Why do Men Cheat
Most men cheat because they want variety and believe they are smart enough to avoid being caught.
There are excuses men give for cheating, then there are reasons why they do so. Some do it just once while others are serial cheaters.
A recent study by Lopez V, Chesney-Lind and Foley J of Arizona State University titled Relationship power, control, and dating violence among Latina girls uncovered the fact that cheating and threatening to cheat was a means boys often used to control girls.
Apparently we never grow up.
In addition most cheaters truly believe their actions will stay hidden therefore causing no harm. Unfortunately in the global village, what happens in vegas may show up on your tablet before breakfast.
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10 Reasons why men cheat
In his book - M Gary Neuman explored the reasons for infidelity. One of the most surprising findings was that 88% of men interviewed said the partners they sought out were neither prettier than their wives. The Truth about Cheating
So why do men really cheat. I have put together the 10 most common reasons from various sources.
Maintaining a relationship is hard work. To keep a marriage fresh requires more than most men are willing to give. Its much easier to look for a spark outside than try to work things out at home.
2. Men cheat to experiment sexually
Most of the cheating men who said their partners were not sexier or prettier than their wives just wanted some variety. They found it difficult to stay with the same woman year after year. Some cheating men even claim that experimentation outside adds a special glow to their marriage.
3. The Crowd effect on cheating
Neuman found out that 77% of men who cheat have a good friend who cheats. Perhaps he comes to see it as normative behavior. If he talks about his friends who cheat, there is a three in one chance he's headed that way.
Cheating, a common basis for divorce
4. Cheating men believe they won't get caught.
In spite of divorce statistics and statutes on adultery in most states, a surprising proportion of men who cheat believe they are too smart to be caught.
5. The Avenger
Some men who cheat do so to get back at their wives. Having a wife who has slept with someone else makes one feel not quite up to par. Getting involved with another woman is reassuring, it proves that he is still desirable.
6. Cheating is an easy way to get a divorce
Adultery is grounds for divorce almost anywhere in the world. Some men prefer to cheat, hoping their wives will file for divorce.
That way they get to avoid the soul searching that comes with trying to explain to your wife that you want out of a seemingly trouble free marriage.
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7. Cheating to deflate her ego
Most good, loyal women question themselves when their husbands cheat with issues like
- Am I bad in bed?
- I must be disgustingly fat
- What does she have that I don't?
- Am I really that unattractive?
- Would sexy lingerie have helped?
- How could I have avoided this?
After he apologizes, the woman may decide to work harder, dress sexier and generally reward his bad behavior.
8. Men Cheat because They Can
Most women find it difficult to consider another man as a partner when they are in stable relationship. Not so with men. The belief is that sex and love can be separated. So a man can cheat while claiming to still love his wife.
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9. Unhappy at Home
Some men cheat because they have unfulfilled needs - either emotional or sexual. If they can't discuss this with the wife, then cheating is almost inevitable.
Most relationships never recover from the mistrust that infidelity breeds. So an episode of cheating leads to greater unhappiness and ....
10. Men Cheat Because They Want To
Some men just want to cheat. They want the thrill of doing the forbidden. the feeling that comes from creeping downstairs at night to pillage the cookie jar.
So Why Really Do Men Cheat?
If you know any other reasons why men cheat, I would like to hear them.
Most of the research available points to cheating husbands as men who know what they are doing and have made a deliberate decision to cheat.
Tension at home, stress at work and the presence of a willing partner make cheating more attractive, yet there are men who stay faithful.