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Eric’s Sunday Sermon; Love Is

Updated on July 15, 2018
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Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

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Mental Aspects of Love

Let’s take a look at the most famous of all statements about love. Let’s start out with some ground rules that all else must be weighed against. The opposite of love is mostly apathy and not hate. There are really about twenty different kinds of love. Some say billions as each person has their own. Love is from both nature and nurture. Love is the most universal of all “feelings/emotions”. The constant elements of love are basically the same for all types of love.

Some folks “do” love. Some folks act lovingly. But the best way to describe love is to understand we really must strive to be “in” love. It must be accepted that there is love in everyone. To what degree and how it manifests itself is really a choice. Even hateful Hitlers have love they just chose to stuff it down by making something else much more of a priority. So sad.

Empathy and sympathy are characteristic of someone in love. A psychopath is someone who can’t quite process those two into a love base. Which brings us to the hateful notion of exploiting another’s love for gain. So sick.

So we jump right in to famous statement by a fellow named Paul who was Saul. This transformation is important about love. Saul suppressed his to a dangerously low level. He ran around persecuting folks for their spiritual beliefs. And the greatest gift of his transformation to Paul seems to be the embracing of love even above faith. So Paul had to be hit hard and fast to shock his system’s need for vengeance and let love be in the forefront. Some call it a rebirth. I am good with that.

So we get this verse about what love is. If you stop to think about it that is kind of a strange idea. A feeling/emotion can be classified as to what it is? In a philosophical sense. What “is” is normally applied to things and not the metaphysical. And don’t definitions pretty much limit us and don’t free us. For instance what if I meet all other criteria but fail in longstanding? And that crazy idea of tough love. Which I do not care for but am all in on the duty to practice brutal honesty.

It would seem that expressing our feelings honestly to another whom we love is one of the finest side effects or symptoms of love. That concept of sharing happiness or sorrow is paramount.

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Love Is

So here it is: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 New International Version (NIV)

“4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” Now that is a tall order for anyone so let us agree straight up front that those are what we strive for, we look toward progress rather than perfection. We treat ourselves in love and do not dwell on our own judgment of critical evaluation. In order to get close to these ideals we must be gentle on ourselves. For one who cannot love themselves cannot love in general. Kind of like sticking to a diet to lose weight or recovery from an addiction. Slipups are part of success and getting too down on yourself is part of the failure. Please do not be put off by critical analysis of love. It almost makes no sense, but we can find it helpful.

Other than morning, noon and night, saying “I love you”, our most common use of the term is for food, especially fruits. Of course pizza and dad’s potatoes are right up there.

Some say using the word love on inanimate objects cheapens the meaning. They need to get over that. Love is big enough to deal with it.

So love is patient, love is kind. Isn’t it cool that those are in the same sentence, like they go together specifically. Makes sense if you think about it. Loving someone and teaching them requires both. Kind and patient instruction for both parties is a special gift for both. If I set my mind to being patient and kind, traffic jams and long grocery store checkout lines hold no negative power over me. Funny that I used “set my mind” rather than my “heart”. Love is as much a mental practice as it is a soulful one.

It would appear that those two attributes were placed first for a reason as they transcend all types of love. Pretty heady stuff to look into further and of course that will lead us into the other attributes of love that are desirable. I hope you are loving, (kind and patient) reading this. It might be the only way you get through it. ;-)

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“It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” Now getting puffed up is bad. Self centered is not good. Most ego stuff leads in a bad direction. Conceit is bad in every way. Coveting another man’s wife is really bad.

However this is not talking about pride in a healthy sense. And we should be a tad envious of greatness so we strive. I am very proud of my children and lovely wife. I will never change that no matter what. Like me they may make mistakes but are good at the core. I am proud when I do a good job at doing things. But I do not boast about it except to that devil sitting on my left shoulder. And I may boast about my love. (I love you so much)

Now “It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” Check it out, this one starts with no dishonoring and ends with no record of wrongs. And sandwiched are ego issues. We should remember that 90% of anger comes from our judgment that someone else acted wrong, and sometimes even that someone’s father did something wrong. I am guilty of all four of these things. Maybe that was Paul’s point here? Like with any bad behavior we need to repent (turn around) and apologize. And simply those acts of humility get us back on the right track.

A positive perhaps; “6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.” Isn’t that cool that he pits evil not against love but against truth. Makes you kind of think that love is truth. No façade and no fudging here. Probably not “honey that dress makes you look even fatter”. But probably “honey I like this dress more, it is so flattering”. Normally I think once a day we do a baby evil. Hence a proper guilt is produced, sometimes a little guilt is not a bad thing. Like sticking your hand in fire – the pain is immediately felt. At least in someone “in” love.

“It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” What a mouthful that is. We may want to call his editor. But it works right. Protect and trust. I hope my young son gets that I love him in such a way. Personal security is so essential to form our base of love. And putting them together is right. Hope and perseverance. One is in the heart only and the other is the action resulting from hope. I say “Right On!”

Well at any rate I hope you got a loving blessing from this sermon.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I like your take Lawrence. I also like to hear from you as it may indicate that your work is getting back to normal.

      For some reason I do think of Paul as growing in love right up until death. I aspire to that.

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      Lawrence Hebb 

      4 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      I often think that Saul/Paul's love for God didn't change. What changed was his understanding of who God is.

      To him, God went from being a remote old man with a big stick to a loving father who just had to step in and sort out the mess we are in.

      My thoughts anyway.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      4 months ago from Washington DC

      How so, Eric, does that put us in the position of God and not a god? Look at it like this. Human and woman (incomplete man unable to comprehend all things) are like tadpoles which don't even know how to reproduce until it goes through metamorphosis and grow into a grown frog that becomes, metaphorically speaking, god of the pond. Once human/woman complete being Born Again they become man (minds able to comprehend all earth things) or gods over earth and is why scripture says we become sons (not a gender) of god.

      That's my sophy of life; philosophy means love or lover and sophy means wisdom which describes the person and not what we speak.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah, you have a very interesting philosophy of life. I just do not care for the distinction of layers or progress. I find that puts me in a position of God not a god.

      My proscription of judging is exactly this kind. My prescription of love also denies me the ability to judge what another's "level" is. Is it possible that a living soul prior to birth is more sentient than I?

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      4 months ago from Washington, DC USA

      Brother Eric, codependency falls under karma and require another person in their timeline (sequence of incarnating) with one being dysfunctionally addicted and the other needing to provide for the addict. In another cycle of civilization at the same time they seemingly reverse places but the one closest to enlightenment will move on while the one the farther from it will have another life-force in the body he was in to allow him to experience the reverse role. That's the way "the Karma the Schoolmaster of earth" works, one moves on to another type of karma while the other experiences the opposite.

      Obsession doesn't always require another person but it's also an act of karma. If they are of a social status where they can maintain their obsessions without a codependent it is just an experience they have to work out although they are reaping form or sowing to others. Even though I have been born again I'm still paying off karma to carnal people but my sowing is to what we call angels in protection of my person, it never ends but continues throughout eternity and back since all things operates in cycles endlessly.

      In both cases, they both are sowing and reaping to many people all in their timelines. So, if that is not of a concern to you it means this isn't your incarnation to be born again, you will have at least one more life (being this close to civilization's end if it's only one you will enter everlasting life after the sunless civilization returns to the Genesis 1 scenario).

      Aloha

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Shaloo thank you for taking the time to write such a great note. I really go back in forth on Love being an emotion. Kind of like your master the best I can do is "in love".

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      Shaloo Walia 

      4 months ago from India

      Such a beautiful hub on such a beautiful feeling!

      My spiritual master says, "Love is not an emotion. It's your very existence."

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda let me pile on; Or they just leave it in the middle, or they hang out where you cannot see them around a corner, or they have thirty items and just stroll into the fast check lane.

      My son gets ours out of the isle and comes back to help me read labels and price ounces. And in the parking lot we always bring one extra back to where it belongs. Just how I was raised.

      Our only problem in stating our love for a food is that it sometimes creeps in and we say I hate that food. Bad Karma ;-)

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Sean. You are a good brother.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      i hear you Elijah. But it just does not seem worthy of concern to me. Antogonism against love is just to prevalent to give it a second thought. Maybe you could make a case on codendency along with obsession.

      But those are not love.

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      Linda Lum 

      4 months ago from Washington State, USA

      "Some say using the word love on inanimate objects cheapens the meaning. They need to get over that. Love is big enough to deal with it."

      Thank you for that. You are absolutely right. There are so many different levels of love.

      You and I "love" each other but not like we love our spouses or children. We both "love" to write, cook, and (dare I say?) eat and I have no problem with that.

      I love nature. I love my neighbors and almost all of the people at the grocery store (I'm reserving my critique for those who park their grocery cart on the right and then stand to the left of it blocking passageway of the entire aisle, but that's another gripe for another day LOL).

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      Ioannis Arvanitis 

      4 months ago from Greece, Almyros

      Congratulations on your sublime article! You have been prized by Love!

      LoVe4aLL is your verification code for your

      entrance to the application MyParadiseNow!

      Sean

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dana aside from loving, love is my favorite word to dwell upon. It is so interesting to me.

      Thank you for joining me.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      4 months ago from Washington DC

      Eric, the law of life is "all things in moderation" or temperance which means "use without excess or neglect." Overindulgence in love brings hate (which you said is not the opposite of love) just like over or under justifying an action brings injustice. That is the law of life, work to maintain the balance between all things, never too much nor too little.

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      Dana Tate 

      4 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      A four letter word packed with a lot of meaning.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Germaine that is like a daily ritual for me. I love the notion of being the same but just being the same in a different way. "Being" is so cool applied to Love. Thank you for coming by and leaving such a fine note.

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      threekeys 

      4 months ago

      I echo Mary's thoughts in that this writing is a wonderful reminder about the glue in life-love.

      The last couple of weeks I have realized somethings which I just didnt see/could realize, earlier. I dont know if all the pieces can be put together but if they can we wont as a family unit, be the same as before, but, we will be the same in just another way.We will see..but love of what we shared and what was before, made me hang in there long enough so that the loving realizations I needed to realize could form and present themselves to me.

      Love..loving ways....yes please

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Clive I write about it, study it but in my day to day - Love is love - well spoken.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mary I believe strongly that heaven will not be a space of "making it" but rather a place for more growth. Otherwise I think I might get bored ;-)

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah why must there be a balancing to "even" out love? Too much love?

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      Clive Williams 

      4 months ago from Jamaica

      Love is Love

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita. Mostly I wake up and think to myself "how can I be more loving today?" It sets my tone out just right.

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      Mary Norton 

      4 months ago from Ontario, Canada

      Just the right thing to talk about to remind us of what is really essential. My mind works double time and my heart is content not to be bothered. Love is something we grow into everyday.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      4 months ago from Washington DC

      You missed one thing, Love, like Justice is blind, or maybe it is justice when one defines justice as "the reward for actions." You see, love respects every action and responds to each with what is required to balance it out.

      Count me in on loving.

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      manatita44 

      4 months ago from london

      ...and a loving piece, I'd say. This ever-elusive and at the same time very necessary force or energy that gives us life. Have a great Sunday!

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill no cutting in line! Enjoy your loved ones.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Sign me up for a double order of love this fine Sunday morning. :)

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