A Wedding Bonfire: Add Heat to Your Nuptials

A wedding bonfire can be a great addition to your wedding reception, as long as you're holding your reception in a place where fires are allowed.

My sister's reception was in the backyard of our parent's house, where we have a firepit. Although we had to use some tricks to make sure the firepit looked good during the day, it definitely gave some added oomph to the celebration at night! If you decide to have a bonfire for your wedding, don't forget to research the fire safety rules for your location first.

We have a firepit behind our house, and we needed a way to make it look tidier, as it was in the middle of the reception area. So, we placed a bunch of logs from our woodpile in a pleasing array. The makings of the bonfire are seen here topped by the bags of birdseed for throwing later.

Feel the Warm Glow

Picture this: you've exchanged your vows, fed your hungry guests and danced under the stars. You've changed out of your wedding clothes, but you're not ready for the night to end just yet. And now it's starting to get dark and maybe even a bit chilly.

Luckily, you're prepared! You've laid the foundation for you bonfire, and you have all the materials to light it. The match is lit, and everyone watched in primal awe as the fire catches and sends sparks into the night. The flames grow higher, symbolizing the bright burning of your passion for your new spouse.

Although you don't need a lot to start a bonfire (besides, of course, a safe location), it's nice to have some things on hand to make sure that everything goes smoothly. You don't want anything getting in the way of your big day!

Giving out lighters as groomsmen gifts? Get the best man to use his to set the pile ablaze, possibly with a ceremonial firestarter.

Many people enjoy a good fire, but don't let your enjoyment stop you from being safe.

1. Keep flammable items away. Weddings are notorious for having flammable things. Everything from the decorations to the bride's updo have the potential to catch fire. Make sure you keep a wide berth with these things.
2. Follow local fire safety rules. Different locations have different safety rules. Make sure you research the rules at your venue before lighting up.
3. Change out of your nice clothes. You probably don't want your dress to smell like smoke forever, so consider changing out of it before ignition. Tuxes should probably be taken off, as well.
4. Appoint a (sober) fire marshall. Alcohol and fire don't mix. Make sure you have a responsible person taking care of the fire throughout the night.

You're bonfire is going steady. What to do with the beautiful blaze?

• Dance around it! Get in touch with our spiritual ancestors, and boogie down around the flames. At a safe distance, of course.
• Break out the instruments. There's something about fire that inspires people to get musical. Guitars, drums, even just breaking out into song will set the mood.
• Cook. If you haven't filled yourself to the gills with your backyard buffet, cake, and beer, enjoy some tasty s'mores for a rustic wedding feel.