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Do you feel unhappy when you see your friends more happy and successful than you?

Updated on September 22, 2012

This is a really good question that you have asked today. I think of this so many times in my lifetime. Actually if you talk about me, I never feel unhappy about my friends being more happy or successful than me. Rather I feel joyous over their job well done and share my happiness with them. But one thing which I always do is I learn from them and try to be as successful as them. But this does not mean that when I am not able to achieve that goal, I start feeling jealous about them and their success. I just try to work out and try again and again to achieve my goals.

I agree that luck is also important than karma (work that you do in your lifetime). Some people have good luck and some have not, but I am a type of person who does not depend more on luck because I believe that with hard work and consistency, you can achieve your goals and become successful in your life. Luck should be on your side too or whatever work you have done will not be fruitful. I always pray to God to give me a life where I never feel jealous of anyone, no hatred, and I want to always feel happy with my life and family.

Kids also develop the habit of being jealous of others and they learn most of this from their parents and some from other kids in the school.
Kids also develop the habit of being jealous of others and they learn most of this from their parents and some from other kids in the school. | Source

Your other question was that “we see so many people being unhappy just because other people are living better life than them. Why people are so much jealous of others?”

The answer is that there are several types of people in this world and you cannot think what is going inside the hearts or minds of others. You will not believe that people who were once your most trusted friends and relatives became your enemies just because they got jealous of your success. For example, there are two very good friends and both are working in the same organization in the same designation but in a matter of months, one got promoted or became a manager and the other did not. The other friend became jealous of him. Here friends who were once living together, sharing together, talking together have become enemies. A friend who was never able to listen a single word against his friend from someone else is now uttering wrong and abusive words against his own friend.

The other example is a younger brother who is financially superior than all his elder brothers throughout life but when the son of his elder brother grows up and starts to achieve success, he becomes jealous and even hostile against him and his family. He starts putting hurdles in his life. He starts breaking the barrier of between good and bad. This happens because here he is not able to digest that how can some other person become financially superior than me. So this happens everywhere. You will be able to find very less people who will feel happy about your success but there will be more people who feel jealous about you.

According to me, if the jealous people stop making plans to put hurdles in others life and start concentrating more on their work and life, they will ultimately become successful. This is the most important thing which people need to understand. Stop being jealous of your successful friends but try to achieve the goal towards success happily and you will be able to achieve it.


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      Rajinder Soni 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks a lot tnvrstar.

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      tnvrstar 4 years ago from doha, qatar

      Nice to see a good hub based on my Question. Very informative and well written.

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      Rajinder Soni 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Nice to read your view on this issue issue Lipnancy. Thanks for your first time visit too.

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      Nancy Yager 4 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      You know used to be very jealous of people with successful careers because my career was stagnant. Then I began to work for myself and reaped all of its benefits. So now I sort of feel sorry for people who cannot just do what they want because they cannot take of from work.

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      Rajinder Soni 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Hi carol7777 and Melovy, very nice comments you both have given. Yes, you are right my conclusion is why waste our energy in planning to put hurdles in others life when we can make our life smooth and successful with that energy.

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      Yvonne Spence 4 years ago from UK

      I did actually struggle with feelings of jealousy when I was younger. I didn't feel successful and didn't feel it was possible that I ever would, so seeing others' succeed in fields I wanted to just seemed to suggest that I was a failure. Of course, what was really needed was to believe in myself more and to trust that I could succeed. Thankfully, I've learned to do that.

      Don't despise people who are jealous, they feel lacking. I agree with you that it's better to put energy into achieving your own success rather than trying to pull down others.

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      I don't think I have ever been jealous of another person. Maybe a little envy about an achievement or some silly thing. It takes way too much energy. Sometimes when I know a person has an evil streak and has lied etc and still successful I think about it..but not jealous. Interesting though here with some valid points.