- Gender and Relationships
You Deserve A 2Sweet Home
Kimwaki and the Weaver Birds
To create a sweet home, we need love, good environment, contentment and good health. Happiness of both parents will produce a loving home for the upbringing of the children. Our friends who come into our home should be home builders and not destroyers. When I think about my family, parents and the love we all once shared, it was destroyed by friends and close relatives who envied the love my parents shared together. It is sad that the sweet home we cherished did not exist again until my father died,
Love and Understanding
I read a folk story from a book titled ''Fireside Tales from the North.'' It was about a lazy boy named Kimwaki. His father bequeathed all his wealth to him after he died and he thought he will never face hunger all the rest of his life. So, he sat back, rested and helped no one. He lived in a land where all the neighbors helped each other, but no one lifted up their finger to help Kimwaki because he was lazy and he helped nobody. The months went by and things went from bad to worse for Kimwaki. He started to feel lonely. One early spring, he decided to nap under a tree. He was woken up by the twittering singing of the birds. When he opened his eyes, he saw a flock of little weaver birds up in the tree. They were all busy for it was nesting time. The male weaver birds were building nests for the young ones. This made Kimwaki to open his eyes wider. He noticed each male weaver did his share to build the colony. Busily all the birds worked till evening until the frame of the little nests were completed. Every day, kimwaki watched these diligent feathered weaver bird workers. In a short while the whole colony had finished the nests that hung from the branches of tree. During this period, Kimwaki was learning a lesson of the birds co-operation. Finally, he thought to himself ''I have two hands to work and am a big man.These birds are tiny and have sheltered themselves. They are wise but I am not.''
The next day he took his hoe and went to his neighbor’s field and began to clear the weeds and grass. He worked all day long in a friendly way while others joined him. When evening came he went home happy and lighthearted like the weaver birds. He continued for months, going to all his neighbors fields to clear it. One day, he woke up and heard the sound of chattering and laughter. His neighbors were hoeing and clearing the weeds that covered his fields. They helped him to plant his crops and repair his roof. As time progressed, his crops grew and his animal’s health was restored. He gave thanks to the little weaver birds for showing him that unselfishness and hard work can bring peace, security and happiness. A human home is more complex than a bird's nest.
From this story, we humans have a lot of lesson to learn. The young ones have to live in their human homes for several years with their parents. Their physical, mental and spiritual growth is slower than that of animals. Our home is intended to be a real haven of paradise, rest and joy. It is meant to be like our little heaven where children learn the virtues of unselfishness, joy, loyalty and co-operation. It is supposed to be a home where children grow happily under the tutelage, guidance and comfort of their loving parents until they leave their nest and establish a new home for themselves. There are some that think that life and home must be like the brutal ways of the jungle. They argue that human feelings does not matter, this not true.
When the ALMIGHTY GOD created man in HIS own image, HE placed man in a beautiful garden and not in a cruel heartless jungle with no law except survival of the fittest. A happy home should be the goal and desire of every human being born into this world. No child should be allowed to stay in an unhappy home that causes unhappiness, sickness, both of the spirit, body and mind.
The great price
To have a happy home, you must be ready to pay the price. It is not money that counts. A sweet home is worth all it costs. The parent’s personalities blend as they settle the quarrels amicably without injuring the young ones. The poorest people in the world who don't have money are usually happy in their homes. There are rich people who have all but their homes are plagued with unhappiness and joylessness. Both parent must possess wholesome personalities and have a good outlook of life.
How to build a sweet home
Parents should learn to give themselves little joy, kindness and happy surprises all the time. Selfishness and greediness must not be present in a happy home. A selfish man or woman will think of himself or herself only and to the detriment of the other. Young ones should be guided not to marry a selfish, stingy man or woman. These attributes can cause unhappiness and break homes. People who are really in love with each other are not selfish and demanding. Jealousy and envy should have no place in a sweet home. A jealous person is always insecure. A sweet home can't be built around a person whose feeling is easily injured and who can't endure tribulations, problems and criticisms. A happy home should be bright, clean and the rooms well ventilated, full of sunshine and fresh air. In essence, the smell around the home should be sweet and clean for the family to enjoy.
Mothers -the center of the home
Mothers hold the future of the human race in their hands. They should discipline, train and guide their young girls. Education is important to a young man but education in the art of homemaking is more important for a young woman. The success of the family, community and the world depends on the young women of today and the kind of home they build. All things considered, a sweet home will produce happy children and eventually a happy world. Making a sweet home will demand GOD'S grace as you seek HIS face and live accordingly to HIS principles on a daily basis. Saturate your home with prayers and you will enjoy a sweet home. A husband and wife true to each other will surely have a lasting and happy home the rest of their lives.
Wife: Why do you go on the balcony when I sing?
Don't you like to hear me sing?
Husband: I want the neighbors to see I'm not beating my wife!
Ref:- ''Kimwaki and the Weaver Birds '' From Tales from The North
Sweet Family Wall Papers from Amazon
Our homes can be made beautiful (not physically) when their is good communication
and close relationship between husband and wife.