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Why some men never marry

Updated on November 18, 2012

Most children assume they are going to grow up find a job, get married, have their own children in some sort of order. However not every body will follow the same path in life especially in the marriage part. There are many men out their that will be single all their life for various reasons as I will talk about later on. The physical appearance of the man doesn't really have much to do with things when it comes to having difficulty in settling down with the same women for the rest of their lives. The same can be said about women, you may know of people and think why on earth has she been single for so long. So beautiful but yet zero love life, what could be the issues there?

Perhaps some people prefer to be alone and would only like to see people at certain periods convenient to them only, long term relationships will seems daunting and will try to avoid them, even if they are getting along well with their partner.

The Reasons


Some men are actually scared to be with the same woman for too long simply due to the fact they feel they could lose their appeal to women in general. Even though it doesn't matter since he should be concentrating and focusing his feeling on his present girl friend, some men just need to know if they still have it. The cheating eventually catches up with them and the relationships end usually with a six month period.


There are men who simply cannot accept compromise. No couple are 100% compatible and there will need to be compromising to some extent by both parties in order to maintain the relationship. Some men cannot accept this and are not willing to change their live style even the slightest even if it will keep their partner happy. For men like this, relationships usually end around the first verbal disagreement with their partner. They will then move on to seek for the perfect partner, which they never find.


Some men are simply so shy around women that they can simply never take the step to begin any relationship in the first place. A women could of course ask them out but they would be such a nervous wreck, the date would be a disaster and he would most likely excuse himself from ever meeting her again. Some men go through their 30's, 40's and even 50's like this. If you know people like this then try you best to introduce them to women. Keep the dates casual with larger groups until he feels comfortable being along (just two).

Confidence / Physical appearance

Unfortunately not everyone is blessed with good looks, and the people who haven't may have had a hard time growing up and many rejections. This natural will kill somebody's confidence about appealing to the opposite sex. Men like this may not ever bother because they already assume they are physically repulsive. This way of thinking will cause a man to be lonely for a long time, even through there are potential dates around. For men like this to succeed in relationships they will need a lot of confidence building.

Too Handsome

You are probably thinking, how can somebody being too handsome have such difficulty in relationships? Well the truth is, men like this are likely to have the most issues, simply because of the attention they get, and then the anticlimax and break up once the women realized what his real personalty is.

These issues can start off in the workplace where business and pleasure gets mixed up, and not only does the relationship not go well but you risk losing your job if things go nasty in the company.

It does't matter how good of a man he is trying to be with his girlfriend. Continuous attention from other attractive women is difficult to ignore for most men. It can be very tempting and will ultimately but a strain of the relationship. Also as mentioned in the begging there is the fear factor here,since very attractive men will of course will be used to getting a lot of attention while single being single. Once in a serious relationship this attention may suddenly drop of and become a shock for some men.

Mental issues

Of course any form of mental issue will make it difficult for some people to form relationships, even simple friends.Even mental issue that seems rather minor on the outside such as depression or Asperger's syndrome can make it difficult for people to engage in long term relationships however they can make friends as normal. More severe conditions such as Autism make make it extremely difficult since people with such a condition may not always understand how to consider other peoples feelings buts not in every case. It may depend on the individual and their are many cases of Autistic people marrying.

What do you think the main reasons are for a man not marrying.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Why some men never marry good points mentioned most men fear commitement

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      Hezekiah 5 years ago from Japan

      Thanks Mellonyy

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      Mellonyy 5 years ago

      Brilliant! Everything is said!

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      Hezekiah 5 years ago from Japan

      Very sorry to hear about that.

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      Brenda Kyle 5 years ago from Blue Springs, Missouri, USA

      I could not vote, my 5 year boyfriend said all of them.

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      Hezekiah 5 years ago from Japan

      Thanks, yes some men will just never and are not interested in marriage.

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      oceanuniverse 5 years ago from California

      Your welcome. Yes, freedom is very important but men also have to see that they don't have to give up on certain things. I believe when you meet the right one you will know. But again some men just don't want to get married and I respect that.

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      Hezekiah 5 years ago from Japan

      Thanks, freedom is very important for many men.

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      oceanuniverse 5 years ago from California

      I like what you have to say and I agree with you about that. Especially men not wanting to lose their freedom; that has been around for a very long time. I think the same can be said for women as well. But again agree with what you have to say, thank-you for sharing.