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Asking Death for Advice

Updated on September 18, 2012

Yes, I get angry sometimes – angry at myself for being angry. At such a point in time, I have to stop and ask Death for advice. It is the only sensible thing to do. Plus, Death is always with me – beside me. It is my one constant Amigo: I can always talk to It. I trust It: “Death is an Adviser.”

“Death is our eternal companion … It is always to our left, at an arm’s length … It has always been watching you. It always will until the day it taps you … An immense amount of pettiness is dropped if your death makes a gesture to you, or if you catch a glimpse of it, or if you just have the feeling that your companion is there watching you.” - “Journey to Ixtlan

Indeed if I concentrate on my death, I feel my left arm and shoulder a little colder. It is here with me; always just as Don Juan said and his words echo in my mind: “It may tap you at any moment, so really you have no time for crappy thoughts and moods. None of us have time for that.” That is why I'm Mr. Happy.

That is also when I get angry at myself for being angry. All that does though is to send me asking questions which ultimately result into a state of laughter: the bloody ego … always gets mad and angry. It always thinks it is right and that it has some sort of importance when in fact as Pascal said at some point, “a drop of water” is enough to kill us. The ego is trouble (if it gets its way). As lonely individuals, we are really nothing in the grand scheme of things. I often ask myself: “Would the world have a hick-up if I croaked today?”

I do try to assume responsibility for my actions though. “In a world where death is the hunter there are no small or big decisions. There are only decisions that we make in the face of our inevitable death.”

“Everybody die regardless who first or who last” Vinnie Paz – Where is the ego left after this?

I turned to my left and asked my death that question and all I got was a smile. I felt the smile and I thanked It.



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    • Mr. Happy profile imageAUTHOR

      Mr. Happy 

      8 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Greetings Mrs. Violet Flame,

      I am happy You enjoyed the read.

      " Safety is over-rated." - Yes, indeed. The rule is: safety third! Haha.

      "There is nothing to outrun, there is nothing to prove."- I agree here as well. Trying to outrun Death is not something I would spend my time-on. I rather like It as my companion. : )

      You have a wonderful week-end. Thank You for taking the time to read and comment.

      All the best!

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      Violet Flame 

      8 years ago from Auckland, NZ

      Would you believe that I have been contemplating on writing something on the similar line? I am searching for an essay topic right now for my Art History class and "Death" comes very nearly to the top of my list. I guess it is only natural and polite that we should acknowledge our Mr. Death as the other side of our very same coin. I love The Northern Lights trilogy by Philip Pullman, and in one of them, the young heroine followed her Death to the underworld in order to live. We must die in order to live. What oxymoron! What truth! My best friend killed herself at the age of 33, and her death is always with me, pushing me forward, making me brave and unreasonable. Safety is over-rated. It's only when we stare Death in the face we become alive. Sure it is the realm of the ego illusion, but we might as well play the game while we are at it, right?

      I love your writing and I admire your cheerfulness. You and your death are buddies, while I still treat mine as a fellow contender. I must thank you for this insight. As long as I treat Death as an enemy, as someone to outrun, I have missed the point. I shall, from today, turn my icy acknowledgement toward Death into warm companionship. There is nothing to outrun, there is nothing to prove. We will now sit side by side and contemplate this matrix with admiration of its enginuity and trickery. Thank You Mr Happy xo

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      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Greetings Mrs. Reikieffect,

      I am happy You found this piece of writing useful. It says a lot about your Spirit. You have faith, thank You.

      All the very best! : )

    • reikieffect profile image


      9 years ago

      Beautiful Mr. Happy. An introspection into our death can really make us appreciate more our life.

    • Mr. Happy profile imageAUTHOR

      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Mr./Mrs. Srivastav, thank you for taking the time to read and comment - I appreciate it. Cheers!

      Mrs. Anupma, I will soon write something on fear because as all Dacians I claim immortality and that I fear nothing. I will explain but meanwhile, I will say that I am confident in saying that I can overcome any fear and with that in mind, anyone can.

      In regards to our Death, yes it is our most loyal companion and for me it is something that I am simply aware of. It helps me appreciate each day and to remember about the Sunrise Ceremony (

      I am glad I brought a smile along. Do smile, Life is beautiful! Many thanks for stopping by, cheers!

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      Dr Anupma Srivastava 

      9 years ago from India

      Before some time, I was thinking about death and of course I was scared. Then I opened hub page and found you following me. I opened your page and first saw this article. And you know what happen after reading it, my fear is disappeared and a smile is on my face. Thanks for giving back my smile. Love your Hub. It is the greatest hub that I ever read about death.

      The best idea I got, "DEATH IS OUR COMPANION." Right. Please always share these thoughts to us, as they give us a new way to think, to see life, to see other aspects of life.

      Thanks a lot.

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      archana srivastav 

      9 years ago

      great hub.

    • Mr. Happy profile imageAUTHOR

      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      lol Newday, I never saw myself as Dickinsonian but I'll take it. Haha ... cheers and thank you for the read!

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      9 years ago

      Very Dickinsonian of you! A fun read, thanks.

    • Mr. Happy profile imageAUTHOR

      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Haha ... I love your comment Mr./Mrs. Fennelseed. You are most welcome and thank you for dropping by!

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      Annie Fenn 

      9 years ago from Australia

      Well, brutally frank, knowing that death is right beside me certainly makes the frivolous even more trivial. Not even worth the bother, actually. I like this a lot, there are some very important messages here and I'm listening. Thank you, Mr Happy, think I'll stay on for a look around.

    • Mr. Happy profile imageAUTHOR

      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Loneliness I have Debvill12, just not enough. Haha ...

      Thank you for dropping by! I do appreciate it.

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      9 years ago from Iowa

      Hi Mr. Happy;

      I gave you, vote up, and an interesting hub. I can personally see where you are coming from. It seems to me you have some loneliness and you are asking advice from death, for answers. I could be wrong. But death isn't a bad thing, it just another phase of life that we all must go through sooner or later. Some are afraid of it, and others look forward to death. But, either way its just another phase of life. With life and death there is knowledge we all can learn from. Thanks for reading my hub and for the comments. You are welcome by anytime. Best of luck. Debvill12

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      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you so much for your encouraging comment Mr. Junko and I am happy to see you drop by!

      Your words are humbling, thank you again.

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      9 years ago

      Mr. Happy we are going to live until we die. We cannot predict, prepare or prolong life or death because we will live as long as The Creator has use for us. You can quit smoking and get ran over by a cigarette delivery truck. You can also survise being hit by a fast moving train. The Creator don't make personal appearences anymore, but people are used for Thou will to be done. I believe you have and is used and should fear not in the valley of death.

    • Mr. Happy profile imageAUTHOR

      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Mr. Diogenes - I missed responding to your comment. My apology for that.

      I found your following statement really interesting: "I am sure animals benefit psychologically by having none - or little - knowledge of their upcoming demise." You may indeed be right but I think their lack of knowledge overall, deprives them of being able to open-up different doors of perception.

      I am certainly not going to rage against the arrival of anything. Raging is just not me. Plus, It is already here anyway - no reason to rage about Its presence.

      Cheers and thank you for your kind words! I wish you all the best likewise.

    • Mr. Happy profile imageAUTHOR

      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Haha! I love that last quote - hilarious! I know nothing about Taoism but I would have drank it for sure. Why not?

      I'm generally really thirsty all the time anyway.

      I was wondering where you had vanished Mr. Mike. You pop-in like Batman all the time? (I certainly do not mind it - just sayin').

      Thank you for your comment; I do appreciate it. Cheers!

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      Michael Fielder 

      9 years ago from North Central West Virginia, where the green grass grows...

      Spoken like a true easterner born into western society... :) enjoyed this so much, especially the thoughts the last sentence so gently led me to. Thanks, your life philosophy strikes me as this quote: "When confronting the cup of life, the optimist claims it’s half-full; the pessimist insists it’s half-empty and the Taoist drinks it." I don't remember it's author right now unfortunately.

    • Mr. Happy profile imageAUTHOR

      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Ruchira, I thank you for the awesome comment you have left me. You are fully right in saying that this piece of writing can have a double meaning and quite opposite messages depending on who reads it.

      The key to understanding what I was trying to say here, rests in the Spirit of each person reading it. I think you are fully aware of what my Spirit was trying to convey here.

      Thank you very much for taking the time to read my blog and comment. All the very best!

    • Mr. Happy profile imageAUTHOR

      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Hello Kallini,

      I think this was a most happy blog. I receive great advice from Death, every-time I ask for it. It is very kind to me and I am thankful for that.

      I cannot say too much about Death as we each have our own personal relationship with it - that is what It told me right now as I was trying to come-up with an answer for you and did not know what to say.

      A warrior knows when Death will touch him/her. A person of knowledge also knows.

      I think "Happiness is Over-rated" is a great book and you would enjoy it.

      Thank you for stopping by and leaving me a comment. Cheers! : )

    • Ruchira profile image


      9 years ago from United States

      Mr. Happy...Death sure is inevitable and we all have to face it. you asking for liberation from life could tend to throw a person off-board by going into depression...

      however, I liked your perception on it :)

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      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      A bit chilly, Mr. Happy, don't you think? What do you expect from Death? What kind of advice?

      You know the final answer, you know what will happen, you don't know HOW or HOW painful it is going to be, I don't mean the moment, I mean the "final process".

      Some people lose their mental power or become bedridden and I pray... to be spared...

      But to be or choose to be Happy is a good choice. You don't need Death's Advice for that. Happiness is for the living who tend to overrate it. One day I will read that book.

    • Mr. Happy profile imageAUTHOR

      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      I love illusions Mr. Spirit Whisperer. I suppose you have learned that about me by now. The best thing I like about illusions is that skillful people can shatter them.

      They're fun to play with though. I do have follies, I will not lie.

      Thank you for stopping by.

      I love your comment Mentalist Acer. Beautifully put. Cheers!

      Mr. Arvind, I think you just said everything I have said in this piece of writing in one sentence: "I feel that if we were to live every moment of our life as if it were th last, life would be much more meaningful."

      You are a very wise man. I bow to You.

      Thank you for taking the time to read what I have written and for leaving me this comment. All the best!

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      Aravind Balasubramanya 

      9 years ago from Puttaparthi, India

      Mr.Happy! This is really sublime. No wonder that in some places in India, a birth is mourned while a death is celebrated!

      I feel that if we were to live every moment of our life as if it were th last, life would be much more meaningful. Thank you for this thought provoking hub.

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      Mentalist acer 

      9 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

      Death Is Truly The Great Equalizer.;)

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      Xavier Nathan 

      9 years ago from Isle of Man

      This is a very beautiful hub in that you reveal your heart and the feeling that you express here touches the reader profoundly. For me death is an illusion we collectively subscribe to and is more evidence for our insanity. The ego is like the wave that rises out of the water and no matter what we do to maintain the wave it eventually merges back with the sea. Death is a necessity for the ego because without it there can be no birth! The ego projects and makes everything up, spirit extends and creates through unconditional love. The death you describe in this hub is ego made and is born of illusion. It serves a need and when that need is satisfied it melts as do all illusions in the light of Spirit!

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      9 years ago

      My Happy: I enjoyed your article, but I don't think it is very healthy to think about death so much. I am sure animals benefit psychologically by having none - or little - knowledge of their upcoming demise. They are too busy living, as we might be. And then perhaps we should do as much as possible to delay "The Reaper's arrival. "Rage, rage, rage, against the dying of the light." But, as Lennon said, "Whatever gets you through the night." My best regards to you...Bob (72).

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      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you so much for dropping by and leaving a comment Mrs. Coetser. I was actually a little worried about writing this blog. I thought people might find it a little weird or strange but after reading the few comments left, maybe it wasn't so bad after-all.

      Many thanks again! Cheers.

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      Martie Coetser 

      9 years ago from South Africa

      Well-said. Death is a fact and should rather be regard as a friend - in order to be happy, Mr. Happy. I agree with your thoughts in here. Voted up and higher.

    • Mr. Happy profile imageAUTHOR

      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you for your comment Moneycop: your words are a truth in themselves.

      All the best!

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      9 years ago from JABALPUR

      Good approach......death is the only truth that can guide human destiny

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      Mr. Happy 

      9 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you very much for commenting Mr./Mrs. Vinaya Ghimire. I do not know anything about "Upanishads of Hinduism". I will have to look into that.

      Hinduism attracts me though. I pray to Lord Vishnu often.

      May Wakan Tanka guide all our path! Cheers.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      9 years ago from Nepal

      Your hub reminds of death mysticism elaborated in Upanishads of Hinduism.


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