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Eric’s Sunday Sermon; Attitude Adjustment Time

Updated on May 31, 2020
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Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

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I Can

Does your attitude need an adjustment? Adjustments are often real hard to do. Some would call Attitude adjustments growing. I try to start every day with an attitude adjustment. Wake up with a bad attitude? Perhaps we all do from time to time. And that adjustment at the end of the day is critical. Let us check into the wonderful world of possibilities if we simply take the time to do an attitude adjustment.

I can’t.

This is so frequent it is an obnoxious broken record. It is a dirty word in our home. The concept alone has caused the greatest losses of the greatest works though out all humanity time and place. Yes, because works never were started. Last Thursday when I said to myself “I can’t” did I just blow the opportunity to create the best writing piece ever? Clearly we will never know and that is a shame.

So the worst thing about a bad attitude could really be what does not occur, because of it. Is it possible that the main reason for relationship breakdowns is “I can’t”? The greatest losses in businesses are not failures, they are the result of the attitude of “I can’t”. Just assume that after the 100th failure Edison just threw up his hands and said “I can’t”. But each time he adjusted not just technique and experiment but he adjusted his attitude to “well that doesn’t work I get to try a new way.” Real or imagined the can’t factor can tear down a person or whole nation in the time it takes to paint a house. We live in a time of “you can’t”, right or wrong it is destroying an economy. The perspective of government at the moment should be “we can’t stop you”.

That brings us to the opposite value of a notion. “I can’t” is not always bad. I can’t let that stop me is real good. It is not the words but the attitude applied to the words that make the difference. Even as simple as that concept changes to the good with a furtive attitude adjustment. The adjustment from “I think I can” to “I know I can” can create the lightbulb. What other energy can it harness and put to good use?

Jump In The Line

I Can Do It!

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Adjust

Obsessive compulsive disorder is real. What they will not let us in on is the secret that like bi-polar we all have it, albeit hopefully to a manageable lesser degree. But go ahead and have them full blown. Just take a pill and you may get better. Change your attitude about them and you will get better. One whole heck of a lot easier said than done.

Approaching the illness.

Let us call the illness a “dis-ease”. Let us assume I have both of them and that the most common manifestations are “I can’t”. I can’t stop and I can’t do it. Same coin just different sides of it. But just change it around. Instead of I can’t stop doing the behavior we say I can’t do the behavior. And in our depression we stop saying I just can’t and start saying I just cannot, not do it.

Yes I know this is all mumbo jumbo psycho-babble about “Self-Talk”. Well genius that is what we are talking about. Attitude is strictly an inside job. Now I do not know what comes first as in chicken or egg here. Does the attitude lead the negative inside talk or does the inside negative talk make the attitude? Probably one simply compounding the other. But we do know that adjusting that negative personal speech to a positive one, even without feeling it, works better than that pill at alleviating the symptoms.

Now let us assume I am healthy and I have my shots like a good boy. But I still get the flu. One thing is known that even though I get it, if I gave my body the latitude of the shot the effects of the flu will be lessoned. Now my positive newly adjusted attitude cannot really cure the flu, but as we all know I can still work from home and feel no more miserable than if I just binged watched TV and said I can’t do it. How about I just say, “I cannot let myself suffer and binge watch”? OK, I am going to suffer but I can still review that paperwork I have put off. Or maybe like the OCD above we can even get rid of the “suffering” and just notice the yucky and keep moving.

Of course we agree 90% of the above is all in adjusting our attitude. And I would suggest that the best of all attitudes is the attitude of gratitude. Better alive and dealing with cancer than the alternative.

Bad Attitude

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You Are King

Go With It

There is an area that spans three notions. They all have to deal with emotions. My wife said “that is a nice haircut, I can tell you did it yourself”. Now do I care about that comment, do I love that comment or do I hate that comment? That attitude does not require knowing why she made it. Many would call it a “backhanded” compliment. Personally my attitude went to hate, I adjusted and self-talked into I don’t care but I still did, then I went into loving it as funny, showing she cared and just a touch of admiration and appreciation that I saved money on a haircut ;-) My young son helped correct it a bit, as in “I missed a spot”. And of course my wife said it looked “better”. And there my brain went into that cycle again. If you deny you do this you have a liar for your self-talker.

Love, Hate and Apathy

Really all just attitudes. Sometimes I like to try and be in them. It is really hard. My brain and my heart want to justify, create and dictate attitude. Well once again we see that those two can be adjusted. Maybe I look to the chore. I have got to paint the hallway. I just can’t do it today. Maybe I will give a dang tomorrow.

Perhaps I should forget about the chore in my inside brain rattling and look strictly to my attitude and maybe make some adjustment. “This is a great day, I am so happy to be alive and have a home.” This way no matter a problem I do not suffer it. Go ahead and call that Pollyanic and go into your ocd and bi-polar over some matter. Or better do some apathy and hate so that you can justify your negative attitude toward life in general. And let us not forget that if we paint that hallway instead of watching a show and heaven forbid the nightly news, we can allow that accomplishment to change our attitude. Especially when my wife comments that it is just great for a dark hallway guests never use. Lol.

(Truly my wife loves to make such comments and then scamper away laughing at her own wit. I have to admit, it cracks me up)

So the most important attitude is the one of love. You simply cannot go around with a heart filled with love and have a bad attitude. Love is a good attitude. We can slow down and tell ourselves to love. Love you and love me and love another day breathing. So when the boss man threatens to fire you, I suggest you not smile and give him a hug. But in your adjusted attitude you can imagine it.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Verlie it is always a pleasure to hear from you. I gave myself an adjustment this morning even though I did not really need it.

      We will be 90 today so water play is going to happen.

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      Verlie Burroughs 

      11 months ago from Canada

      Morning Eric, The image of a child getting soaked with a garden hose drew me in. Now that is an attitude adjustment I can relate to. Always enjoy your sense of humor. Cheers.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sneha, thanks for that great comment. Sometimes I just have to think that I am "one". I mean that mind, body, soul, spirit, experience, emotion and mind work together in a synergistic way.

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      Sneha Bhat 

      11 months ago from India

      Attitude adjustment time! Nice article.. " dis-ease" just loved this sir... its our mind that influences the whole world.. when we dont go behind the negative vibes , no disease or obstacles can disturb....!

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Too funny Flourish. You are making my mind take off to the absurd.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      11 months ago from USA

      Give him a hug then he will fire you for nonconsensual touching! But at least one of you will feel good about it.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lori I hear you. I Thought for a month I would check my blood pressure often through the day. What an eye opener. Negative people effected it to the worst.

      I heard 2,000 on Edison, like you say - a whole lot. I kind of wish people would lower the BP and realize we are only doing this a little wrong, 100,000 times, this nation, keep trying.

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      Lori Colbo 

      11 months ago from United States

      I need a big time attitude adjustment today. I let people's arrogance and ignorance give me high blood pressure. I need to pray and read God's word.

      I love that you brought up Edison. I don't know if this is accurate, but it is said he tried 10,000 times to invent the light bulb. If that is incorrect, we can gather that it was a very large sum of times. It is an example of tenacity and the virtue of patience and a good attitude.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you DDE I will do my best.

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      Devika Primić 

      11 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Eric great stuff from you keeping us up to date with your side of the world.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I was thinking I should "reCant" some of this. So now I can just say I can not.

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      Mel Carriere 

      11 months ago from Snowbound and down in Northern Colorado

      Don't forget cantaloupe. One of my favorite fruits. But the exceptions don't prove the rule.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mel see; Cantilever and Boot Cant. And lest we forget the horse canter. So clearly my rules are made to be broken.

      Although I think you will find scant reason to find more.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Greatly appreciated thomasczech. I had no idea what an attitude adjustment writing this would be. Thanks.

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      Mel Carriere 

      11 months ago from Snowbound and down in Northern Colorado

      Some of the best psycho babble you've produced in recent days.

      Sometimes we don't have the choice to say I can't. For instance, in a few minutes I am going in to face a Monday morning mountain of parcels. I cry to the boss that I can't, but she says failure is not an option.

      On the subject of I haircuts, my lovely wife gave me my first Covid clip yesterday. She could have, but didn't say I can't. But now I can't go out in public without a hat. I hate to disagree with a man of the cloth like you, but sometimes it is better to admit defeat and say I can't.

      Great stuff. Your words and wisdom reverberate through my household.

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      thomasczech 

      11 months ago from Canada

      I love this. Attitude makes a world of difference.

      Just reading this is making a difference.

      Thank you

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      manatita44 

      11 months ago from london

      A very sweet and sobering thing to say. My special thanks to you and family. Stay well and have a great Whitsun Monday!

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Umesh those words are music to my ears. Thank you.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Greg. You just made me realize that sometimes I do not know my attitude needs adjustment -- but you just put mine is a better place.

      So good attitudes are probably a contagion ;-)

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita, sorry for the delay in responding. HP and I are having technical issues that look to be resolved.

      You my friend have a very consistent attitude of love. I your case I think the beauty in your writing probably self adjusts you.

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      Umesh Chandra Bhatt 

      11 months ago from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India

      Well presented and very motivating.

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      greg cain 

      11 months ago from Idaho, USA

      It is true, precisely as you say: attitude is everything. And as the Beatles said: “All you need is love.” Awesome message for all of us, and wouldn’t it be nice (Beach Boys) if everyone would read, see the need and heed to the adjustment. Thanks for today’s wonderful message.

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      manatita44 

      11 months ago from london

      I love that dynamic red happy attitude pic and the other, too. Part of my worship today was all about being childlike. We were talking about humour recently. Pretty similar. Keeps us young!

      Transformation is never a bad thing. A bit like moving into a new home, so bye bye apathy and old attitudes. Chuckle. Hey Love, you're listening? Fill up my chalice of fine vintage please? Happy Pentecost, Bro.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Liz I agree completely. Around here we are just not waiting.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I am with you Linda. But I must say I am glad I gave up beer for breakfast ;-)

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      Liz Westwood 

      11 months ago from UK

      I guess post lockdown and post pandemic we're all going to have to assess and adjust our attitudes a little.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much Ruby you have made my day! And is good as it is already that is saying something :-)

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      Linda Lum 

      11 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, the concept of specific types of foods for a specific meal are foreign to me. Salad for breakfast? Why not? I often have soup for breakfast, and eggs for lunch.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      11 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I wish everyone in the world could/would read your message today! I know it helped me change my attitude. I can't change the world, just me.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda it is banter and playing with words that trips my trigger. In Vietnamese it is quite normal so my wife has transferred it to English with aplomb and art ;-)

      I had a Viet salad for breakfast. I know it sounds weird but it works.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela, I used to get upset over them. Until I adjusted my attitude about my own insecurities. Now they are a check to see how I am doing. "No need to ask honey just float me one of those curve balls".

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill that little girl would walk into a room of adults and tell them just where to stand and how to act!

      Now she works politics in DC and she walks into a room with not-adults and tells them just what to do.

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      Linda Lum 

      11 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, attitude is the key. There's a famous quote by Yoda (the little Jedi dude) that I love: "Do, or do not. There is no 'try'."

      It sounds like your wife has a little bit of snarky and loves pushing your buttons. We do that in the Carb house too. Keeps life interesting.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      11 months ago from Sunny Florida

      Happy Sunday, Eric. I fully agree that attitude is everything I think the way you handled the haircut remark was good even though you started out in a negative place. You worked through in and it became positive, which feels much better. This is a very good Sunday sermon.

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      Bill Holland 

      11 months ago from Olympia, WA

      The picture of the little girl on top of the car is a classic. "Yes I can, and you better not get in my way!"

      Nothing wrong with my attitude that a little chocolate can't fix, my friend. Happy Sunday to you and your brood.

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