What do you do when you have done all that you can to forgive someone for the pain that they...
have cause you in the past, but their actions constantly take you back to that place of hurt and anger?
Dear Gileum,
I have learned that if I want to be free, then sometimes I have to make some tough decisions. This means that if I have done all that I could do to make matters better, but the other party continues to make things worse, then I need to distance myself from them. Sometimes this can be difficult to do, but you have to find a way to pull yourself out of the negative. Another thing that I have learned is that no matter how people treat me, I need to do my best to portray the character of Jesus Christ by loving them anyway. Yes it hurts at times, but it is much better for you to forgive and love, than it is to live with an unforgiving heart and hatred. I pray that I have answered your question. God bless and don't forget to pray before you make any moves. Let God guide you!!!
It's time to either confront them or to leave them behind all together. People tend to think with their hearts, leaving them entirely open to treachery and torment. Sometimes we just have to say "enough is enough" and move on. If you can work it out with them, then great, if not, it's almost always better to move on.
My answer would be different depending on who they are. If it is someone who does not need to be in your life, just try to create as much distance as possible.
The hardest thing is if this is a family member and someone who you cannot create distance then you need to take some baby steps to resolve the situation by either talking to them directly or trying to change your reaction to them.
get away from that pearson forgive them and move on forgiveness dosent mean you have to be around them all it means is that you will not let your heart habor hate.
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