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A happy married life secrets.

Updated on December 25, 2016

Do's for Happy Marriage...

*Always have no or very low expectations from your married partner.

*Never ever compare your partner with othe partners.

*"Hug" and "kiss" you partner as often as you can.

*Tell your partner that you love them.

*Never criticize your spouse in public

 

People say Marriages are made in Heaven. If that is so then why are we getting married on earth? The fact is that you and only you can make your marriage life either hell or heaven. Everybody dreams of having a life partner who would be caring, loving, understanding and an emotional support at times of need. But how many really manage to get a life partner of their dreams? The fact is 70- 80 marriages fail that is they dont even cross 10 years of existence and the one which do survive of them 98% of married men and women are unhappy. Just barely tolerating each other. Why?

The root cause of all marriages that fail is the 'perfect image syndrome'. Here one partner wants to marry a life partner of his or her dreams. When the image of the dream partner fails to match with the real partner in life, the result is dead broken unhappy marriage. This is same with other partner's dreams. So the problem is not in the partner itself, it's in the 'Expectations' one has from other partner. If we are just wise enough to accept our partner simply as he or she is, we would have real alive, spicy and long lasting relationship. Remember nobody in this world is 'perfect'. The fact is that there are no dream partners. Always value 'realities' than 'fantasies'.

People think that their partner is going to make them happy. The fact is that No material wealth, success or good partner can make u happy. The 'joy' that u have is dependent only on one person and that is 'you' 'yourself'. When you accept the reality as it is. When you stop judging your partner and instead experience them then there isn't wastage of energy. No inner conflict within you. This stillness of energy is 'joy' and happiness. So always remember that Happiness comes when things are accepted as they are.

Sex is the need for each body alive. Just like we need food, water and oxygen. Sex plays an important role in keeping the marriage life 'spicy' and 'lively'. But one must not be too much dependent on it. Beauty in heart matters more than body. One should never compare their partner with someone else. Remember being happy with what you have is more important than being miserable about the things which you dont have.

And finally the essence on which the marriage works is 'Time'. What matter is how much 'quality' time the couple spends with each other. Communication can go a long way in strenghtening a marriage. For instance it shouldn't be hard for the partner to say 'Love you' as many times a day as possible. Frequent 'hugs' can make the relationship warm and cosy.

So enjoy your relationship. And indeed you can make 'Heaven on Earth'!

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      Cleanclover 6 years ago from Piece of land!

      Thank you Prairieprincess. Wish you a longlasting fruitful and loving relationship :-))

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      Sharilee Swaity 6 years ago from Canada

      I agree, Cleanclover ... it is our expectations that will be the death of a marriage. We expect what is impossible, and then are disappointed. To accept your spouse is the greatest gift!

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      Cleanclover 7 years ago from Piece of land!

      Yep lisa i agree. Thank you :-)

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      lisa 7 years ago

      Sex but also attraction is very important. If there was little attraction in the beginning could be hard. But if attraction is faded away, it would be easier to bring it back.

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      Cleanclover 7 years ago from Piece of land!

      Thank you all

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      Marriage Counselors 7 years ago

      Sometimes its better to touch your partner during talking and this makes your spouse more friendly and trustworthy. Then you spouse feel free to share everything to you. If you did something wrong then you know the skills how to say sorry to your spouse or partner. This is all depends upon the communication skills and intellect. Certified marriage counselors and relationship saving programs are teaching the same thing in their relationship restoring programs. You can tell to your partner that “I m sorry, I said something wrong to you but from my heart I never want anything wrong will happens to you. There are many different way to say sorry. To learn some more tips you can visit us

      http://www.marriage-counselors.net/

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      Corina 8 years ago

      I agree with failed expectations, it's hard to be happy if you expect something different from your parnter all the time. Sometimes less expectations the better :)

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      Cleanclover 8 years ago from Piece of land!

      You are welcome enamfs

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      enamfs 8 years ago from Lake side.

      Cleanclover, thanks for such real and adaptable as well as undeniable observations. Hope more from you!

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      Cleanclover 9 years ago from Piece of land!

      Yes Thank you for your comments Mrmarmalade and Omdelhi

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      Om Prakash Singh 9 years ago from New Delhi

      Well said, the marrid life is also combined by a very thin thread of faith on each other.

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      MrMarmalade 9 years ago from Sydney

      That is truly a great hub.

      Send us more.

      There are three things I learnt a long time ago.

      1. What you think of yourself

      2. What your best thinks of you.

      3 What every one else thinks of you.

      That is three different views.

      95% chance they will not correlate with each other

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