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Eric’s Sunday Sermon; Cry out for Help

Updated on December 24, 2019
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A life long pursuit and the results. Doctorates and experience sometimes do not mean much. Just listening is my expertise.

Just Riding Around

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Perhaps This Time Of Year

Cry out for help is not like a phone call. Sorry to say a cry out for help is usually strange behavior. The cry out for help is usually not even made. It is a cry out for help we miss. The crier does weird things as the cry out for help.

Mania and depression are nasty conditions. You cannot always catch them in yourself or others.

Once again I have a wonderful Sermon written up. But it went into the bin with so many more. They look real nice but they ain’t got the jazz. And then I get struck with love and a desire to share that. I preached in a church for around 5 years. I did trials for about 10. I never ever wrote down a sermon or “opening statement”. If it did not come from the heart instead of a piece of paper it just stunk in my opinion.

If you need to write down the facts or citations then you do not know them. And that brings me back around to the point. If you cannot tell the signs of someone in distress well then go back to bed.

I messed up real bad and did not see them in a friend. I did not need a check list. I just needed to feel his heart. Impeaching myself over that leads to no good.

But I just plain screwed up as a best buddy. He is one of those friends who deny pain. He just will not show hurt. That is not my call. I have to feel how he feels. And I just did not do it. Damn it I failed. Abhorrent behavior in someone is a cry for help. Eric missed it. So we step up and deal with it when it gets bad. And that may be too late.

I could not get him into therapy or church. I could not get him to come to my house for a bit. I was too late. Vandalism, GBI (great bodily injury) and drunk driving all in one. He called in that I kidnapped him and I woke up to a Patrolman in my home. Great guy by the way, coffee and some cookies. My son was so impressed. He just assumed the copper was a friend. And indeed they all are around here. I never had a fight with first responder. Love them.

Met This Guy Once, What a Treat!

I Wished The Boy Happy New Years

Oops it it Christmas Eve we laughed so hard.
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How Boring Staying All Day at Home

Failure sucks. But then you get up and meet up with your mistake. You will do them again if you do not. Your God will help you with that if you let God. I have already lived in heaven and some say hell. I never recognized hell on earth. Just something to do with hope I reckon. But this missing the mark makes me consternation and interrupts my sleep and calm. Now a freak like me does not do that well. I do peace and love and try to do right. I have to do failure better.

We fail our friends sometimes. We fail our families sometimes. By golly we fail our enemies and strangers sometimes. I have to get over it or I will fail another. Get up and put your big boy pants and do better and do not carry forth guilt. Cool to say isn’t it, crazy hard to do.

What is it with big bad guys that makes them not ask for help? Just spank me hard and put me to bed without dinner. But what should be and is worse is a friend not seeing the cry for help. We are not allowed to fail our friends in need. I just will not accept that in myself.

We have some issues around this family. One member just should not drive at this time. I just cannot get the problem. But in this case I am all over it. We step up and protect the one who needs help. Alright we miss a step or two. But the effort is there. And so far so good. We do some hand holding. And just us, we pray a lot.

At this time I to mind the United States Civil War. The fine men and women of slavery could not speak out. But our good friend and Leader Abraham Lincoln could. Better than me he felt the wrong and suffering. 100’s of thousands of soldiers lost their lives for voices they could not hear. But by leadership they did hear them. Can we do less for those voices in the alleys and byways. Sanctuary is political. That is a load of crap. The hand out should come from government it must come directly from us.

My son picked out the sleeping bag. From our local Veterans Store. I thought kind of ugly but within our price range and worthy. We did not hand it out. We gave it to the Bodega owner as he knows the homeless better than us.

Don't Know Much

Maybe a face in the clouds
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My Son Says This My Favorite Song

Give a Shout Out and A Call Too Many Go This Time of Year

Now do not get me wrong here. But I just give the “checkbook” over to my wife. Buying a gift is not in my purview. My son and I do arts and crafts and give them. Mom does “real” gifts. Don’t know about that. They all have our arts and crafts but don’t know about the real gifts. Perhaps that cry out is about something inside us and not outside of us. Go figure that out and get back to me. Is there something wrong with tongue depressors and lolly pop sticks as an ornament with a picture?

We are working on letters today. You know, those funny ones handwritten. Seems that 20 years later they still have them. I suppose they don’t have my emails.

Cry for help needs to be stopped before it begins.

They have this great term they call “proactive”. I think that means I teach my son before he has a problem. Maybe something more deep. Maybe in is a deal within us. Should I force my boy to play with me or should I just let him do imaginary by himself? If you think you have answers then you are an idiot with a capital I. Predicting and planning for the future is great. Those who “live in the moment but have savings account” make me think hard. You cannot live in the moment yet save for the future. That would be total hypocrisy.

How much do you save for you and how much do you save for others? I am telling you this is brutal stuff. I normally go warm and fuzzy. But a birth of a savior took some real guts. You need to get them too this time of years. Don’t give your daughter a gift, give one to a homeless. Just saying.

Sorry have to go puke now. Do not be concerned. That is just what us Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma patients do from time to time.

OK back on my game. James and I hugged and said merry Christmas. Just a checkout clerk at the local store. Maybe that is not allowed? He don’t care and I don’t care. So fire us from loving.

I have been listening and watching choirs this last bit and I just can’t think of a more diverse group. First I like age diversity. Different people have different voices. Judge other people by the problem not the good? I spent some time singing gospel in a Vietnamese Catholic choir. Now I am not Vietnamese or Catholic.

Figure out if I was not crying for help. Nope, I was crying to help. It worked, I became a preacher man.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Lori. Your support has always been so important to me. Someone once said "If it does not kill you passion for righting it makes you stronger". Oops that was me. Crazy experiences I think makes us better people and therefor writers.

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      Eric Dierker 

      14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Harish. The Sermons are written as much for me as my readers. When I was an active preacher, if I outlined a sermon and it did not stir me, I would approach it again and again. In five years I never ever wrote down a sermon. I love writing these sermons.

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      Eric Dierker 

      14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda I thank you. When you reached out to me through my son. It brought tears to his eyes. And of course I could feel the love. He did manage to say; Dad, you have friends?" LoL

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mel as usual your wisdom speaks volumes in so few words. Next time I am faced with such I will seek thee first for advice.

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      Lori Colbo 

      14 months ago from United States

      I figured something was going on as I haven't seen any articles. We love you Eric and we're praying for you.

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      Linda Lum 

      14 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, I will take your sermons any way you want to deliver them. Actually I don't need the sermon. I just want you back with all of us.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sorry my good friends for not responding in a proper time period. Those unexpected Healthcare stays really mess with a schedule and mine a lot to do with my brain. But as they say "you cannot keep a bad man down".

      Handwriting an article in my handwriting was quite a task. But alas good therapy. Although now I am having a stinker of a time trying to decipher what I wrote. My friends say "just think of what we have to go through deciphering my Sermons"

      I will catchup or is that ketchup?

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      Harish Mamgain 

      14 months ago from New Delhi , India

      Love reading this great sermon. Eric, your concern for friends and guys who need timely help shows strongly in this sermon. You awaken the good in our conscience and that's what I admire in your writing.

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      Nell Rose 

      15 months ago from England

      Sorry you think you failed your friend, I think we all believe after the event that we should have taken more time with friends. Hope all is well with you this New Year.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise thank you for comment. Big old tough men are the toughest. But those are who we must pay attention to I figure, especially those alone. We learn.

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      Denise McGill 

      15 months ago from Fresno CA

      I know I've missed the clues of a friend in pain before. People are sometimes very private and don't want to tell what's really going on with them. Too bad we cannot read minds.

      Blessings,

      Denise

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita just yesterday on a walk in the lagoon I told my sons that the struggle is the juice. Making it is the love. If we do not search can we ever find?

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      manatita44 

      15 months ago from london

      It's quite possible that we all cry for help in one form or another. I seek this when I go to Guruji. In a deeper sense, I am an immortal soul isolated from my True Source, struggling - like others - to find my way Home.

      Noble sermon, and yes, spontaneous is good too. Peace.

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      Devika Primić 

      15 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      A challenge to the mind to make you feel you haven't done enough but you-have so let you guard down to feel better. A Happy New Year to you.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela I thank you. And much is well here. I have to focus on those matters.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      15 months ago from Sunny Florida

      I don't think you failed your friend as many people hide their pain and problems very well. Love seems to always be your way to deal with problems and you seem to do that quite well. I pray you friend is doing better.

      I hope you and your family had a wonderful Christmas. I had a lot of loved ones at my house, which made me very happy.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda, truth be told I messed up. But I stepped up. But I got the note from the "Officials". We are in that road. Whahoo!! A Christmas gift. My buddy will be back hugging me soon I pray.Or maybe hit each other. That will work.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      HI Ruby it is an early time of day but I go to bed so early it is normal for me. I just checked and this was the fourth sermon I wrote for this week. I bet I have about 100 unpublished. I figure I hide plenty.

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      Linda Lum 

      15 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric you didn't fail your friend. Some of us are better than others at hiding the truth. God loves you and sees the love you have in your heart.

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      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill you fine buddy, I am trying drummer boy on my clarinet. My son told me that failure was my middle name. How fun is that? Bring it on!!!

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      15 months ago from Southern Illinois

      Hey preacher man, the more ' jazz ' you put in your sermon's, the better I like it. You speak the truth in all of your travel's and spread the good news in your far-out way, and we connect. I just read a poem that John Hanson wrote 3 years ago and it made me cry. I was about the 32 psalm. Blessings my friend. Get well.

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      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora a friend told me that I am not brother's keeper. I almost knocked him out with a hard upper jab. We are our brother's keeper. Like it or not. So I just went with a double punch to his chest. Sometimes love hurts.

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      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      We are not talking fun around here. Not on the menu. Tossing rocks off the bridge is where it is at. Into the creek below after heavy rain. Eric's world just "rocks" that way. Holding hands walking is what I am talking "bout

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      Ioannis Arvanitis 

      15 months ago from Greece, Almyros

      Love never fails my brother, human intentions do. And you are Love! I know it because I have seen you beside the baby Jesus, in the stable. I saw the baby smiling at you! I Love you, bro! Be Christmas, always.

      Much Love from Greece!

      Sean

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      Bill Holland 

      15 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I thought I'd spend part of Christmas morning with you. I hope you don't mind that I just popped in unannounced. Here's a big old hug to make it better you Big Old Lug you!

      Wishing you Merry Love and Happy New Love, and all the love in-between.

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      Dora Weithers 

      15 months ago from The Caribbean

      "What should be and is worse is a friend not seeing the cry for help." Eric, I totally agree. This is one of the worst misdeeds in my book. And I've been guilty. Your article encourages me to be more mindful.

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      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lori the beating myself up part is about ignorance. I deplore ignorance. I did not do statistics here but I researched them hard. I checked in with a few expert buddies. And I reviewed cases involving suicide in jails/prisons. Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the US. To my understanding the depressant alcohol and loneliness are often the keys.

      And further it would seem this happens in a "closet" or in a room filled with people.

      Christian commonalities -- meaning folks who have a support group of communion seem to do better.

      I am on the fence about families. Some folk take an issue there instead of honest interaction. That resulting isolation may be critical.

      During this time more than others we need to listen to others.

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      Lori Colbo 

      15 months ago from United States

      Eric, some people hide their pain too well. I have a friend who used to never let her guard down and admit to pain. She has changed a bit now and is more open and vulnerable. We do the best we can. I have suffered and people knew it to some degree but they did not know the depths and never imagined I would try to end my life. I never considered they failed me because I was a good actor. I've had friends who were going through something terrible and I did not read the signs. We are human and miss stuff.

      Put the two by four away and quit beating yourself up. I understand that helpless regret but it does not change anything in either of your lives. I'm sorry about your dear friend and I am praying for you both tonight. Crying out for help is a good thing but people can't be mind readers. You are an imperfect human being, as I and everyone else are, we are always going to make mistakes. But the unfailing love of God never ceases. His mercies are new every morning. Great is His faithfulness. Jesus loves you dear Eric and He loves your friend. May our Savior rescue him and bring you peace on the blessed Christmas. All love to you and your precious family.

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      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John please take some time this time of year to reach out to those at risk.

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      John Hansen 

      15 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Eric, the last thing we want to do is fail to see the signs when a friend is in need of help. However, often it is those closest who are the last to notice. As Flourish said, don’t beat yourself up over it.

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      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Flourish I will stop soon I pray. But I got him to safety. In months he will return.

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      Eric Dierker 

      15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Clive I reckon that is how it is supposed to be. Don't know.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      15 months ago from USA

      I’m sorry about your friend and hope you don’t beat yourself up anymore. I wish you peace and happiness. Merry Christmas

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      Clive Williams 

      15 months ago from Jamaica

      My mind is another world that constantly cries for help of this world.

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