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Love and Life: What is Your Purpose?

Updated on October 26, 2011

It’s funny how life seems to always fall to pieces for many of us, when we feel that we have everything together. Have you ever sat down and tried to figure out what’s the point in anything anymore? Is it really worth it to make a mistake in life, only to turn around later and regret it? Was it necessary to make the mistake, only to tell yourself it was a life lesson? One that could have been avoided altogether. Some of you I’m sure out there are still trying to find yourself, although you convinced yourself and others that you were never lost. The man that killed all of those women and then himself all because he couldn’t find someone to love him. It’s totally sad, don’t get me wrong, but can you see what love can do to you? There are some things in life we each crave or desire or think we should have, but then someone comes along and proves you all wrong.

Some of us I’ve learned today are destined to be nothing more than the great mothers that we are to our children. Some of us find love in all the “wrong” and “right” places, get with men, and bear their children not knowing if they plan to be with us or not. Some of us are destined sadly to be the mother of a child, whose father chose not to be with us anymore for whatever reason. Life goes on right? The children grow up either being very loving or very bitter and always lost and confused.Women know they can’t trap a man by getting pregnant, because the man will always be “free”. It’s his choice as a man to either do the right thing and stay with the woman to make things work, or he can leave and always have that thought in the back of his mind “what if”.

Fear sadly plays a big part in each of our lives of where things may go in the future. The future can scare some of us, but the truth is, if you can’t see the future, then one shouldn’t have fear. The heart is one of the most sensitive things about us as humans. We can be strong; we can tell ourselves that life will go on. Let the truth be known, sometimes it never does. We sometimes come to a place in our life, where we are standing at a four way stop sign. Not knowing which road to take, we rather avoid getting lost, and just stand there—waiting for someone to give us direction. If you’re like me, then you know that dating and finding love is so hard. We tell ourselves everyday that life is short; with that being said why can’t we just enjoy each other, love each other, and forget the rest. Drop our pride, say our apologies, and pick up where we happily left off.

People will tell you all the time, that time will heal a heart that has been broken. Truth is, time can’t heal something that has been broken, if you can’t let go of what you know in your heart was real. What’s amazing about love and relationships really isn’t just the communication, but the fact that you can love someone and forgive them. One can never forget, and one should never forget because our lives are built on memories. However, the fact that we can forgive (no different than God forgiving us), then it shows the level of commitment and love one has for each other.

Promises will be made and broken, the important message I want to convey is that if you break a promise, you owe that person an explanation why. It could have been just as simple as you forgot you made one. We can’t allow our pride that each of us have, to get in the way of what we are feeling. Pride can take away our joy at any given time, and then we are left in the future wishing we could have just said sorry and moved on. Faith isn’t accidental; we meet people for a reason. Those we feel strongly about, we really try hard to make it work. If you think that being in a relationship means no fights, no disagreements, or arguments it’s because you didn’t care enough about them to begin with to even fight for the relationship.

Commitment can be a scary thing for anyone, but why should it be if you love the person you’re with? Commitment issues can cause you to jump ship, because perhaps you feel that someone else could make them happier. If your man or woman was never complaining that you didn’t make them happy, then you allowed your fears to make a decision that you may end up regretting later. I advise you, if you know like I do, you would put your pride and fears aside and fix the issue quickly. We just don’t get in relationships to all of a sudden months or years later walk away. If you chose to walk out on something that one thought was damn near perfect, as a man or woman you owe them an explanation for your action. It may not make a difference on the relationship, but it will help the victim try their hardest to heal. Healing a broken heart can be long term. Some may never heal.

If you are with someone and you love them, don’t leave them—follow your heart. If you find yourself thinking about this person all the time, it’s because you should be with them. Don’t be selfish and not consider everyone involved, think about it really hard, and figure things out in your life before it’s too late to go back to what you know feels right.

Our love is unconditional
We knew it from the start
I can see it in your eyes
You can feel it from my heart…from here on after
Lets stay the way we are right now
And share all the love and laughter
That a lifetime will allow

I cross my heart
And promise to
Give all I’ve got to give
To make all your dreams come true
In all the world
You’ll never find
A love as true as mine
--George Straight
….One Love…


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