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What Is the Meaning of Love? Signs of True Love That Most People Do Not Know About

Updated on February 9, 2010

What is the meaning of love? Most people do not recognize the signs of true love. There's so much confusion about this that many people who find true love end up just throwing it away.

Could this happen to you?

Sadly, yes… you may have already done this. While you’re so busy looking for true love, you may have already found it and thrown it away — probably many times. There’s no need to feel bad — we’ve probably all done it. By understanding the true meaning of love, you can have a better chance of finding it and holding on to it when you have it.

The problem is that most people don’t recognize true love even if it hits them in the face. Most people are confused about the true meaning of love — and it is one of the common causes of unhappiness.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that true love is easy to find.

Even with millions of singles out there, true love is still very hard to find. Why? It’s just human nature. We usually don’t hit it off with many people. The reality of the situation is that most singles are only compatible with few people they meet. And worse, the ones that they can get along with may not be attracted to them; it’s just as likely for them not to find others attractive.

True love is usually hard to find not only for singles, but also for some unfortunate married people. What makes matters worse is that the true meaning of love is not what you think it is.

What is the biggest misconception about true love?

Most people think that true love is about true romance — that it’s about having great chemistry with that special person.

Of course, you can have true love and true romance. You can have great chemistry with your true love. However, true romance or great chemistry is not enough. Sadly, many relationships fall apart when couples start to feel that they have lost their romance or chemistry. This huge mistake is a contributing factor for millions of break-ups and divorces. This is a devastating consequence of so many people not understanding the true meaning of love.

The Meaning of Love Involves Devotion For True Friends and Lovers

What is the True Meaning of Love? Lasting True Love Involves Devotion

The purest essence of true love involves devotion. Devotion involves having profound dedication and attachment for another person — this is the true meaning of love. Relationships with true love and devotion can transcend time and extremely difficult situations.

When you’ve found true love and devotion with someone in your past — even if you’ve been apart for a long time due to circumstances beyond your control — if you find each other again, it would be like you’ve never been apart. This can explain why people separated for decades end up getting together and “falling in love” all over again.

My view of true love changed when I started working with patients in the community as a Case Manager. I’m sure I have seen glimpses of true love when I was working in the hospital. But, due to my immaturity — especially when I was in my 20s — and my misconception about the true meaning of love, I didn’t recognize it that often.

I’m so grateful for the changes I’ve made in my career. I’ve learned so many lessons about life and love. Although I’ve met some unhappy couples, I’ve also gotten to know couples happily in love for over 60 years. I have often seen true love and devotion in action:

  • Spouses and partners lovingly devoting their life to caring for their sick loved ones.
  • Physicians, lawyers, corporate executives and other people giving up their career to devote more time for care-giving and supporting their loved ones.
  • Ex-husbands and ex-wives caring for their ex-spouses until death parts them. For these couples, their divorces did not end their true love — they were there for their loved ones to the very end.

True love is not just about great romance or chemistry with someone. The true meaning of love involves friends, family members, ex-spouses, lovers, partners and other people who truly love and devote themselves to their loved ones — when they need love the most.

Your true love — like your true friends — are people who are there for you no matter what happens. This is truly unconditional love.

In my line of work, I'm so grateful that I often see true love in action. This involves people who continue to love each other through difficult situations, including bankruptcy due to medical problems, cancer and other catastrophic illnesses, paralysis and other disabilities, psychiatric and neurological issues, loss of bladder and bowel control, hearing loss and blindness as well as other loss of function.

True love transcends time and difficult situations. If you’re only looking for great romance or chemistry, you’re risking your heart for something that probably will not last.

Do you think a relationship with great romance or chemistry can overcome chronic stress, unemployment, financial problems, illness and other pressures from day-to-day living? Most likely not.

When you evaluate your relationship, don’t just focus on great romance or chemistry. Instead, focus on having love and devotion as the real gauge of a lasting relationship.

You do have to kiss a lot of “frogs” to find the “prince” or “princess” that can possibly offer you true love and devotion. You can give yourself an edge by using online dating services or single's services in your area. You have to have a lot of choices to avoid having to settle for an unsatisfying relationship. You deserve to have lasting true love and devotion for the rest of your life.

What do you think? Please share your comments.

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You've included some lovely descriptions of true love in this hub. Thank you for sharing them.

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      Zanele 5 years ago

      Hey guyz wht i knw love it al abt trust, respect, care nd de way u feel abt de person ur in love wth nd love nid commitment in order 2 hv a lasting long term love!

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      Woman soul and body 5 years ago

      LOVE doesn't exist the word "LOVE" is merly a word that has been developed over the years. LOVE is a fiction a story, LOVE is only when two people have big chemistry and are attracted to each other, love is only another word for "strong attraction towards someone". Love just doesn't happen LOVE is not real only a form of HOPE for emotional people.Good SEX is ones misunderstanding of "love" if it even exists.

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      Esco Sunday 5 years ago

      I do believe that love is all about trust, faith, honest, understanding. if two partner have these quality they can complete the definition of love in there life time.

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      Unleashed Freedom 5 years ago from star dust, planet Gaia.

      beautiful beautiful article.

      am going to quite a lot of grief with my love right now over all sorts of things. and reading this was beautiful. i do hope she reads it too... sigh

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      Lisanwork ho 6 years ago

      True love have never end.once you gate your much you will

      contnue.there may be temetation which you gone face but true love gone win

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      salim haruna R/zaki 6 years ago

      what i know is dat,true lov neva end,as said by psychologist......but d issue is dat,how did lov starts? And how did it ends?...bcz if it has starting doubt it may has ending point.what and what are d ingredients for d true lov and fake love....another thing dat i always want to find is dat''did love affection and attractiondiffer from each other regardling d differences between people?does it has harm??

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      afriyie hayford 6 years ago

      i will like to say something about true love. true love has four things which they move together you can go with one and leave the others.the first things is emotions: how we feel about each other. second is about ethics: how good or bad we feel for each other. thirdly is joy: how we satify or disatified for each other and the last but not the least is devotion: how responsible you are.

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      reeltaulk 6 years ago

      It's not human nature to receive something that you want only to reject it. That's called something else that I won't be so crass to mention. If we can be dedicated and focused in completing school obtaining whatever career we choose and being dedicated to what we put our minds to, the same would apply for "finding" and "knowing" love. People just like to use excuses and play whatever blame game because they go with what they prefer over what they truly need and desire. Everything that glitters isn't necessarily gold, and that's the phrase that catches the average eye. Once you find that it isn't what you thought it was this is when what you neglected and abandoned glitters and is seen as gold!. No one wants someone that loves them, is patient and understanding. They prefer the "ideal" man or woman which is only ideal socially. The person that projects through their behavior, clothes, attitude and mouth all of the above to stroke your ego. Long term they hold no weight neither will peek your interest because like any fashion statement, social drug/drink, tv show, movie, it's temporary and all hype so don't play yourself and get caught up in in.

      Vonda G. Nelson

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      Aamna Aamad 6 years ago from Pakistan

      In order to find your true love,first of all you need to find the true you. Finding the true you doesn't refer wanting what you do not have already,but loving the things you have in your life.Being grateful for your day,for your smiles,for your friends,for your family, for your happiness,for the books you read,for the birds that you hear and the music you like...Being grateful is the first step we all need to do in order to get where we are headed for the future.

    • profile image 6 years ago

      i agree true love means loving someone without hesitation, be with him/her in good times through bad times.loving someone is a great feeling you can't explain.

      but can i ask you what is the meaning of one great love?

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      Salim316 7 years ago

      Love is like magic and cannot be describe nor realize nor identify and it has no defination because it has no limit.u can reconise it by just falling in it. wawoh!(it's wonder).

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      roxie 7 years ago


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      Lovingguy5 7 years ago

      Love is like the seeds of life, the root is full of pain and strife. But it grows tree,stranight and strong for eternity.

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      Lovingguy5 7 years ago

      Love is all about tow people understanding. Not what we are thinking get it in ur head okay! I' my self knw how to love someone that is me, i still have more to say but now... (I kept it for my self....!)

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      Gracesong815 7 years ago

      Thank you so much for writing this hub. In a world where love is seen as disposable, lasting only for the short term, it's refreshing to still see there are people out there who still hold this long-lasting view of love. It was truly an uplifting and heartening read! :D

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      mimi kay 7 years ago

      i wanna know haw to maintain a distance relationship,and haw one attract a man to love her

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      Heather 7 years ago


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      andycool 7 years ago

      Great article, I must say you've done an absolutely wonderful job! Many people are unaware when their true love hit them and they miss the bus to happiness for ever. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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      dominique 7 years ago

      how come it's so easy to lose the one u love? i mean when you have it you don't aprestate it i mean i'm only 15 and a perficte couple is only in a dream. but i've found mines and i'm not bout to mess this up.

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      phyl 7 years ago

      love is from god and god is love :) so if we have love, we have god and he's there in the relationship/ lol/// love you all

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      ecrider 7 years ago from springfield,mass.

      To have compatibility in every way, so neither one suffers.

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      Allie Mendoza 8 years ago from San Francisco Bay Area, California

      Thank you for your comments and your kind words, Cheeky Girl!

      Honesty is huge for me, too. If you don't have authenticity in any relationship... what does it all mean?

      The way you describe your relationship, I think you really hit the jackpot meeting Cathy! Wow! I'm sooo happy for both of you! Have fun with the darn distractions... :)


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      Cassandra Mantis 8 years ago from UK and Nerujenia

      How did I miss this lovely Hub? What is the meaning of love? Aaaaah L'amour! You are right. Devotion is a big thing in a relationship. Honesty is another biggie with me. There are so many things that can be indicative of true love. Love signs like he (or in my case) she cares about you every day and tells you in lots of little ways. Doing things for you, even simple things. Things that can mean something and don't have to have words attached. Love can be telepathic. It can also be a darn distraction too! Heh! But enough of that!

      Aaah L'amour!...... : )

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      Allie Mendoza 8 years ago from San Francisco Bay Area, California

      You're welcome, Cheryl. Yes, people should never settle when it comes to love. The problem is that people get so blinded by romance or distracted by great abs or someone's hotness.

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      _cheryl_ 8 years ago from California

      Nice hub Allie, and thanks for the follow. I agree that true love involves devotion. And most definitely the fact that we have CHOICES...I've always believed that you should never settle when it comes to love. Thanks again for a nice read! =)