What is the best way to tell something that will hurt their feelings?

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   davenstanposted 13 years ago

   What is the best way to tell something that will hurt their feelings?

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   vparkerposted 13 years ago

   You have to be a prepared  for the best and the worst.  People who are worth keeping around will love you through thick and thin.

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   Moms-Secretposted 13 years ago

   First, is it something that matters?  So many people waste so much time saying things that are absolutely unnecessary to say.  Check your motives.  If it is then do it respectfully.  It is less about what you have to say and more about its careful delivery...
   
   I like to brace for shock... I have something to tell you that you are not going to like...
   
   Good luck

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   rave1432posted 13 years ago

   Prepare for the worst, always prepare for the worst. Then tell them in a private place face to place. In public they would be humiliated even more if others heard and plus if people see them cry.

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   fpherj48posted 13 years ago

   If you're fairly sure that whatever you have to tell someone will hurt their feelings, I would strongly suggest you take some time to think seriously about whether it absolutely HAS to be said.
   There are varying degrees of "hurt."  If you find it necessary to make a statement that may hurt their ego, try to be clear but brief......and you might want to offer an apology for having to do it...   If you are delivering sad or disappointing news, use kindness and be supportive.   It's never a pleasant thing to have to tell someone anything that you feel with upset them.  But if it's left up to you and must be done, just remember to be gentle.

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   capncrunchposted 13 years ago

   I agree with Moms-Secret.  Also, what are the consequences for not saying something.  If there are no consequences for not saying anything, then it probably should not be said. 
   
   But, if you must, you will.  Use tact.  Be straight-forward and considerate.

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   Julip Manorposted 13 years ago

   Sandwich technique.......Compliment first (express genuinely) insert the comment and then finish with another positive.  Always use a sandwich.  It is easier to eat that way and a managment technique that is taught.

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