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Understanding the word soulmate
Understanding the word soulmate
Genesis 2: And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul (KJV)
Genesis 2:20 And Man gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the heavens, and to every beast of the field; but as for Adam, he found no helpmate, his like. 21. And Jehovah Elohim caused a deep sleep to fall upon Man; and he slept. And he took one of his ribs and closed up flesh in its stead.
2:22 And Jehovah Elohim built the rib that he had taken from Man into a woman; and brought her to Man. 23.And Man said, This time it is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh: this shall be called Woman, because this was taken out of a man.Darby bible translation
Understanding that God does create soulmates for his children is evident in the bible. However, many people still think that there is something wishy washy about the word soulmate. New Age beliefs have taken over the very concept of the word soulmate and it has turned off many people, especially Christians, because we don't want to associate any of our beliefs with things of new age or mysticism. Personally, I separate my beliefs of where the word soulmate comes from. I know that God created one helpmate for me, he has a soul and he is a mate. So when I put those two words together it forms one word for me and that is soulmate. Quite simple, isn't it? God did not create man nor woman to be alone, that is why he created Eve for Adam and Adam for Eve. God knew our destinies and future before we were born, he knew us when we were in our mother's womb. Therefore, he has our best interest at heart and he definitely wanted us to have the cream of the crop when it comes to having a husband or wife. However, sometimes we can't wait for God's destiny and greatness for our lives; we run out there and date, get involved in the wrong relationships and marry the wrong types of people. Sometimes our family and friends can look at a mate that we've picked out and they can see something we can't see, right away. They can see that our choice in a mate will destroy us and make us unhappy in the long run. God give us all a gift to discern whether something is good for us or not. It's just that sometimes we want a relationship so desperately that we neglect the fact that this man is a philanderer or wife beater. We will put up a fuss with our families in defense of our destructive relationships. Later down the line when we are in divorce court, we are angry at God and asking him why he led us to this marriage in the first
place. It is not God's fault, you do have free will and he will not stop you from pursuing whatever relationship you want. He does, however give you that gift of discernment and you choose not to use it. All you can do is trust the Lord from now on to guide you to a gentleman who will be God's plan for your life. The fear of being alone, wanting a regular sex life, wanting someone to take care of us financially, wanting to have children, or looking for love in the face of someone who really doesn't love you because you didn't get it at home with your parents are all paths that can lead you to a relationship you will later regret. Not everyone you meet, God has intended for you to be in a serious relationship with. Satan wants you to fail at everything you do including in your relationships while the good Lord God wants you to have the very best that life has to offer you. He wants you with a good mate. Being happy with yourself, being content, Praying to God for a Godly mate, Being patient and having faith that you will receive this from the Lord, you will land your soulmate at God's perfect timing.
Knowing that you have a soulmate out there after someone you were involved in a relationship with previously, has dumped you. It brings comfort to a broken hearted man or woman when they know that there is someone else out there who will fit their lives better. Again, Not everyone you meet, God has intended for you to be in a serious relationship with. Some people hop out of one bad marriage and hop right into another bad marriage quickly just for the sake of being married. They settle for whatever they think is right, later to be disappointed when they are involved in the wrong kinds of relationships or marriages. People that think negatively about the word soulmate, usually have no hopes or belief of a future with someone who will love them the right way. They believe in what feels good
right now and accept that whomever they are involved with now is possibly their soulmates. They don't think they can do any better or that God had something better for them. When I say he wants the best for his children, I don't mean he wants you with the cutest looking girl on the block, you know the one who is conceited and mean. God doesn't want you with this mean girl. He would rather you marry the girl from your job, she may not be that attractive but she is one of the most sweetest, kindest girls in the world. Only Jesus Christ is perfect, so if you are blessed with a soulmate, you can't expect him or her to be perfect. They'll have flaws, they will make mistakes, you'll still argue and have trials and tribulations. But everything in this life is definitely a test. Satan is still running loose causing havoc in the best of lives and against the best of people. It is up to a couple to be strong and overcome against the wiles of the devil.
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