Has anyone suffered domestic abuse from their husbands or family members?

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   RELATUposted 15 years ago

   Has anyone suffered domestic abuse from their husbands or family members?
   
   When I was pregnant with my first child I was in high school unmarried and I suffered from dirty gossip and my childs father tried to hit me with a pool ball throwing it thru my grandmother screen glass door. But I survived and have a beautiful daughter. My husband who was abusive we had an argument and he attempted to kick me in the stomach but I escaped that. One day me and my daughter who was 4 yrs old at the time because I was having a sick moment and didn't want to cook any meat he walked passed she and I and said "it won't be much longer before I can hit you" and I gave birth to a son.

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   FrankiesGirl6Yrposted 15 years ago

   I’m not sure I fully understand..Is your daughters father now your husband? Are you saying your husband tried to kick you before you were pregnant and now the you are he has cooled off, but threatens to continue after the baby is born.?.
   
   To answer your question, yes, I endured a lot of abuse from my ex. The abuse progressed and did not stop until I was hospitalized.  There was 4 liters of blood in my abdomen; there are only 5 in your entire body. The blood was coming from a ruptured spleen, my spleen was removed by making an incision from my breast bone to my belly button.
   
   So my suggestion to you is GET OUT……..Look what just happened to Yeardley Love. My situation was a little different than yours. Although I had 2 small children, 4 & 1, I was not pregnant. You should read my Hub on Heathers Story, she endured a lot and it started while she was pregnant.
   It has been 6 years since my life was almost taken and 15 years for Heather. We are both still affected by the abuse we endured.  I am constantly sick and fatigue comes easy (Your spleen is a big part of you immune system) and Heather is currently recovering from latest back surgery.
   
   Take into consideration your children…..What kind of life are you giving them if mommy is always too tiered, depressed, and soar to do anything with them.  God forbid he beats up their mother in front of them. This throws this them it a long list of statistics and sets them up from a long difficult life

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      dvvictimwith18yoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Great advice and easy answer. But now what? Please help those who do get out, with financial independence {the answer is not leave traumatized kids and get a job} grants, legal help post divorce because honestly the buck stops when you leave him.

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   DeadbeatClubposted 14 years ago

   Yes, please GET OUT as soon as you can. Even if it takes months or a year. Please do this. I spent 3 years of my life with an extremely mentally, emotionally and physically abusive man before I had the courage to leave in 2007 but still to this day it has ruined my life. I trust no one. I have flashbacks. I have nightmares. I still jump when I hear noises. I blame my current eating disorder on the years that I had to hear how "fat" I was by my ex. I have issues sexually as well. He destroyed my life! Please leave and save yourself. You cannot repair the damage he has already done to you and your daughter BUT the sooner you leave the sooner you can be on the road to recovery. Please believe me

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      dvvictimwith18yoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree, please share how you supported your children and yourself when got out? I am 3 yrs divorced and now medical problems prevent working plus my teens need me more than ever. Why can't I get just a month break? The abusive jerk lied bout income.

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   Rose Ella Mortonposted 14 years ago

   I hope you have left that coward by now. A man that hits a woman is not a man. Your children needs a father not a devil. if your husband stays around. Your children will learn bad things from him. Why do you waste time writing looking for an answer that would make you accept these beating. RUN to you nearest shelter. Leave while you can still walk away.

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      dvvictimwith18yoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      The kids of DV need a consistent parent for at least a good year so please don't encourage a good man in life since she really doesn't know who that is and will pick another like jerk she left. Resources towards financial independence is first topic.

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