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Tips On How To Get A Woman Interested In You

Updated on February 2, 2013
Out of your league? maybe not.....
Out of your league? maybe not.....

Things To Avoid

The first mistake most men seem to make is the one you likely have prior to reading this: Asking how do I get a woman? Women can smell desperation from a very long way off. They almost always find it off-putting and are very unlikely to respond to a guy who is obviously desperate.

This is no surprise when you think about it. If a guy seems like he will go with anyone, he will not make the object(s) of his affection feel special. In my experience this is very important. Women like to feel they are the special one.

To this end, it is important to make a woman feel like you could have any number of women, but you chose her.

Just good friends? Oh wait...

The second biggest mistake men often make is befriending women. If you meet a woman and are attracted to her, it is important that you let her know.

If you have similar interests and you get on well, fine, this is the first stage of an attraction. People in general are usually more attracted to those who share similar interests and outlooks, hence the matching algorithms of most dating websites.

But do not slip into just being her friend if you have feelings for her. Women like men to be bold, so be bold. You have nothing to lose. That being said, having a female friend can be a good way to meet other women.

A female friend will likely share a lot of your interests and will also have many friends who share them too.

Phil tried to distract Monicas attention away from his other hand....
Phil tried to distract Monicas attention away from his other hand....

Meeting Women out

Meeting women can be a very easy thing to do. I’ve heard a statistic that in any given nightclub, any man could get on with at least 3% of the women in it.

So how does this help me get a woman you may ask? With this in mind, you could play the numbers.

The more women you meet, the more likely it is that one of them will like you, but be careful: women in clubs usually have their guard up as they expect to be hit on.

Those that don’t may have issues they want to use you to get over, like a huge ex boyfriend with arms built for breaking you into tiny pieces.

Making Your Move

Chat up lines can be a very good way of getting a woman to notice you. Though a lot of women claim not to like them, if they are original and witty, you will find you have a high success rate.

Before you try using a line, choose carefully. Have a look around and see whose eye you catch. If you see a woman you like, hold her gaze.

If she holds yours, smile. If she smiles back, you’re in! This can also be a good way of spotting women with jealous exes in the vicinity. If, whilst smiling at a woman, a guy moves in front of her and looks at you like you just killed his Grandma, move on, quick.

So you've followed the above advice and you're smiling at the lucky winner. Now you just have to think of something to say.

Make sure that any lines you use are tailored to the woman. Cheesy lines can be good, but they must be either believable, or so cheesy that you can say them tongue in cheek and make her laugh.

There are any number of cheesy chat up lines in regular use, so try using them, but make them your own. Change them a little bit to suit her. Note her eye colour, what she is wearing etc and try to include something about her.

Be Confident

Women love confident men. It's as simple as that. Confidence will get you further with a woman than good looks, brains, chat up lines, a ripped figure or chocolate.

If you don’t feel very confident with women, talk to them at every opportunity, but without the intention of getting them into bed. This will put you at ease with them and make it more likely that your conversation will flow when you do meet one that interests you.

Engage yourself in any activity you are good at and enjoy; this will build your overall confidence levels and you will find it easier to engage people.

Most Importantly...

There are a lot more things to do that can help you to attract women, but the points I have covered are what I feel to be the most important, arranged in order of least to most.

Yes, that's right, confidence is king. Chat up lines you mumbled into your pint whilst turning to run will make Casanova turn in his grave, instead of making women turn over in your bed.

It is better, though not advisable perhaps, to be the opposite and act like you could have anyone than display no confidence whatsoever.

That said, try not to be too arrogant, as this can be a turn-off. Quiet confidence shows you are comfortable with yourself.

Women also like men who show they are interested and who listen to them, so it pays not to talk about yourself for five minutes and listen to her.

Hope this article has been some help. Check out my other articles for more useful tips on dating and the madder sex in general.


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    • xxtonybxx profile image

      xxtonybxx 5 years ago from wales

      Thanks for reading and thanks for the kind words :)

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      Devika Primić 5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      You have definitely mentioned the most helpful tips, I am sure many readers would find it useful as I did

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      xxtonybxx 5 years ago from wales

      Thanks epigramman, though if you could see some of the guys around here, I doubt you'd call them the most sought after haha. Thanks for reading :).

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      epigramman 5 years ago that is where they keep the 'most sought after men in this world' - Wales - you must then check out my hub buddy - she is from Wales , also - her name is Eiddwen.

      So nice to meet you and thank you for you royal endorsement of my humble little hubpage and coming from such a terrific writer like yourself - that really means a lot - I love your advice here to a 54 year old bachelor (not confirmed and still very much alive and vital -lol, you can tell by my writing -lol) ..... you write like a pro - who has been there, done that, and would prefer to leave it behind in Las Vegas - lol - sending you warm wishes and good energy from lake erie time ontario canada and the coldest night of the year 5:44am

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      xxtonybxx 5 years ago from wales

      Thanks Agusfanani :)

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      agusfanani 5 years ago from Indonesia

      Very good tips. Those who try to get women's special attention should read this hub.

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      xxtonybxx 5 years ago from wales

      Thanks Thandi :)

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      wow! excellent writeup. Good job bro. It made a fantastic read.


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      xxtonybxx 5 years ago from wales

      Absolutely Patty. Confidence and show her she's the most important thing. Difficult to go wrong with that combination, unless you have the personality of an amoeba lol.

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      Patty Kenyon 5 years ago from Ledyard, Connecticut

      Interesting Hub!! Some women do like confidence and others feel that too much confidence appears arrogant and they will simply walk away. Women, like many men I know, love to know that they are number one as you stated to feel special. One big thing I notice with some of my males friends is that they will like a girl, but why they are talking to that girl, their eyes quickly dart around for other females...and that is a big no,

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      xxtonybxx 5 years ago from wales

      Hiya mate, thanks for the up :). Have been busy with uni so haven't written for a while, just starting to ease back into it :).

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      daskittlez69 5 years ago from midwest

      Hey stranger. I agree confidence is a huge one. And act like you aren't interested in them, they will want to know why and come after you that much more. great Hub, here is your Up!