understanding your love

Sometimes “some” of us women forget how or why we fell in love. It’s quite simple. As you grow older you may notice some things that require change, but how does that affect him? See when you are just friends you hang out and have fun enjoying one another’s company. The more you hang out and spend time you may say to yourself “Hmm I really think I like him”. However, the biggest mistake some of us make is changing the love. When you fall in love with someone usually some of the flaws are overlooked, if not most. Before you fall in love you need to take time and observe and understand your love. If you fell in love, why change what you love?

Here are some things to remember that are important about a fresh beautiful fun filled relationship. Every relationship has that “HONEYMOON’’ phase. Therefor it is very important that once the season for those rose glasses to go up and bring out the winter gear that you and your love are still standing and stronger than what you were before. The rough stage. If not all most women and men will experience the rough stage. The rough stage is the stage when something goes wrong and it seems like downhill. It could be a number of things. Either a death in the family or just a simple impact in a close friend’s life. Men and women are different when it comes to displaying emotions. Some men have to get away from the world until the cool off and then some that will cry and express themselves. Ladies key thing to remember also….MEN HAVE EMOTIONS ALSO! The role that they sign up for is to be that protector, so never forget that because that is also a quick way to ruin something beautiful. Take time to get to know who you are falling in love with. Though things may seem peachy and glamorous you can never be too careful with taking your time and really getting to know someone. Another quick reminder. A title is just that…a title. You get them for cars, homes, etc. Don’t allow a title to make you feel like you are the brightest star in the sky. That my beautiful ladies start with you on the inside. So don’t rush because of a title, because just as easy as you get you can lose it. See how he responds to your needs. This is how you test your communication. Usually when a man sees his queen sad or frustrated they always seem to find a way to make us feel better. Then you have some who just don’t care or feel that some things aren’t meant to dwell on or they just don’t know how to show compassion. This is very important in a relationship because some of us women need to have that hug or shoulder to cry on when we are feeling down because of the strength of the situation. It really all just depends. I can almost guarantee that once you experience this and you are just friends you will know where to keep that person, but if you really like this person let them know how it affects you and see if they are will to change that or at least be there for you emotionally because if not there is no need for a relationship. Know who you are. If you are not in tune with yourself you can never really expect anyone else to. Loving yourself is really important before even allowing yourself to step foot in some else life. There are some many things that come with this issue and if you really want to be at peace you must first love you like no one else would love you. Because we are not perfect we tend to make mistakes and when you make mistakes people sometimes get hurt. See where I’m going with this? Never rely on another person to bring you happiness. Well I hope that this will help someone out in our world because I have experienced everything I spoke on and if it helped me I really hope it helps someone else also.