- Gender and Relationships
Why Do So Many Relationships End Early
Relationship issues will always arise - in fact, this is common in all relationships. However, if both partners are willing to sit down and address all their problems each time they surface, this will dramatically reduce the likelihood of an early relationship breakdown or even an eventual breakup.
There are several reasons a lot of relationships fail, but one of the most common reasons I believe, is partly due to selfishness. The moment one person starts to disregard the other partner's feelings, needs and wants, this is definitely a clear signal that the relationship is heading towards failure.
As the saying goes "don't walk in front of me, I may not follow; don't walk behind me, I may not lead; just walk beside me and we will find our way together." Relationships can be extremely tough to maintain at times! Sometimes they can leave you so emotionally drained, and stressed that you get to the point where you feel like quitting.
You feel like you have done your best and is still doing everything to make your relationship work, yet it's just not working; in fact it's heading toward a breakup! The question is, why do you stay? Is it because you love this person and is hoping for a miracle to occur? The truth is, that miracle may never occur, unless you both let it happen!
Going back to the above open quotation, when two individuals become involved in a relationship, all selfishness has to be thrown out the window. It's no longer a "you" or "me" situation, now it's all about "us". In this respect, communication is going to be the key.
You both have to sit together and constantly talk. Don't keep secrets, be opened. Don't make plans separately, instead do this together. Listen to each other. Be supportive of each other.
Allow your partner to express his/her feeling, while you listen attentively, and validate your partner's feeling. His/her opinion might be different from yours sometimes, but so what? we are all here to agree and disagree. We don't have to get angry when others opinions on certain subjects matter differ from ours, such is life!
Before you do things or say things to your partner, think about how would you feel if he/she were to do or say those same things to you. If you think these things will cause you to hurt, then don't. Let your actions speak for you both.
It's so easy to say you love someone, yet your attitudes or actions toward this person time after time, fail to convey this professed love! If you truly or honestly love a person, you should be able to make occasional sacrifices without being pressured into doing so. Love should be very transparent, and more of an action word! When either party fails to reciprocate the action then you know you are in the wrong relationship.
To summarize, if individuals invest in their relationship, by walking side by side, constantly trying to stay on the same accord at all times, the probability of success in their relationship will be much greater than those who don't. Don't forget to ask God for his divine intervention.This is extremely important in building a strong relationship!