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Why Do So Many Relationships End Early

Updated on September 21, 2015
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Relationship issues will always arise - in fact, this is common in all relationships. However, if both partners are willing to sit down and address all their problems each time they surface, this will dramatically reduce the likelihood of an early relationship breakdown or even an eventual breakup.

There are several reasons a lot of relationships fail, but one of the most common reasons I believe, is partly due to selfishness. The moment one person starts to disregard the other partner's feelings, needs and wants, this is definitely a clear signal that the relationship is heading towards failure.

As the saying goes "don't walk in front of me, I may not follow; don't walk behind me, I may not lead; just walk beside me and we will find our way together." Relationships can be extremely tough to maintain at times! Sometimes they can leave you so emotionally drained, and stressed that you get to the point where you feel like quitting.

You feel like you have done your best and is still doing everything to make your relationship work, yet it's just not working; in fact it's heading toward a breakup! The question is, why do you stay? Is it because you love this person and is hoping for a miracle to occur? The truth is, that miracle may never occur, unless you both let it happen!

Going back to the above open quotation, when two individuals become involved in a relationship, all selfishness has to be thrown out the window. It's no longer a "you" or "me" situation, now it's all about "us". In this respect, communication is going to be the key.

You both have to sit together and constantly talk. Don't keep secrets, be opened. Don't make plans separately, instead do this together. Listen to each other. Be supportive of each other.

Allow your partner to express his/her feeling, while you listen attentively, and validate your partner's feeling. His/her opinion might be different from yours sometimes, but so what? we are all here to agree and disagree. We don't have to get angry when others opinions on certain subjects matter differ from ours, such is life!

Before you do things or say things to your partner, think about how would you feel if he/she were to do or say those same things to you. If you think these things will cause you to hurt, then don't. Let your actions speak for you both.

It's so easy to say you love someone, yet your attitudes or actions toward this person time after time, fail to convey this professed love! If you truly or honestly love a person, you should be able to make occasional sacrifices without being pressured into doing so. Love should be very transparent, and more of an action word! When either party fails to reciprocate the action then you know you are in the wrong relationship.

To summarize, if individuals invest in their relationship, by walking side by side, constantly trying to stay on the same accord at all times, the probability of success in their relationship will be much greater than those who don't. Don't forget to ask God for his divine intervention.This is extremely important in building a strong relationship!

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    • mackyi profile imageAUTHOR

      I.W. McFarlane 

      4 years ago from Philadelphia

      Thanks for stopping by Monica. I am really glad you enjoyed reading this Hub.

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      Monica Carson 

      4 years ago

      I enjoyed this article very much. Thank you.

    • mackyi profile imageAUTHOR

      I.W. McFarlane 

      5 years ago from Philadelphia

      Thanks for dropping by rainpurplewine. You are so correct - this is indeed a rather nice way to look at it! The time we invest in our relationships often determine whether we fail or succeed.

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      5 years ago from ATLANTA,Ga

      Relationships are always a work in progress! Nice hub :)

    • mackyi profile imageAUTHOR

      I.W. McFarlane 

      6 years ago from Philadelphia

      Thanks for stopping by jantamya and also for leaving a positive comment. You're absolutely right about good communication, intimacy and focus. I appreciate the time you take to vote up and share this article. God bless.

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      Maria Janta-Cooper 

      6 years ago from UK

      Mackyi, thank you for writing the great information in your article. Good communication, intimacy, and focus on partner's well-being may prevent problems in relationships. Voted up and shared.

    • mackyi profile imageAUTHOR

      I.W. McFarlane 

      7 years ago from Philadelphia

      Thanks for your comment billips. There has to be some compatibility between you and the person you claim that you "love."In our society today, we often tend to get too caught up with the outer appearance, as a result we often tend to ignore what's deep within the individual!

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      7 years ago from Central Texas

      Well done - I agree with you on all the points you make - relationships are not easy - they take time and work on both sides - B.

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      8 years ago

      Thanks for your comment soumyasrajan. In my opinion,"selfishness" is one of the main reasons why most relationship fail. Until we learn to put selfishness aside, and learn to validate others feelings and opinions,we gonna continue to see a lot of broken homes, unhappiness in relationships and separations.

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      8 years ago from Mumbai India and often in USA

      nice article mackyi! That saying is indeed a lesson one should always go on reminding oneself. I also like your sentence "It's no longer a "you" or "me" situation, now it's all about "us"."


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