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Teenage Marriages Are Likely to End Unhappily

Updated on October 4, 2012

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By Roldens Paulynice

As most of us can realize, most teenagers are not mature enough to think critically and to really understand life. For example, they do bad things, they don’t know how to act, and they don’t even think about the consequences of what they do. There are times that I sit quietly and ask myself about why teenage marriage is legal and possible, but I can’t find an answer. As several studies or statistics have shown, teenage marriage is legal and possible in almost every country, and more than fifty percent of teenagers who get married divorce within less than twenty years. Today, after taking my time to think critically and carefully about some characteristics that cause most teenage marriages to end unhappily, I come up with three fundamental characteristics. Teenage marriages are likely to end unhappily because teens are inadequately mature; they don’t have adequate economical or financial support; or they have a lack of relationship experiences.

As most people know, maturity is one of the primary characteristics that a marriage should have. It helps both partners to know how to think, how to act, or how to respond to some difficult situations or circumstances. Most teenagers don’t have the ability to think reasonably because they behave childishly, or they are simply too immature to remain reasonably when stressed. For example, a friend of me names Jean was married to young girl at age of fifteen. After a couple of months, problems started taking place in his relationship, such as jealousy and others. Jean didn’t know how to act positively toward his wife and how to respond to those tremendous problems, but he pretended that using profanity and fighting with his wife were the best ways to overcome those problems. Unfortunately, after a couple years, Jean and his wife divorced. When those kinds of situations are present in a relationship, it’s significant or crucial that both partners communicate rationally to each other in order to find an appropriate way to solve them. But what was wrong with Jean? What caused him to act like that? Most of us will say because he was immature. People who are adequately mature are less likely to fight or disrespect their wives in order to solve a problem.

For another instance, it’s difficult for teenagers to find jobs that pay more than average salary because most of them don’t have high educational levels. As a result, they need to have more than one job in order to support their families, which not allow them enough time to continue their education. Sometimes, they may have problems with their partners when they are unable to take care of their families’ needs, which are paying rent or bills, providing food, shelter, and others, so economic difficulty can cause problems and divorces in their relationships.

The lack of relationship experiences can cause teenage marriages to end unhappily and brings problems in their relationships, such as cheating, jalousies, and others. For example, a young man named Johnny got a girl pregnant at age of fourteen, and both parents made the decisions to marry them while they were in school. After a couple years of their marriage, Johnny saw some other beautiful girls, and he said to his wife that he is so regretful to marry her because she’s not his type. Problems preoccupied their relationships, and he started cheating on his wife and treating her badly. Unfortunately, after a couple of years, they divorced. In this kind of situation, what caused them to divorce? It was simply a lack of experience that Johnny had about relationships because he got married while he was a teenager.

In order for us to succeed in our marriages, we should have an adequate maturity level to respond to some difficult situations that may take place in our relationships, and we should have adequate economic support and relationship experiences. Because without one of them, problems may occur. When it comes to teenagers, most of them are not mature enough, their economic situations are not responding to marriage, and they have a lack of experience with relationship. These are some characteristics that can give us the reasons that most teenage marriages are likely to end unhappily.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Roldens Paulynice, author of this research, was born in December 24, 1990 in Gonaives, Haiti. He has published many short stories and essays, especially about relationship or love, literature review, education, and politics. Think before You Act and What Causes Many College Students to Fail or Drop out are two of his works that he likes the most. Fortunately, in February 2009, he had the chance to come to the United States, attended Glade Central High School, and graduated in May 2010 with a 3.08 GPA. In May 8, 2012, he graduated from Palm Beach State College with an Associate in Arts Degree. Right now, he is attending Florida Atlantic University, pursuing his BS in accounting and business administration. In the near future, he wants to become a CPA. Being a writer is something that he has certain zeal to become in his life, but right now, he is trying, hoping to become a famous one day. He is the author of Teenage Marriages Are Likely to End Unhappily, Think before You Act, What Causes Many College Students to Fail or Dropout, Many People Get Married for Foolish Reasons, An Essay about the Tell-Tale-Heart and The Black Cat, and many other works.


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      Jason B Truth 6 months ago from United States of America

      Roldens? I completely get it. I remember back in the late 1990s when actor Macauley Culkin and actress Rachel Miner both married at the age of 17. Everyone thought that they looked so cute together. They were two high school sweethearts in love with each other, tying the knot and thinking that their great wealth would make their marriage indestructible to all difficulties. However, it didn't take many people very long to realize that this couple had nothing more than just a clown-car marriage that lasted physically for only two years and legally for only four years. Later on, Macauley Culkin became a complete trainwreck, sinking into a life of drug abuse. I honestly don't believe that he would have ever made it in show business if his aunt, Bonnie Bedelia, weren't an actress. However, there is the other side of this issue that greatly concerns me. Currently the Tahirih Justice Center and Unchained At Last are going around the United States of America, misinforming the public that all underage marriages are forced and coercive, which couldn't be any further from the truth. They are urging state legislatures to eliminate all exceptions to the minimum marriageable age of 18 years old. I wholeheartedly do not believe that the government and lawmakers have the right to be getting involved in the institution of marriage and playing with people's lives like that. However, if our nation must decide whether or not underage marriages should be legal, then I strongly feel that it should be up to the people rather than the state legislators to decide the fate of underage marriage. Therefore, it would make more sense just to put a proposition on a state ballot for the people to decide what should happen to underage marriage rather than leave it to the state legislators to make that decision. Otherwise, I say that the United States of America should just maintain the status quo regarding the statutory exceptions to the minimum legal marriageable ages across the nation.

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      Mark Tulin 8 months ago from Santa Barbara, California

      Totally agree about teenager marriages. It's never an easy endeavor, especially at that age. Thanks

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      stella vadakin 23 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

      It has to do with respect and maturity and taking responsibility. Great article.

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      Dada18 3 years ago

      i really like ur story koz their so many teens act before they think.

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      Fay Favored 3 years ago from USA

      It's true, sometimes teens marry on a whim, but so do adults. So much to consider before marrying that people don't realize until it's too late. I do have to say that many teen marriages do work out beautifully, especially those who have put God first. Thanks for the info.

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      yea i agree with you my friend....

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      Cherish77 4 years ago

      Great hub, it is true most teenagers should not marry. Sometimes even some adults do not even have the maturity to handle marriage. Most times teenage marriages are a result in teenage pregnancies. I pray to God my daughter never gets pregnant as a teen, or that my son doesn't get somebody pregnant. My sister got pregnant at 16, and subsequently got married. Amazingly she are still married after over 20 years, we did not like him that much, but my parents were afraid that she'd run away and they would never see her again, so they consented. In the beginning we were hoping it wouldn't last because he was so jealous and paranoid, but eventually he chilled out and they seem to be really happy.

      I have a friend that pregnant at 23, she wasn't married to the guy, he basically just used her, when she told him she was pregnant, he didn't believe her, and wouldn't own up to it till the baby was almost 2. He is getting to be a better father, but he didn't want to make the commitment to the mother.

      People need to think about who they are with before they jump into bed with them.

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you so much my friend....i really appreciate that.......

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      Ms. Immortal 4 years ago from NJ

      Great information, I will pass it on to my teenage sons :o)

      Thanks.

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      thank u so much my friend...

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      Cheryl J. 4 years ago from Houston, TX

      Your information is highly beneficial. Many of today's teenagers should read your hub and gain insight on creating and developing a successful marriage. Awesome hub.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      yea @Btrbell...Thank you so much for your comment...

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      Randi Benlulu 5 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Interesting and true! Marriage can be difficult at any age but immaturity is certainly a major contributer to it's failure!

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      yeah my friend i agree with your comment...

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      Mikal Smith 5 years ago from Vancouver, B.C.

      I was married at 19 and have many friends whose marriages and long-term relationships started as teenagers. Many of them, like me, are still in strong relationships to this day. I also know a number of people who married late in life and ended their marriages not long after. Having a succesful marriage is not about age it is about open communication, commitment and mutual respect.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      This is great my friend.......

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      Faith Reaper 5 years ago from southern USA

      Very interesting and thought-provoking. I was married at age 19 and my husband 18, as yes we were very stupid high school sweethearts. However, this past weekend, we celebrated our 34th wedding anniversary. My husband was in the Air Force when we got married and so it wasn't like we were really "teenagers." Lot's of compromises and maturing to kind of grow up together, but we are still here. We probably both wanted to quit a couple of times, but we stuck it out. Voted Up. In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      thank you so much my friend...

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      Giselle Maine 5 years ago

      Very well written, nicely set out. I agree with you that there is so much that stems from having a proper maturity level for marriage. Thanks for this great hub.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      yeahhh my friend...

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      fjohn 5 years ago from india

      https://hubpages.com/relationships/Love-Love-Love-...

      this hub will help us to knoe more about relationship

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you my friend...

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      fjohn 5 years ago from india

      good job...... keep it up!!

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Okay, i will

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      James W. Nelson 5 years ago from eastern North Dakota

      You have some good thoughts here, Paulynice, so maybe the young people you know who are contemplating mariage you will talk with, just to give them a chance to talk too and think about what they are doing. And thank you for the follow.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you so much my friend @ Nancy Owens......

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      Nancy Owens 5 years ago from USA

      You write with clarity and insight about a very important social topic. Great Job. Voted up and useful!