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Why is trust so easily given

Updated on July 6, 2011

Trust

Trust-I have noticed that trust is something most give easily but is also easily broken, why? Why is it for people to give their trust away when their not really sure that, that trust should have been given?

Me and my cousin had a conversation about trusting people these days because if you watch t.v. as much as I do you'll know why I'm limiting my trust when it comes to certain people. I watch, well my sister watches this show called Forensic files and I usually get stuck watching it but anyways I'm gettiing side tracked. The show is about solving murder cases with forensic's and most of the shows consists of people getting killed by people that they trusted in one way or another. Husbands killing wives, wives killing husbands, kids killing parents or siblings, or people getting killed by people that have been close friends of the family for years it's all awful stuff but most of the killing would be done by sposes because cheating, money, jealousy you name it, people kill over it. That leads me to my next question, with so many people now and days being crazy and psyco but leading seemingly normal lives how are you to tell the difference between the real normal people and the seemingly normal people because a lot of the psyco's do SEEM normal? It's really scary when you think about it because you could be friends with or married to someone thats a murderer and not know for years. How do you know who to trust when most cant even trust the people around them. I told my sister and my cousin that when I go out on a date I'm calling all my sisters my mom my dad and telling them where I'm going, who I'm meeting with and what time I plan on being home and if I haven't called to let you know I'm staying longer and I'm not answering my phone call the police immediatly. I also told them that whomever I'm dating won't know where I live for a long time I'm always going to meet them there and if they find out where Iive without me telling them then I'm calling the police and I'm labling them as a stalker, period. There's other precaustions I will take when dealiing with knew people including not getting in a car with anyone I just met. I know what you're thinking she's just paranoid, well I'll admit I am a little over paranoid BUT what say is true about how carelessly people give away their trust and then end up hurt emotionally and physically, I see my paranoia as a way to keep myself and my family sefe. I don'[t want to be one of the those people that finds out too late that my boyfriend has anger issues of my bestfriend is in love with my husband and decides that I need get ridding of and things of that matter. But I do want to experience life to it's fullest just safely. So my BIG question is...Is it better to be paranoid, have a leash on your trust and safe or to live carefree and trusting not knowing if life will turn down a dark road for you or not? I really want to know what other people think about this, because I want to know if I'm just being overdramatic with this whole thing or if there's other people who feel the same way I do. My cousin said that it was good for me to play it safe my sister more or less agreed but at the same time said I was just being over paranoid so please let me know what you think.


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Now I want to talk about trust in loving realationships. No I won't be speaking from personal experience just as an observer I noticed that most women will give a man her trust after he has repeatedly tested that trust in many different ways, what the hell is up with that? Love is it? How deep could that love really be if you're companion doesn't respect and love you enough to show you day in and day out that your trust is actually worth somthing in their eyes? Maybe I'm wrong but I think that if someone you love doesn't love you enough to give you and your trust respect then you have to love yourself enough to know that you deserve better then what their willing to give you can't let them take your trust and your love and treat it as if it's nothing, I had a friend who let her boyfriend do that to her but she was always crying to me and I would give her advice but she never took it. The way I see it if your going to keep letting someone treat you badly you shouldn't really be crying about it because your the one enablining them to treat you that way because you're doing anything about it. So here is another BIG question...Do you give your trust to someone you love just because you love them and because they say they love you too even though they rarely show it or do you let that person go taking your love and trust with you no matter how bad it hurts? Again I would really like to know your opinions on this because even though I never had to personally go through this I have obseved it and I want to know if there's more to it then what I then I think it is.

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    • Sweets21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Tara Sellers 

      7 years ago

      I totally agree! I wouldn't either...theres so much craziness in this world we pretty much have no choice but not to trust anyone deffinitely with our children I for certain will keep mine close...thank you for reading and sharing on my hub I really appreciate it!

    • satice_j profile image

      satice_j 

      7 years ago from via the Bronx, NY

      Sweets21, with the life I've lived, I trust only my immediate family members. I don't date because I don't want to, instead I focus on my son, writing, my family, and playing my fave game Second Life. Maybe people will think me quirky but I've not come across anyone I would consider being a part of my life and I don't think I could as I don't want anyone raising my son except me. I am with you on people being crazy, and I just don't give my trust away so easy!

    • Sweets21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Tara Sellers 

      7 years ago

      And hugs to u too!

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      Nellieanna Hay 

      7 years ago from TEXAS

      I believe you! Hugs.

    • Sweets21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Tara Sellers 

      7 years ago

      Thank you so much Nellieanna for your advice, I will be sure to follow it. And I will try my hardest not to ignore the signs. I promise you my trust will never be given lightly! With all my heart I thank you!

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      Nellieanna Hay 

      7 years ago from TEXAS

      You're very wise to be aware that trust must be merited if it's to be given. It's not always apparent whether or not it is, but I have a motto that "The truth will always out" - IF you give a relationship time to prove itself and are very observant and alert. There are signs along th way when someone is trying to fool you. If you ignore them - usually you'll suffer the consequences. So be wise and be aware. Think of your love as a sacred gift and trust - not to be given lightly. The man who deserves it will respect that - and if he suggests otherwise - he's not the man of your dreams!

    • Sweets21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Tara Sellers 

      7 years ago

      Thank you very much and I will be sure to do just that!

    • Lord De Cross profile image

      Joseph De Cross 

      7 years ago from New York

      Excellent hub. You might check some of my hubs related to why women give their precious turst so easy. Just to give you some answers: The times, lots of fear of losing a loved one and probably low self steem...But above all, women need attention and understanding... have a nice one SWEETS 21

      LORD

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 

      7 years ago from Lagos

      My pleasure

    • Sweets21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Tara Sellers 

      7 years ago

      You're Welcome and thank you for the beautiful comment!

    • ubanichijioke profile image

      Alexander Thandi Ubani 

      7 years ago from Lagos

      Awesome piece. Trust is the bedrock of any successful relationship and friendship. When it is betrayed, there is always problem. Thanks for that beautiful piece

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