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Eric’s Sunday Sermon; Conditional Love

Updated on November 13, 2018
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Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

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If You Think Love You May Fail

There are four great teachers of love. I do not put that in past tense although they died to the body. One was a great American Native Chief. Another was like an Asian monk. And one got horribly killed, we call it a Passion, as it was done in astonishing love. Then the nurse lady.

Every single one of the above had serious faults. There I do use the past tense. When we pass, anger and errors pass. But one part of us does not die. Love.

Now there is a serious death. It can kill us when we are alive. That hateful loss is conditional love. For some fully incomprehensible reason I have never been plagued with it. It would seem that some of us are made with a thorn in our side that kind of keeps us less than judgmental.

I have had a dog or maybe like four. I never could wrap my head around the notion that we “have” children or animals. Some of my plants maybe. Maybe my enormous fish tank fish? But kids and dogs poop and pee inappropriately. Shoot either one might chew on things and ruin them. And the worst is when they swallow stuff and you have to examine the crap to make sure it passed.

If the logic of judgment was followed we would hate these creatures.

Here are some folks you just can’t love. Adulterers, whores, child molesters, people with opposing political views, pompous asses, thieves and gang members. You can see the list can go on and on. Probably the saddest are alcoholics, bi-polars, Schizophrenics, addicts and homeless.

I came up with a test about who qualifies for my love. The dang thing came up with everyone getting a passing grade. So I made the test harder. And it turned out the only person who failed was me. Well that is just nuts. So I put it on a “bell curve”. Problem there was that all sinners failed. And then the next problem was that every last one of us failed.

I have to think less and love more. So I turned the test over to my heart. Not one stinking low life moronic no good failed. And then I turned my heart to those who hate me. They maybe all had good reason to revile in me.

Then I tried to determine who was bad. There was simply no equation.

Inappropriate But Filled With Love of Life

Near My Childhood

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Judge Not Lest Thee Be Judged

So here we are. I really should go no further without saying I love you. Now do not take that too special as I apply it here. A great big old Cobb salad, any sunrise or sunset, a hike, Candy Dulfer on Sax, my roses and a bunch of gemstones/rocks are included. Crazy I think.

I really love my 10 Bibles. I think I love my Oxford compendiums of philosophy. I think I love my easy chair in my office. I am certain I love my wife’s rice sour soup/Pho’.

Now I am loving folks I do not know and a bunch of objects. Something here is seriously wrong if I don’t just plain love everyone. My computer is getting up there in age. I love it though. I was looking at a movie where the fellow figured out passwords by worn out keys. It made me look at mine. A very strange thing was that the worn out keys had nothing to do with the normal concept of “passwords” that unlock things. I cannot read L.O.V.E. on my keyboard. I have just plain worn them out. I need a new key board – or maybe not?

Once again I need to stop thinking.

Just yesterday a fellow was going after a little old lady in the grocery line for taking too long counting out change. My goodness. I am a big and ugly mean looking feller. As he was in between the fine lady and me, he was trapped. I had a good hankering to kick his ass right there. Was I wrong? The gal saw my trying to control myself. She gently touched the testosterone charged rude man and told him she was sorry and she wanted him to be happy.

I would like to make this stuff up. But life is better than my thinking. On the other hand I am conditionally loved by some people that I love. I am no saint. I think they have a fine right to hate me, or just not love me.

The only opposite of love is apathy. I wonder if my roses know I love them. Probably my son’s and my rock collection could not even care less that we love them. Well they are cleaned and well taken care of. It occurs to me that love is just being in love.

A Precious Moment

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I Got To Hang With These Folks In Munich and Puebla

Arrivederci

Now do not think for a moment that our loving stuff is wrong. You just do not get to put them above people.

“Don’t let me down” is a song. It is strange. It sings of an everlasting love but insists on not letting “me” down. The music is awesome.

Here is an interesting concept; “I am in love with you.” We just jump to a marriage thing. And we should. Those of us in love are married. (just a fun note – marrying condiments means to fill the same bottle with something like ketchup on a restaurant table it is like filling our hearts, vessel back up with love)

Here is another cool notion. “I do not care what you think of me.” We think of that as meaning an issue of apathy. The loving interpretation is that I will love you even if you hate me.

Old people need help getting around sometimes. Same with sick and dementia folk. It is common knowledge that their caretakers need some R&R from the chores of caretaking. It is also common knowledge that those caregivers sometimes resent their person in their charge. I just cannot judge that concept. Ill equipped I suppose.

I am just starting to reach out to others on paper and that phone thing. Email does not suffice. Effort makes a difference. I cannot write cursive. Sorry. But I want loved ones to know I love them specially.

So this guy referred to above was a great man named Sitting Bull my fave of his is; “Behold, my friends, the spring is come; the earth has gladly received the embraces of the sun, and we shall soon see the results of their love!” He says “is” come, not “has” come. My estimate is that he was smarter than Einstein.

We will leave each other now. Or maybe we will meet each other now, again I cannot understand.

To say goodbye I say the ultimate truth of love. Esperanza or our way of saying – Hope. Our choice.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Rodric, thank you. I have just finished https://hubpages.com/religion-philosophy/Cleansing... and am so reminded that our power is immense and how similar all religions are if seen through the eyes of God's and man's love.

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      Rodric Anthony Johnson 

      3 weeks ago from Peoria, Arizona

      Eric, reading back over your article, I had to take a piece of it and put it in one of mine. I definitely give you the credit. Again, I thank you for letting me know that my first assertion to love everyone is possible.

      This: "I wonder if my roses know I love them. Probably my son’s and my rock collection could not even care less that we love them. Well, they are cleaned and well taken care of. It occurs to me that love is just being in love... Now do not think for a moment that our loving stuff is wrong. You just do not get to put them above people"

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah I judge my own performance. I either love or do not love it. But that seems kind of wrong. Like hating your own arm. So your point is well taken. If we are all one in God and Love how could we not love all of the body of Christ.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill, Thank you much. I often rant about "judgment" that is spoken of is not the judgement of what to eat but deeper. If I can remember we all fail each day avoiding the wrong judgment is easier.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      3 weeks ago from Washington DC

      Eric, The list "we just can't love" is "Adulterers, whores, child molesters, people with opposing political views, pompous asses, thieves and gang members. You can see the list can go on and on. Probably the saddest are alcoholics, bi-polars, Schizophrenics, addicts and homeless." Before we human/woman are qualified to be "born again" via a metamorphosis into man we have incarnated as them and every other potential position we human/woman participate in. Only by having been them do we know how to "exceed their abilities" as dominion was once defined - I don't seem to be able to find it anymore, when I did it was the 16th and last definition in one of those old 6 inch thick dictionaries they had in school during the 50s and 60s.

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      William Kovacic 

      3 weeks ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      What a lovely message, Eric. So much truth, and yet we fail in one way or another every day. I learned something new today. We have something in common. I love my easy chair, too. Seriously, thank you for sharing these thoughts that MUST be considered.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora thank you. We having a nice loving relationship and I feel it. All my children loved "beans beans the magical fruit - the more you eat the more you toot"

      So we did love, love the magical thing - the more you give, the more you bring.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sean that is so nice of you to say. Loving should require no return on investment. But boy is it nice to get some loving back. Which reminds me to let my wife know (verbally) how much I love and appreciate her.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well Elijah I would have hoped you would have incorporated the paragraph after the list showing that the list was faulty.

      Your monkey wrench reminded me of "The Monkey Wrench Gang". A must read.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim, we sure try to care around here. Although one might hear "I could not care less". But that is usually reserved when being asked for permission. May I have a piece of candy - no. May I have a bowl of blueberries - I could not care less. Mostly fun.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sorry to all for being so late on responding. I would say why but it is just too embarrassing. :-)

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, you examine love for all sides, many sides and you always make us take a detailed look. For example, "The loving interpretation is that I will love you even if you hate me." I only see that truth now that you say it.

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      Ioannis Arvanitis 

      4 weeks ago from Greece, Almyros

      My dear brother, this is one of the best things I have ever read! You are a pure channel of Love, and I thank you for the Love you bring to this world! I believe that you feel the Love that I send you, unconditional and eternal! Knowing you makes me a better human!

      Gratitude!

      Sean

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      4 weeks ago from Washington DC

      Concerning your list of people "folks you just can’t love", Eric, my question is why not?

      If use are, as all man are supposed to be, able to exceed the ability of the earth and everything hereon, as "dominion" was once defined. Also, for anything to exceed the ability of another it must have experienced every ability of the others. For them to exceed the ability of "your list" they must have incarnated in each or those characteristic such "addicts" demonstrated by them. That means you have or will incarnate as human - "minds unable to understand all things" - before use go through the metamorphosis of the news birth and become man - "minds able to understand all things" - which include those rocks you love. Is that "monkey wrench" enough for you? LOL You know I just had to do it.

      Very well presented, my brother, but I just had to give "the philosopher" something to think about.

      Peace

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      Tim Truzy 

      4 weeks ago from U.S.A.

      Hi, Eric,

      Love your sermon. Apthy is a true killer of spirit and compassion.

      Love is a cure for the evils of the world. An act of caring is sharing, and that's what we benefit from in your articles.

      Thank you.

      Sincerely,

      Tim

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Marlene my wonderful bride of about 17 years also reserves the word love. I think that is good. A simple peck on the cheek turns my world topsy turvy. Our joy of love is in our hearts not our words.

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      Rodric Anthony Johnson 

      4 weeks ago from Peoria, Arizona

      Eric, I enjoin your sentiments of love. I love you too, though, I forgot that I can do that. When I was a missionary, I thought that I loved every person because we are all children of God. When I got married, I learned that love is not just feeling, but also an act of service. Thinking of it that way, I learned that I loved few people indeed. Now again you have let me see that I can love everyone while serving those who are nearby me since I cannot serve all 8 billion people. I can love them as I meet them in service but love the idea of their existence when they a not around. You inspired me to write on this.

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      Marlene Bertrand 

      4 weeks ago from USA

      I enjoyed your sermon Eric. Love is the ultimate emotion. I try not to throw that word around a lot, but I do find myself saying how much I love this and that. I love you Eric and I hope you have a truly blessed day.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda I am working on appellate court decisions on disability/employment matters and listening to Cocker-"with a little help from my friends". I think my savior makes me love our rights like he helps your love of cooking. I am not so sure it matters who we serve, just that we keep doing it.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela I love your comment. I just have faith that love touches us all. I figure Christ said "For God is love" for a clear message.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Liz my boy told me just to answer his question on stars. "Sorry Gabe I just don't know, but let's talk about it." Interesting is that he never asks that about love - he just does.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita would you stop outdoing my hubs by your wonderful comments? I have been pondering the "source" of light and love. The darndest thing happens; I just fill up with love more. Not by intention it just works that way.

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      Linda Lum 

      4 weeks ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, there are some people who are difficult, if not impossible, to love and you mentioned a few of them here. However, we know that we should because God does. Every one of us began as a newborn baby. We were not born into the same circumstances and that perhaps is where the difference begins. The people we do not love are flawed and wounded. We do not know what is buried deep inside of them, but their Savior does.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill Holland you scallywag. Your love goes without mention except as a pillar.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      4 weeks ago from Sunny Florida

      Excellent sermon Eric. Love is sometimes just showing kindness I guess that older woman in the store. I would hope the man felt a little bit trivial at that moment, but heck, we all fall short according to the Lord's word. I know I do. But, I try to be kind and smile at people as that seems to open a door.

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      Liz Westwood 

      4 weeks ago from UK

      Interesting thoughts on a fascinating subject.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mr. Jodah I believe I am such an introvert that I would do all things natural more like 65/35. But I have to remember we are natural too.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Clive I hope this is as crazy as most. I redacted at least 200 times. Sometimes I am so boring.

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      manatita44 

      4 weeks ago from london

      Afternoon Bro. Sometimes I get hated because I dare to be different. You write a little harsh here and there and in other places seem to be pro love. A dichotomy. Since Love is the question here, I feel perhaps something is missing. Again, sometimes you write like two different folks. Just saying.

      Love - my perception, so no big deal - is a powerful quality of the spiritual Heart. It may not need us to shake Charles Manson's hand and to keep offering to help our neighbours, it is simply an all-powerful Light radiating from within. Actually, we can feel and send it from our rooftops.

      I really have no problems with prostitutes or whores or other words I don't normally use. It seems to me that Christ felt that they came from the same Light of heaven. Just saying. But you are a good man and your Heart will prevail. Much Love.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      When I was younger, I admit, I put conditions on my love. Thank the heavens I found a semblance of wisdom over the years.

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      John Hansen 

      4 weeks ago from Queensland Australia

      Another wonderful sermon, Eric. I have a few things I love...my office, my computer, my chair lol.....but none as much as people....my animals vs people are 50/50 though.

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      Clive Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Jamaica

      Thank you for sharing this Eric. More Sermons out the old poker.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Cam I have just a few words for you. I like just one pole as I am slow and lazy. That danged alternative to dying is fully acceptable in my thoughts. Hope you hiked the Grand.

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      Chris Mills 

      4 weeks ago from Hartford, CT

      What's this notion that old people need help getting around? I get around just fine as long as I have my knee brace on and my hiking poles. Other than that, this was a splendid article. Thank you for sharing from your heart.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      We all know this is not Sunday but man plans and God laughs.

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