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Why can't we be friends??

Updated on February 25, 2010

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 Sometimes having a friend is more difficult than being one! Flipside that.......being one is harder to do! There it is black and white! It truly is give and take ! That was simple huh? Well it should be! If we have not an intimate relation or business one, keeping sex and money away from that table, everything usually can be worked out without too much ado!
However when two get along so well, making it look so simple to always be there for each other, having positive feedback and just in general being the source and sometimes resource for our friend, we just cant help it if there happens to be mutual attraction... We dive right on in , into an intimate relationship! Well, why not?? Its all there! I believe many great relationships are based in that order! After years of enjoying the intimate part, we are left with our dearest, most trusted friend....right? Now I shall say....."In a Walgreen world" !
The scenerio listed above is sweet, and very much possible too! We just have to remember not to forget our significant other is our friend, and needs to vent, share, ask questions, and last but not least, feel your support! If we treated our partner with the same level of compassion, honesty, integrity and forgiveness that once was showered upon them.... I for one believe the relationship would last and grow as high and strong as the mountains, reaching the freshest of air and tranquility known to man!
The otherside of this coin is basing a relationship on that mutual attraction and the friendship is to follow...... That is a possibility as well! Many times to find that there is not enough common ground to build a friendship filled with unconditional love! This excerpt is short, Most understand what I mean!
The main stay here is that when you build a very real friendship that turns into an intimate relationship, why do we not invest that same time keeping it real and fresh, without harsh judgement of one another, and helping each other find peace within at the end of the day? EVERYDAY! The end result is so pleasing AHHHHH ok my perfect ending is about to get messy......
We have tried to make it work to no avail, and at the end of this day we are to conclude this........a song I remember well "Why can,t we be friends" Makes sense to me!!


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      Momma Mia 7 years ago from North Carolina

      Very true if one has no expectations one has nothing to compare to or measure by. I feel if one knows themselves well ...they realize what they can handle in another.

      Thanks for reading Astra Nomik and you have a great week!


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      Cathy Nerujen 7 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

      Being best friends can be just as amazing as being lovers. My best friend is my partner, and she is more than that even again. I learned more from her than anyone I have met in my whole life, apart from School teachers, maybe.

      Friends can be soulmates, if they are everything we want in a friend or lover. If not, then maybe they are either the wrong fit, or just destined to be regular friends.

      Sometimes there can be mutual attraction, but it might be only physical. It's not wrong. It's another part of the whole thing. I came into my relationship with almost no expectations, maybe that's why it works so well. I wish you luck. Beautiful hub again. :)

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      Momma Mia 7 years ago from North Carolina

      Thankyou for reading tipaque!! I will be reading some of yours now as well!



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      Tammy 7 years ago from USA

      That is so true. Great hub!