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The Christian “Better Than” Complex

Updated on January 2, 2013

I hear (and read) many arguments from Christians and “Non-Christians” trying to express their beliefs with each other. In too many cases debates get out of hand. Names are called, insults are flung at each other like monkeys throwing poo and everyone walks away upset. Sometimes when the situation escalates like this, I think we are about to see a repeat of the crusades.

(I know, I'm not a girl but I like the image)
(I know, I'm not a girl but I like the image)

My Background

I know a wide range of people and I keep friends from all walks of life. Because of this and my desire to always understand everyone and everything I can, I feel I have a good grasp on perspective. I’d like to share some of my findings. Hopefully you will have comments of your own; I love discussions.

Growing up, I was raised Christian. I grew up in a small town where everyone assumed you were the same religion and if you were not, you were an outcast.

When I was young, my parents divorced. That’s when I started to reevaluate my life and decided not to go back. Everyone’s attitudes toward me changed. Most people treated me like I was less of a person. I thought it was that they all felt that they were better than me. After years of study and experience, I now know that there is a whole complex range of emotional and spiritual conflict.

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The Outcome

So then what happens is people who are not Christians, see the Christians as being arrogant people who think they have all the answers.

The Christians see the "Non-Christians" as hateful people who can't come into Gods love and Jesus' salvation.

By the way, most people who are not Christian, dislike being called "Non-Christian." It often represents the idea that Christians see only two ways to see the world. Christian and Non-Christian (or right and wrong). Believe it or not (touch of sarcasm), people tend to be offended when you imply that they are wrong, just as much as when you expressly state it. 

The Real Problem

Most people don’t feel better than anyone. In fact, most of us have a complex where we feel less worthy of love than others. This can lead to many problems. Where I grew up, people compensated for their shortcomings by turning to God. They did however consider their beliefs right “no matter what anyone else thinks”. With that attitude, they did not understand they behaved as though they are “better than” everyone else. Because “their beliefs are right”, it makes them seem (to many other people) pompous and arrogant. Whether it is intentional or not, anyone who does not believe the same thing is then belittled.

In Closing

I would appreciate your thoughts on this matter.

Do you have experience dealing with this situation? What was the outcome? Did you learn anything?

Do you as a Christian have any advice that may help "Non-Christians" relate to you?

Do you as a "Non-Christian" have any advice that may help Christians relate to you?

Let us please be respectful. I wish to have all viewpoints expressed without fear of oppression or retaliation. Thank you!


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    • kwade tweeling profile image

      kwade tweeling 6 years ago from USA


      I'll take that as a compliment.

      Though I do feel a need to point out that the attitude that says, "for a non-Christian" is exactly what I was talking about.

      As I understand it, Jesus taught respect and acceptance. Frankly, you can't respect someone while you are looking down at them.

    • jponiato profile image

      jponiato 6 years ago from Mid-Michigan

      Thanks for a thought-provoking hub. You're a pretty enlightened person, for a "non-Christian." ;)

    • Jo_Goldsmith11 profile image

      Jo_Goldsmith11 6 years ago

      I grew up with a Catholic dad and a protestant mom. I went to Catholic Church until I was around 7 years old. When I was 14, I went to a Baptist church and was saved. I have been on both sides here. I once was a "non Christian" who learned to believe not in a "religion" but in a "relationship" with a supernatural spirit force. All people have a right to believe what they want. I think that if we cal "lead" by example. This would help a "non Christian" find their supernatural spirit force and then maybe their lives would get better for them. Great hub! Voted up and passed it forward.

    • Denise Handlon profile image

      Denise Handlon 6 years ago from North Carolina

      I live in an area which is predominately Baptist/Christians. Because my views are different I am looked at as someone who needs to be saved. I had many, many invitations to churches. I am very spiritual and know that I am love just as everyone else and everything else is. B/c of my spiritual path in which I attend spiritual retreats on an ongoing basis, I have had the opportunity to embrace the differences; although others are not as tolerant. I hold in my heart much compassion for them, as well as the earth. Thanks for an interesting and thought provoking hub.