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5 Unique Tips for Singles to Stay Afloat in the Sea of Love

Updated on February 7, 2011

Whether you are single, involved, or somewhere in-between, your love life has no doubt caused you to experience a whole gamut of emotions. It’s part of the human experience and one of the most important vehicles by which you learn your lessons. With a spiritual approach, you will be able to rise above the sorrow and make the most of your love life.

When single and dating, instead of allowing your hopes and dreams to rule, step back, take a breath, relax, and consider the following:

1) Pay attention to where you are at the moment. Are you feeling lonely or content? Needy or strong? Scattered or centered? When you feel complete on your own, you can more easily see and accept dating situations as they really are rather than what you expect or as others tell you they should be.

2) Notice where he or she is at the moment. Why do they want you in their life? What will you being in their life do for them? What are they really looking for? What is their agenda and is it good for both of you or just them? For example, if your potential love interest is very persistent about commitment or seems to be in a hurry to develop a relationship, this is usually (but not always) a bad sign; they are likely too focused on their interests. Read between the lines, find out more about their life before deciding if you want them in yours, and go by actions, not words.

3) Investigate the spiritual and unseen dynamics between you and this new person. We recommend using one or more of the following tools: comprehensive astrology and numerology, handwriting analysis, past life regression, tarot, and others. Remember though, whether you are seeking on your own or using the services of a professional, a surface approach with any of these practices will lead to incomplete, therefore misleading, results.

Even a short meditation, during which you ask for insight from God and, or your spiritual guides of the Light about the situation and person, can yield a simple yet telling clue.

Also, notice how you feel, your gut feeling, in their presence. Are you calm, peaceful, and uplifted, or fearful, guarded, and down? Trust your intuition and you’ll realize whether or not he or she is a good addition to your life, or someone who could drain you emotionally, spiritually, and, or financially. Don’t be afraid to walk away and remain single if it doesn’t feel right and, or if there are obvious red flags.

4) Remember that the fleeting bliss of romance can be different than the realities of the connection. Romance is wonderful, but too much emphasis on relationship traditions and romantic fairy-tales will cloud your perception and eventually lead to disappointment.

5) Ignore the New Age authors who claim you can find your “soul mate” if you buy their book. They’re pros at getting publicity, and their way of selling more books is to make wild promises and back them up with nothing but “I’ve done it, you can too” stories along with poetic prose and affected compassion. If it sounds too good to be true, be wary.

Our findings show us, clearly, that everyone has many soul mates, and that most soul mate relationships are not meant to be “forever.”

The all-p.r.-and-profit-who-cares-about-truths-while-showering-you-with-affected- empathy-and-cheer-leading crowd almost always fails to understand and, or mention that, due to predestination and karma, you can only meet a satisfying, mutually compatible, longer-term soul mate with whom you share mutual chemistry during select times in your life, and no amount of wishful thinking, spells, rituals, or the law of attraction will change that.

You can’t plant your garden in the dead of winter, and you won’t find a rewarding match during the winter of your love life, whenever that may be in your case (as outlined by comprehensive charting). To claim otherwise is irresponsible and often motivated by greed. You want natural love, not a contrived, commercial “soul mate.”

As harsh as it may sound, we’re merely relaying our findings from over 25 years of empirical research on the subject. This dose of reality about dating and love relationships may sound like a downer, but we’d rather have you be aware of the realities than have your head in the clouds and risk heartache or worse. If you’re careful with your love life and use your head and spiritual awareness instead of leading with only your heart, even with all it’s obstacles, you’ll come out on top.

Copyright © Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo


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