- Gender and Relationships
Tips On How To Get A Woman Interested In You
Things To Avoid
The first mistake most men seem to make is the one you likely have prior to reading this: Asking how do I get a woman? Women can smell desperation from a very long way off. They almost always find it off-putting and are very unlikely to respond to a guy who is obviously desperate.
This is no surprise when you think about it. If a guy seems like he will go with anyone, he will not make the object(s) of his affection feel special. In my experience this is very important. Women like to feel they are the special one.
To this end, it is important to make a woman feel like you could have any number of women, but you chose her.
Just good friends? Oh wait...
The second biggest mistake men often make is befriending women. If you meet a woman and are attracted to her, it is important that you let her know.
If you have similar interests and you get on well, fine, this is the first stage of an attraction. People in general are usually more attracted to those who share similar interests and outlooks, hence the matching algorithms of most dating websites.
But do not slip into just being her friend if you have feelings for her. Women like men to be bold, so be bold. You have nothing to lose. That being said, having a female friend can be a good way to meet other women.
A female friend will likely share a lot of your interests and will also have many friends who share them too.
Meeting Women out
Meeting women can be a very easy thing to do. I’ve heard a statistic that in any given nightclub, any man could get on with at least 3% of the women in it.
So how does this help me get a woman you may ask? With this in mind, you could play the numbers.
The more women you meet, the more likely it is that one of them will like you, but be careful: women in clubs usually have their guard up as they expect to be hit on.
Those that don’t may have issues they want to use you to get over, like a huge ex boyfriend with arms built for breaking you into tiny pieces.
Making Your Move
Chat up lines can be a very good way of getting a woman to notice you. Though a lot of women claim not to like them, if they are original and witty, you will find you have a high success rate.
Before you try using a line, choose carefully. Have a look around and see whose eye you catch. If you see a woman you like, hold her gaze.
If she holds yours, smile. If she smiles back, you’re in! This can also be a good way of spotting women with jealous exes in the vicinity. If, whilst smiling at a woman, a guy moves in front of her and looks at you like you just killed his Grandma, move on, quick.
So you've followed the above advice and you're smiling at the lucky winner. Now you just have to think of something to say.
Make sure that any lines you use are tailored to the woman. Cheesy lines can be good, but they must be either believable, or so cheesy that you can say them tongue in cheek and make her laugh.
There are any number of cheesy chat up lines in regular use, so try using them, but make them your own. Change them a little bit to suit her. Note her eye colour, what she is wearing etc and try to include something about her.
If you don’t feel very confident with women, talk to them at every opportunity, but without the intention of getting them into bed. This will put you at ease with them and make it more likely that your conversation will flow when you do meet one that interests you.
Engage yourself in any activity you are good at and enjoy; this will build your overall confidence levels and you will find it easier to engage people.
There are a lot more things to do that can help you to attract women, but the points I have covered are what I feel to be the most important, arranged in order of least to most.
Yes, that's right, confidence is king. Chat up lines you mumbled into your pint whilst turning to run will make Casanova turn in his grave, instead of making women turn over in your bed.
It is better, though not advisable perhaps, to be the opposite and act like you could have anyone than display no confidence whatsoever.
That said, try not to be too arrogant, as this can be a turn-off. Quiet confidence shows you are comfortable with yourself.
Women also like men who show they are interested and who listen to them, so it pays not to talk about yourself for five minutes and listen to her.
Hope this article has been some help. Check out my other articles for more useful tips on dating and the madder sex in general.