What Is Love ? The Love and Sex Issue.
Love Sex And You
While I was working on my blog , I received a call ,oh! That's my friend . Usually friends call me when they have some issues with their partner . oh no , I am not a "love guru" but yes I think I am able to understand their problems to its core . Even you can . Wondering How ? That's because almost all the relationship problems have a common origin and now you are guessing "What's that?" (of course i will tell you ) so to start with , as every subject has its own basics and some important concepts , say mathematics have basic as numbers , concept as addition , subtraction etc etc . Love has its own Basics and Concepts . To begin with , lets see how many of you can answer my questions correctly .
- What is love?
- Which part of our body is associated with love ?
- What is sex?
- Difference between love and sex?
Now you must be thinking "oh god it looks like my biology paper " True but That's the basic of ones being . Anyway without wasting your time further I would like to start with the answers .
Love in simple words is a feeling , an emotion , something which can be experienced , so can I say , it's a psychological process .Yes, I can . If you think love is beautiful I would say stop you are not yet ready to fall in love , because love is not beautiful , Its Beautifully Painful. Your assumptions are not correct . What made you make these assumptions ? oh movies ...but its not always the way it is shown in movies . Do not compare your relationship with movie romance and your partner with romantic hero's . If you are really comparing your partner to romantic hero's then I would suggest , First compare yourself to romantic heroine's . Movies are for entertainment and its money making business but not life . Life is mix bag of happiness , sadness etc . and not just good stuff . Life is not money making business , Yes we do need money , we work hard to earn money but that's not the only aim of life , so life is not business . Movies always have a happy endings , I am not saying that happy endings exist only in movies , Yes happy endings do exist in real life too but not for all , and not so happy . Love is not always happy or positive , it is a mix of everything , where there is a positive there is a negative too and negatives make the positive . It does not matter how positive or negative it is , till you are experiencing it together .
From the time we are born everybody has been telling us that love is associated with heart and it hurts when people break apart . So this means if I would have told you that love is associated with your nose , after breakup you would have said" You cheat I hate you You Broke My nose" . Funny right so lets face it ,The Mind is the center of Our Body and Therefore is directly associated with love and not mind . So the point is Think Before You Fall In Love even while you are in love . Do not lose your thought process and let go . Think on things . Save yourself from being cheated .
Sex is something physical , not just pleasure but pain too . So we can say its a biological process. A Humanistic Psychologist , Abraham Maslow gave "The Hierarchy Of Need" which states that , the Basic Needs are Physiological needs , i.e , hunger , thirst , sex etc . So this means sex is a need , just like food and water . Of course at a particular age and time , its not like hunger and thirst which is present even in the infants or from the time we are born but its a biological need of our body at a particular age . I do not mean that go around have sex and call your girlfriend /boyfriend and ask" Hey Baby, Did you have your sex today?" rather than "Hey Baby, Did you have your lunch today?" . Again not always believe in what movies show , its not only pleasure but pain too . Actually it depends on the answer to the question "with whom?" Lovers 'make love' and while making love , love is being spread everywhere , flowing in the air and even between two people and so pleasure takes over pain . When its with someone else with no strings attached its 'having sex' and so the pain takes over pleasure .
Most of the love issues arise because we are not able to distinguish between love and sex . I hope its clear by now , but still lets see the differences . People use the words 'love' and 'sex' interchangeably . They are two different concepts and need to be kept separate . Let's face it , Sex can be a market , product or service which can be bought or sold but not love . Sex can be a business but not love . They are different concepts with high correlation . Which means If I love someone I would want to have sex with him / her and no one else , but then this does not mean that if your boy / girl had sex with someone else , you fire them . Damn , understand there is a difference between ' making love' and 'having sex' . Try to ask yourself, What went wrong and Where ? , What made him / her go out and do such stuff ? Again , I am not supporting sex outside relationship but I am just telling you that , when we clap its the motion of two hands and not just one . So go fight , Ask questions and If you get a satisfactory justification , Learn from it and Try to not let it happen again rather than just going with the crowds , blaming each other and finally ending on bad note .Trust each other . Try to find the answer to your "Why?"
- Do not compare your relationship with movies .
- Do not listen to what others say about your relationship . Its your relationship , You are living it and So you know it better .
- No two love stories can be same so don't ever learn from others experience . Make your own mistakes and learn from them .
- Laugh together , fight with each other , ask questions , give answers but always Trust each other .
- Breaking up is never a solution . Cowards run away but lovers face it , together .