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A Word Vs. a Sword - 4 Techniques to have your words for the benefit of you.
“Doing is better than saying”
Before, I misunderstood this proverb, so I was telling others, “don’t mind what I say, and mind what I do”.
And as the life gives me more experience, I discovered that this proverb doesn’t mean that sayings are not important & the proverb is there for some situations & not for all.
when you advice someone to do something, he’ll be affected by your doing more than your saying. So “Doing is better than saying” is working here.
This proverb doesn’t mean that you have the choice to speak with people the way you are satisfied with, even if you give them and do for them your best.
Sometimes, a word hurt more than a sword.
When you get angry, or when you are making jokes to let others laugh, when you are jealous, etc, maybe, you kill many with a word not with a sword.
Start from yourself, don’t you feel sometimes that the sword is more merciful than some words.
These words maybe said by near relative, the best friend, etc.
You’re doing same, try to remember.
Have you seen how much you brought the pain for the people whom you do love from the bottom of heart?
Take care of your words, don't sharpen them. You can tell in a better way.
1- You can criticize harmlessly
One of the most important things you can do is make people feel good about themselves.
Your tone of voice often says more what is in your mind than your words do." Napoleon Hill
Think how and more important why are you going to criticize someone.
One gay on Twitter tweeted “I'm doing this for you baby, my way of saying I'm sorry!”
Sure he had pain because he likes to hear nice words from his Dad/Mam.
Another Tweeted “you know that it’s not my words that affecting me. It’s your words that affecting me NOW!”
2- Don’t Promise something you can’t do for someone
You gave him the hope & he will wait for what you promised.
Between saying and doing many a pair of shoes is worn out. Italian Proverb
"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." - Mohandas Gandhi
3- Say the truth respectfully:
Like this you be happy & let others same.
Well chosen words mixed with measured emotions are the basis of affecting people. Jim Rohn
4- Stop blaming others:
“While you complain and blame, you remain the same.” - Hakim Muhammad
I know it’s difficult but you can find a way.
It is not easy to change your way of speaking, but it worth your effort.
Mr. Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Success is finding a better method”. And remember if a mountain is smooth, you wouldn't be able to climb it.
Hope to hear from you.