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Sweeter as the Years Go By?
These photos were taken on our wedding day on October 5, 2011
Greg and Jenny Love Story
My last hub in hubpages was some time in July or August this year, 2011, when I was not yet sure that Greg would come back to marry me.
Greg and I met on-line in Tagged on August 13, 2010, more than a year before we finally got married. This is really a very spectacular happening in my life; who would think that in my age, 56, I would still marry and with a man from the opposite side of the world?
I had been a widow to New Zealander Adrian Shiels since April 18, 2003; then three years later Englishman Colin Carroll, our neighbour, even before my husband died, became my fiancée. He too died after we lived together for two years, one year of which he spent in and out the hospital for cancer of the lungs. His situation caused me to leave my post as a College Professor and Department Chair of Social Sciences in SPCC; I nursed and took care of Colin through the year 2008 until he died on October 31, 2008. One month before his death, he had a death-bed request for me to write our love story and so he bought me my first laptop for that purpose.
Needless to say, I was devastated in Colin's demise and would not like to live any more, would not like to do anything and was just wishing for my "end" so that I actually got sick and became bedridden for a month. Jobless and dependent on my children, I felt useless and deemed life as meaningless until in 2009, my long time best friend and colleague Engineer Veronica Miguel urged me to go back to work in my old school, SPCC, SPCF now. She and I were among the pioneering Deans in this school in 1995.
For the first time ever afterward, I lived alone in my own apartment as I began to come back to life, with just the laptop as my "companion". It was somewhere in October of 2009 when I started surfing the internet and became a member of some groups such as giftoflovingkindness and two more. Then I discovered that I can talk to other people in the world through chatting; but soon enough I experienced how stressful it was to chat with "internet characters"; they were just unbelievably loathsome for me; then in my second year of teaching back to SPCC, San Fernando branch, I happened to join Tagged, hoping that people there were much better compared to the ones I encountered in Yahoo. In my profile I categorically stated that I was on-line only to chat if I had to, with wholesome people who were sincere in their search for a lifetime partner in marriage and that if our personality and aspirations fit. Eventually, Greg and I met.
Greg and I were just friends in the Net until he made true his promise to see me first in person on February 14, 2011; the first time he visited me here in the Philippines. Only after we met in person did our relationship started to blossom until we became husband and wife.
Now we have one more block to hurdle, my going to the U.S. to join my husband. This is another struggle considering the bureaucracy in the two governments. The frustrations between Greg and I for having this distance relationship as husband and wife, is raising; jealousy, suspicions, and anger are common emotions every time we chat. We need to be together in order to live a normal husband-wife relationship, otherwise, how would we know how much compatible we are or we will be in this distance relationship? Sweeter, or bitter as the years go by?