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Choosing the perfect mate

Updated on May 12, 2014
  • I know the first question you are asking is; Can I find the perfect mate?
  • Is there really someone out there for me?

The Answer is YES! and YES! Many times in our lives we think we are alone in this world, and have to face life living alone. That is only true for being born and dying, these two things we have to go through alone, but right after you are born you have loving arms that hold you. During our lives we need and yearn for loving arms to hold us, that is natural.

Some people do choose to deny their natural urges and live alone or for their beliefs.( Not an easy task)

OK so how do I find the perfect mate?

  1. Write down all the activities you love to do.
  2. Activities you will be doing in the future.
  3. Political stance (if you have one)
  4. If you want children or not
  5. If you are O..k with smoking, light drug use, Financial burdens or not, drinking ok or not.
  6. your beliefs, god atheist etc.
  7. temperament do you want someone that is augmentative and loves to make up, or some one meek and quiet who is generally agreeable? or in-between?
  8. Do they have kids? What are the kids like? Can you live with the kids?
  9. Can you put up with their quirks?
  10. Do they want a family? Don't ask this one right off the bat you might get dumped, or an instant family!

I swear if half of the people in the world would have addressed these simple questions they would have never married and divorced.

Please print this out and check it off. I will give you reasons why you need to ask these questions.

  1. If they are Atheist and you love Christmastime and they do not celebrate Christmas its NOT FUN! some Atheist do celebrate Christmas, (so find out first)
  2. If they want a family and you do not, they will be depressed for YEARS, and then cheat on you and have one anyway, (happened to a friend of mine)
  3. They smoke and you do not like smoke! IT STINKS, Do not expect them to quit for you, they will quit for about 3 months and then start up gain, been there, done it!
  4. Drinking, they do not drink and you want to go out and have fun, you feel ALONE all the time while you are surrounded by friends!
  5. You do not drink and they are going out drinking and leave you BEHIND, SAD.

There are many more reasons to ask all of these questions.... so be sure and check these off, trust me you will find the right one and be happily surprised!!

One piece of advice I can give a young lady, that I told my daughter was; "Never give out your phone number. Tell them you will take their business card" it was a half joke. You see my point is, if she wants someone who will take care of her, then why not be picky?

Advise for my son will be: Find someone who loves what you love, likes what you like, and has the same dreams too. If you are both on the same page the book gets read a lot faster and you find the true meaning of love at the end.

After two bad marriages I finally wised up. I am sooo HAPPY!! I have been married to my sweetie pie for over 12 years now. we do not fight, or argue, we both have BEEN THERE and DONE THAT. We talk, we wait and listen and we say "I love you". We agree to disagree on some things. We kiss each other every day, at least once. Timing is everything in conversation, even if you have to wait a day. Happy hunting for the perfect mate!


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    Mindy 5 years ago from Cottage Grove, Oregon

    Thank you all I have been adding links people send me too of dating sites they like.

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    Mindy 6 years ago from Cottage Grove, Oregon

    The dating sites are fun to check out too :) Thanks!

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    emilybee 6 years ago

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    Mindy 6 years ago from Cottage Grove, Oregon

    Thank you :)

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