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Simple Steps in Creating Better Relationships

Updated on August 29, 2015

Create Better Relationships With Everyone You Meet

We all want to create better relationships.

Great relationships with spouse or lover, children, family, in-laws, neighbors, co-workers, bosses and friends.

But not all are easy to accomplish.

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The Mirror Effect

Know Thy Self First!

To create better relationships with others you have to love yourself first. How you see others is also how they see you. Sort of like a mirror image of what we put out we get back.

Change your view of someone and you will change how you feel about them.

I know this is not easy to do, as some people just do their utmost to antagonize others. But as aggravating as they are, if you try to understand why they act that way it might just be easier to accept.

Others bad behavior towards us can teach us a lot about ourselves. Do we make them react to us by what we say? Is there a kinder way to say things? Do we have the patience and tolerance to smile in spite of how they behave to us?

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Angry Business Man
Angry Business Man

The Baggage Other People Carry With Them

Not All Things Are As They Appear To Be

When others are bullies it is because they feel inferior in some way and you never know what their deep seated problem is.

Could it be that someone bullies them or when they were younger they were bullied? Did they feel helpless in situations?

When a person is put in a position of power and does not feel that they are capable of doing the job they might take it out by being bossy.

They lack self-esteem to be able to command authority without having the ability to be compassionate.

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Bullying Happens in the Workplace, Not Just on the School Grounds - Identifying is only part of the solution.

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Easy Ways To Diffuse Problems

Don't Lose Your Power By Being Angry

If another person raises their voice when talking to you, do not respond in the same way.

No matter how angry they make you feel, responding by yelling louder will only fuel the fire.

I found many a time that if you lower your voice and speak slowly that it will actually diffuse the situation.

If you are used to shouting matches...try this it really works.

You cannot have a screaming match if only one is yelling.

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Smile and Stay Calm

Kindness Can Conquer

Calmness will make you and others feel better. It will bring peace to any situation. Don't allow others to take your power away from you by engaging in a fit of hatred.

Smile even when you are fuming inside. Sure at times you can tell someone that what they said to you was rude, but also tell them "even so, I forgive you". This will take anyone off guard.

If we work at making the relationships we have function normally we need to understand that we are not always correct.

We have to accept that other people's opinions are not necessarily our own and who is to say that they are wrong.

Even if they are wrong, unless it personally affects you, it should really be none of your concern.

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Be Aware of The Foolish Traps

People Don't Always Mean What They Say

People don't always want your advice and even if they ask for it, they really don't want it, unless you are agreeing with them!

True hard fact to accept, but it is one you should remember if your goal is to create better relationships.

Don't misunderstand this statement, as when your boss wants your opinion, be brave and tell what you think. He/she may be upset but will in the end respect you for it.

Now go out there and create those awesome relationships!

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We must do whatever we can to make relationships work if possible, for our own peace of mind.

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How do you make your relationships work?

Do you have a dysfunctional workplace?

Guestbook Comments Are Welcome! - Don't be shy, leave a comment about what you have learned on relationships.

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