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Domestic Violence

Updated on March 16, 2015

There is so much that you really should know about domestic violence... besides the fact that it is a serious, widespread social problem in America today.

Here are some other facts:

At least 50% of the men who frequently assaulted their wives also frequently abused their children. Each year, between 2,000 - 5,000 children die each year because of domestic violence. Most victims of domestic violence allow themselves to be beaten, so that they want the abuse to end. They engage in various survival strategies to protect themselves and their children (i.e., calling the police and/or seeking help from family members). Another strategy is silence (ie taking a beating to keep the batterer from attacking the children).

As a result, most victims suffer from psychological effects (ie post traumatic stress disorder or depression), as a result of being constantly abused

When domestic violence (DV) involves children, it can be of 2 possible reasons. In other words, it is either direct and intentional or indirect and accidental. If it is the first reason, ie., direct and intentional then, it should be considered as a deliberate and willful act that has been conducted or carried out with the purpose of injuring the child. If it is the second case and it is indirect and accidental, then the damage is because the child lives with family violence. In this case, the youth is not the target of the violence, but must live with the pain and suffering which results from such experiences. This is why in some place people tend to view the term domestic violence as family violence.

There are close to 1,500,000 incidents of domestic violence per year and that 1 in every 3 women has been domestically abused during their lifetime.

At least one-third of American women (31%) report being abused by a partner at some point in their lives. Furthermore, 25% of American women report being domestically abused and that 30% of Americans say that they know a woman who has been domestically abused in the past year. In addition 37% of women who sought treatment in emergency rooms for violence-related injuries were domestic related.

Besides, male violence against women does much more damage than female violence against men? Women are much more likely to be injured than men and that women are 7 to 14 times more likely than men to report suffering severe physical assaults from domestic violence. As a matter of fact, more than 3 women are murdered by their partners every day?

What is menacing about emotional abuse is that you cannot point to physical injuries that clearly show that someone is hurting you- all you have is a deeper and deeper pain that you cannot connect with the abuser and you can't figure out why. You sometimes wonder why you are not in a position to communicate clearly (because he constantly misinterprets everything you say or put forward), that you aren't nice enough, because a nice woman would not mind a little teasing !

For me this information came as a shock – and have decided to do whatever bit I can

For those of you, who are interested in getting more information on DV, visit;

Speaking Out Against Domestic Violence

Date and Domestic Violence Victims Anonymous



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      Marsprofane8 5 years ago from Abuja

      What happens to the kids when they grow up? I'm one of the kids who grew up in an unstable and sometimes violent home. I used to fear relationships and marriage like the cancer but now I'm warming up a bit although I promised myself that I would never get married . Could you elaborate on some effects of domestic violence on kids?

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      Shankar Pandiath 8 years ago from India

      Yes, I have had the misfortune to interact directly with friends who were victims of DV - It was even more difficult when you are friends to both husband and wife. I always gave priority to the kids and sorted their issues out first - I then got a few friends to join up and sort out the problem with affected couple. So far, the behaviour of all the couples who underwent our inhouse DV program, have improved to a great extent... except for one, which ended in disaster, which was very unfortunate. We can only advise them and it is for them to realise it.

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      Sharon3rd 8 years ago from Talladega, AL

      As an orphan from domestic violence, and young woman who engaged in the "cycle" at least once in my life, (which lasted nearly 14 years) I can honestly say, I thank you for putting this up.

      It has been my experience that women usually "wake up" in their thirties, move on, only to have their abusive X spouse pick up some other young fragile woman to continue in their behavior.

      I appreciate the statistics, now, if us women can just start refusing to be one.