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The Ring: Is Its Value Tied To The Depth Of His Love?
Stone In Love...
After dating for over two years Paul proposed to Linda.
Naturally she was overcome with joy and excitement.
It was Paul’s second marriage and Linda’s first.
The next couple of months they spent shopping for her ring.
Eventually they selected a beautiful ring for $3500, which Linda loved.
A few months passed by during the course of a conversation out of curiosity Linda asked Paul where he bought his first wife’s ring and how much it cost.
Without thinking he mentioned the place and it’s $8500 price tag.
Linda has been quietly upset ever since that day.
Intellectually she knows you can’t or shouldn’t “put a price on love” and yet knowing her ring costs $5000 less than the one he gave his first wife was eating at her everyday.
In fact she has stopped polishing her ring daily and sometimes even “forgets” to put it on.
For all she knows maybe the first time around Paul bought a ring he really couldn’t afford or he has become more financially savvy and now prefers to invest his money wisely or spend it traveling.
Would it bother you if you learned your mate spent more money on their ex? Took them to more places? Or they were willing to do various things in the bedroom with them but has no interest in doing those things with you?
Is it fair to compare your mate's past relationship to the current relationship he/she has with you?
Should Linda tell Paul it bothers her knowing her ring costs significantly less than the one he gave his first wife?