How to avoid a pusher without being rude?

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   dazzledeposted 11 years ago

   How to avoid a pusher without being rude?
   
   Some people just see their way of understanding. They may be right at many instances but no one likes to be pushed around, even if the other person has their good at heart. How to ensure that you take the advice without being rolled over and being pushed around for the rest of your interactions, and without being rude?

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   Mom Katposted 11 years ago

   A few options (depending on the situation) may include:
   
   "Thank you for your opinion, I'm going to take some time to think this over before making my final decision."
   
   "I appreciate you sharing your point of view with me.  Let me get back to you on what I decide."
   
   "You make a valid point.  Thank you for sharing it with me.  I will take that into consideration while I make my decision."
   
   By saying these types of things you are validating and appreciating the person (which is most likely what they are seeking) while still stating firmly that you are still making your own choice or your own decision.  It empowers you while not taking away from their value. 
   
   Hope this helps

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      dazzledeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your input. I agree being politically correct does help, but there are often times when the whole cycle is repeated and that may get on your nerves. You do have a point; maybe the appreciation will hit home one day.

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   Peggasuseposted 11 years ago

   Well, I would say that the most obvious way is not to tell people like that, your problems.  Try to figure them out yourself.  If the problem is so difficult that you can't fix it yourself, then choose a person to help you, who will listen and "suggest," rather than dictate and try to take over your life.
   
   Been there, done that and I know what happens if you keep leaning on people to solve the issues that are supposed to be solved by you.

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      dazzledeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your input. The lines I was thinking on was more of a boss being pushy. And there you get free advice . So there are situations when you are neither here nor there.

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