is your best friend. Only God knows what you’ve written on paper.” “That’s easy,” I thought and I don’t have to be scared to talk to Father because I got my codigo (a piece of information) clutched securely in a fist. It is easy to read before him and I don’t have to tremble. We go off in a bee-line to the parish, singing hymns, sitting quietly and patiently for each of our turns to the confessional. “Bless me Father for I have sinned. These are my sins…”

But did the teachings about “lying and not to lie” changed us forever as kids? Did you ever say, “I can’t lie to my mother because I love her? I can’t lie to my sister or brother because they would always find out. I am scared to lie to my teacher, she’ll catch me lying and I’ll be punished in the corner.” No, the lessons about lying and not to lie still kept us lying to the people we love, to our superiors, to our friends, to our own children and to ourselves.


Lies & Deception

Who’s lying? We all do.

Politicians. Great political leaders lie a great deal to the world. The people believe in them and fall trapped as victims in their own manifestations to save you, us and the world…really? Really! But there are many admirable leaders too and they are great leaders once, then and now.

The Church and Christian Leaders. Religious instruments of God, have they ever told a lie? Oh yes, a great deal and they sin too. But who are we to judge? The problem is that the truth of God's ways is deviated by man. But those who followed the Truth, God had spared the saintly faithful leaders, His chosen ones. There are compassionate leaders still around, so you can trust them and pray for them to give them more strength and continue with their honest work for the Lord.

Lying Lawyers. Do lawyers lie? (To the lawyers, you know better. So, just *smile*). Here’s a conversation between a grandson and his grandfather:

Grandson: “I want to become a lawyer when I grow up.”

Grandpa: “Sure grandson, you mean you want to be a liar.”

Grandson: “But grandpa, I want to follow in your footsteps and become a clever lawyer like you too.”

Grandpa: “Sure grandson,you will become a liar like me.”

Parents and Children. Parents can lie to their children and the children lie to their parents. I lie to my children for the things they don’t need to know or to make that sound better, “reasoning out” than lying. If our children catches us lying to them all the time, what kind of models are we to them? They’d say, “well, you lied to me mom that’s why I’m lying to you.” If we don’t know when to put a halt about lying in our household, it will be a chaotic life with our kids.

Fake Friends. Your friends lie to you. Yes, they do and these are the kind of friends not worth your trust. They lie in front of your face and behind you. Watch your back and refrain from mingling too much around them. I’m good natured and very friendly, but why do I get lied by friends, despised and betrayed? We think positive now if this happens to you too. Say you are not the problem at all, it’s them. It’s the way they are. So the best thing to do is to stay away.

Co-workers. Does work lie to you? Perhaps and yes (from colleagues, superiors, management, even the person you think is your best friend at work). If you choose to use the right path and it is not happening for you, think again. The higher ups always feel they have the right and always think that they are right. We, the one below can’t complain too much about that. Just do your work. Your own peer would lie too to get rid of you for jealousy on your better performance than them.There are a ‘few’ so-called managers who lie to make them look good and you’ll likewise be in trouble because of them. Are they a perfect role model to you and me? The answer is “I don’t think so.” Imagine how peaceful could your little workplace be if everyone is respectful with each other, no lying, no passing on the blame, know when to accept faults/mistakes and know when to apologize. Superiors who handle their staff well are great leaders and they will in return gain great followers supporting each other.

Customers and Customer Service. Do customers lie? Do customer services lie? Yes they do, often to take advantage of what they want, keeping their mula, and saving “Eeyore” (if you know what I mean). But, “customers are always right” you’ve been oriented by those words, hearing about it over and over. It’s on the business air. You as a customer, do you lie? I don’t. Occasionally, I am the one getting lied on by customer service, poor customer service. With my experience in customer service, you need to portray the company in the best way you could and you cannot take any lies or insults from bad customer service because you don’t do that yourself.You are the flag-bearer. The company is you. Your outstanding deliverance, commitment and heartfelt engagement with your customers will reflect back at you. Customers love and would put their time to acknowledge you if you make them happy. So even if the mistake was from the customer and was deemed so, you don’t tell them that, neither making up lies to put the customer in a humiliating situation. Never do that, it will be the end of you. We are trained to love our customers and even accept the situation that the fault could seem to be coming from us (even if not). Apology, reassurance and making up to the situation are the best solutions to retain your customer’s patronage (and your job). Don’t make up stories and never lie to a customer. Remember my aunt’s advice below- “Make up a general reason that wouldn’t become a lie.”

It hurts when you find the truth behind a lie.
It hurts when you find the truth behind a lie. | Source

Are you becoming a liar? Can you spot the signs on yourself?

Examine yourself in front of a mirror and be truthful as you can be. Lying to yourself won't help.

  1. When you are caught lying, do respond with another lie?
  2. Can you look the person asking you questions straight in the eye? Or do you avoid eye contact? Do you focus your gaze up or down or away from the person rolling your eyes?
  3. Do you find yourself talking and it didn't make sense to you, but you keep going. (A liar comes up with stories and reasons one after the other creating inconsistency.)
  4. Are you feeling defensive? Do you curl up your arms or legs, back up a little to keep distance, unconsciously reaching for objects you don't need?
  5. Are you replying in evasive answers or statements and become accusive with your looks and repetitive in your questions?
  6. Do you become silent if the other person knows and got you right that you just lied?
  7. Do you become suddenly reserved and rigid just like a dog caught for doing something bad?
  8. Do you sweat excessively on your palms or forehead when facing questions or interrogations?
  9. Do you find yourself switching the topic when addressed a situation about a lie?
  10. Can you hear your heartbeat pumping out off your chest that you can hardly sit or become uneasy?

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My aunt advised once: "If you feel you have to lie, say it in general form, then, it wouldn't be a lie."

Big lies. Little white lies.

Dad to 16 yr. old daughter: "I thought you said you'll follow me to church, but I didn't see you there. Did you go to church today?"

General response: "Dad, I wasn't able to. I 'will try' next time."

Lie: “I know, dad. I had a stomach ache. I didn’t wanna go.”

Secret reason: Gone out to a friend’s movie and shopping invitation.

General reason: “I wasn’t able to” is a safe answer. “I will try next time” does not give any promises. If she fails going to church by next time, she won't feel any guilt because she had said "will try".


Daughter to mom: (Coming home from school) “Mom, were you crying?” (Obvious to her that you are having goldfish eyes)

General response: “Yeah, something just made me sad. And don’t ask any more questions.” (With a smile)

Lie: “I just read a while ago a sad hub about losing a pet and it made me cry.” (Which could have been true from another day you’ve read that article), but…

Secret reason: Being upset with your partner.


Younger brother to older sister: “Did you use my cologne? I know you touched it again because I made an invisible scratch mark on the bottle and now it’s below the line.”

General response: “Thought a guy’s cologne smells good.”

Lie: “No. I didn’t. Colognes evaporate too like perfumes.” (Obviously, the smell of cologne is still floating in the room.)

Secret reason: Used the cologne because there was no perfume available.


Man to woman: (Driving home past 3 in the morning) “Hi hon, just dropped off Rambo and just got off the highway too to call you that I’m on my way home now.”

Woman to man: “Why can’t you call me a little earlier than just a few minutes to home? I left you messages and called you and you can’t even reply? Why wait till you get off the highway to call me?”

Lie: “I didn’t hear my phone."

Thirteen minutes and man arrived home.

Woman to man: “The moment you’ve checked your phone, you could have called me right away. You have to let me wait until past 3. You picked up my call once but I could only hear you and a woman’s voice and you never spoke to me then, hung up. Two more calls to you but no answer.”

2nd Lie: Silence. (Woman reads man’s face and there was only silence.) No reply from him any further.

General response (supposed to be): “It was too loud in the bar, but sorry, I didn’t even try to text you back. Also, there were friends I’ve given a ride to in the car and I just didn’t get the chance to ring you.”

Reason to doubt: Was it only Rambo in the car or a single female friend or 2 or 3 friends?


Husband to wife: “I’m buying a car after I pass my driving.”

Wife to hubby: “Really? Finally, we’ll be having our own car!”

Years passed, postponements, no driver’s licence, therefore, no car.

Wife to hubby: “Where’s that promise you made to buy a car.”

General response: “I’m buying a car, but we don’t really need it now. We live in downtown.”

Lie: “I promise I will buy a car after I pass my driving.”

Secret reason: Downtown parking is too expensive, can’t afford it. And there is still no driver’s licence. (Blah blah blah blah blah)


Girlfriend to boyfriend: (at home watching a movie together) “Did you just fart? That’s so disgusting!”

General response: (reaction) “Hahahahaha!”

Lie: “No. The dog did.”

Secret reason: Needed the bathroom but don’t want to miss some parts of the movie.


Mom to daughter: “You have to tidy up your room, sweetheart.”

General response: “Mom, I know. I’ll do it when I have the time.”

Lie: “Mom, I will, later.”

Secret reason: Getting to be lazy again.


Daughter to mom: (text message sent) “Mom, I took money from you. Needed $4 and I’ll give you the change and pay you back later.”

Mom to daughter: “What for? Did you lose your Metro Pass again or is it for lunch?”

General response and honest truth: “It’s for school mom. It’s “No Uniform Day” and for snack.”

Lie: Daughter didn’t lie. Mom was thankful for her honesty.

Secret reason: None


College daughter to Pa: “I’m sleeping over at Pretty’s place with Beauty.”

Pa to daughter: “Will you just be at your classmate Pretty’s house?”

General response: “We will just be having fun. Her parents are not there.”

Lie: “Yes, I will just be at Pretty’s house.”

Secret reason: The three girls had planned it and went on a blind date on a far drive to a beach late at night. (Did the daughter felt the guilt of lying to her pa when they drove past her place? Oh yes, and prayed hard nothing bad will happen during the long drive.)

Result from lying: The three girls and three boys ended up not being able to go out the next morning because of swelling rashes covering their bodies from the night’s skinny dipping.


Boy to housemaid: “Did you burn my jersey shirt?”

General response: “The iron was too hot, I didn’t realize.”

Lie: “No. I didn’t burn it. I left the iron standing far side and when I got back I saw the burnt spot.”

Secret reason: Have no knowledge that jersey fabric will burn.


Mommy to pet dog: “Hey, did you just mess up the garbage bin? Bad dog.”

General response: Giving you the “puppy look”, moves away and curls up in the corner”.

Lie: “Woof, woof, woof, woof, grrrrr!!!”

Secret reason: “Woof, I’m scavenging for last night’s chicken bone in the garbage while I’m not getting any of your ice cream.”

≈♥≈ ©coffeegginmyrice (Marites Mabugat-Simbajon), 09.21.2012


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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      I don't need the heat yet Colin, too early for it. It's been a long summer. I do miss summer already being more warm-blooded, I supposed, hahaha. Of course, there is this part where humans are a little reptilia-- cold-blooded, I think. Now, I have to get up from squatting too long on HP and walk my bored cockapoo to a playground along the block while it is still a bit bright. Have a pleasant walk and evening too, my friend!

      Sharing our love for our pets...sending warmth, Simba and Tess

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Debbie, thank you once again for a second round to another hub of mine--this one this time. The "TRUTH" it shall be for a peaceful life, peaceful home, peaceful self. Take care ~Tess

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      epigramman 5 years ago

      ....I am in the same situation as you are will just be a matter of time before my gas furnace comes on at night although I am trying to hold off as long as possible but it is a cool one today because of the wind chill and being so close to the lake . I just walked one way around the bay of the lake and now I will walk the other way - both into the wind and then the wind at my back - have a pleasant, safe, happy and warm evening and greetings from Little Miss Tiffy, Mister Gabriel, Colin and Lake erie at 6:00pm

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      wow Coffee I agree with everyone what an amazing Hub.. I am amazed.. You said it right.. everyone word is truth.. I am sharing this .. great hub


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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Hello Epi, it's cold here too and I am bundled up coz I don't want to turn on the heat, lol.

      Really my friend from Lake Erie? You kid not? Oh, what in a happy mood I am right now reading in response to your comment; and here I am hoping that the wind won't come inside where I am stationed squatting on the floor and blow my smile for fear my mouth will go stiff widely in a grin, hahaha! Man, I can just imagine Joker right now.

      Sending you back some warmth in a pizza-bag-warmer from me through the east winds of Scarborough. Sorry, pizza's gone, I'm not lying! Cheers, Epi!

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      epigramman 5 years ago would I lie to you? But this is the greatest most definitive hub on the subject of 'lying' that I have ever seen/read. I kid you not.

      Hey, is my nose growing or what? lol

      Must link and share this most awesome hub (madly and gladly) about one of man's original sins to a few FB groups like Let's just talk music or cinema - and - Music and Writing - and sending you warm wishes from a very chilly headwind off the lake announcing that summer is gone and fall is here to stay ..... lake erie time ontario 4:45pm and this hub my friend is one of your best - but then again when your standards are that high - they're all your best!

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Thank you Mary. And I agree with you! :) Have a great day!!!

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      Mary Hyatt 5 years ago from Florida

      I wish you success and lots of views on this Hub! It deserves it. Hey, if you and I are always truthful to the world, we don't ever have to worry about what we say, and our conscious will always be clear.

      My best, Mary

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Hi Mary! You should see me still smilin' replying to you. I'm so happy you got to view this. You did a good job with your hub and I like your hub title too. Thanks so much for your time, voting and sharing. Let's keep striving to be truthful every single day! Hub Hugs ~Tess

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Very good point, always exploring. God is good. And thank you too! Have a happy day!

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      Mary Hyatt 5 years ago from Florida

      Well, you certainly did a through Hub on the subject of lying. As I said in my Hub about Liars, which you linked back to me, I do wish everyone was truthful, but of course they aren't. I like the photos you chose for this, too.

      Thanks for mentioning my Hub, Liars, Liars, Pants on Fire. I would like to link this Hub to mine.

      I voted this Hub UP, and will share.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Lying hurts and robs us of the most important aspect in a relationship. It also takes away our closeness to God. God forgives many actions. It is not a lost clause. God is merciful. Thank you for a wonderful hub..I enjoyed..

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Thank you Cris for this 'story'. People who'd rather live in this 'lying' condition in their whole lives have chosen to be at the serpent's side. And all liars, their place will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death." (Rev. 21:7-8) That punishment alone is scary.

      Have a happy day! Thanks again, my friend.

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      "Stick and stones will break my bones, but words will never harm me." This is about courage against the sneers and insults we get from others. But I agree with you that WORDS CAN HURT and lies are words, so LIES CAN HURT. But we won't allow others to continue hurting us with lies.

      Thank you so much, midget!

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Dear Faith Reaper,

      I heartwarmingly accept your sharing of thoughts. It is so valuable to me and my hub. You speak of wisdom and straight from your heart too and I know it's coming from the Holy Spirit upon you. Speaking about the Holy Spirit, I have experienced so many times when I am troubled and sobbing in my prayers that even in praying, beautiful words just come pouring from my mind and out to my mouth. I speak straight without pauses at the same time conscious of the 'different' good thoughts forming in my head (though I am in a sad moment)...the thoughts just flow and I believe that it is the Holy Spirit working on me especially if I ask of the Holy Spirit to enlighten me . If I had a paper and pen ready beside me, I would have written down my prayers.

      Thank you Faith Reaper, I really appreciate leaving me a wholesome comment to my hub. And yes, to speak the truth is the right thing to do. It just makes us feel good.

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      CrisSp 5 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Someone told me her story and it goes like this: "I was raped and got pregnant, had a miscarriage, was tested positive with HIV, had a car accident and had to go for major surgery, when I got back home my parents are not there anymore, moved to another place without telling me (note: she's in the hospital then during a car accident), my parents despise me, my friends didn't recognize me and didn't want to talk to me anymore" and so on. You think this person is telling the truth?

      Wouldn't you be suspicious of her and her story? Eventually, you found out that she even faked her own death and then moved miles away to start a new life. What do you think this person is hiding?

      Well, as Friedrich Nietzsche said: "The lie is a condition of life."

      How do we explain that?

      Lie is an interesting fact of life and this hub says it all. I like your funny twist in between lines. Excellent job!

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      Michelle Liew 5 years ago from Singapore

      You know the old saying, sticks and stones.....words can hurt, so can lies. Thanks for sharing these amazing thoughts!! Votes up and away!

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      Faith Reaper 5 years ago from southern USA

      This is an amazing hub and speaks volumes to our hearts. From out of our mouths our hearts speak. When we speak untruths, which we all do, it is a sign that our heart is not right with God, and as soon as the Holy Spirit convicts us of such lying, we should ask for forgiveness. Truth is always best, no matter what, as it will set one free. The really painful liars are the pathological liars, as they do so much damage in all areas of their lives and to all others who have been sucked into their lies and manipulation, as they usually speak with such eloquence to women. Thankfully God has built in that intuition in most women's hearts and minds, and we usually we get a clue real quick or after just a little while of the deception, but it is still too late for that trust. We can forgive and still love that one, but to prevent further harm to ourselves, we must back away immediately when this is revealed to us. The tongue is such a small thing, but it can either bring life or death, that is why is has such great power for such a little thing, such as our tongues. Excellent write here dear one. I must share once again. You blow me away with your amazing writing, so versatile and straight from you heart, which speaks volumes about your heart. Voted Way Up and beyond. In His Love, Faith Reaper