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Eric's Sunday Sermon; The Internet and the Communication of Love

Updated on July 22, 2018
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Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

It Is Easy To Communicate Love To a Wee One

Wouldn't be cool if we could consciously remember being hugged and carried everywhere!
Wouldn't be cool if we could consciously remember being hugged and carried everywhere! | Source

How It Works

Privacy is important on the internet but so is clear communication. Somewhat like love I think if we look into the internet for a little bit it will set the stage for looking at some social thoughts.

Did you know that the internet is governed? Did you know that it is governed by elites and large interest groups? Did you know they were based in Marina Del Rey California? That now they are based in La Playa, Los Angeles? Did you know that the name is ICANN? Did you know that the U.S.A. has oversight of that cadre? Did you know that it literally has no representation of common users? Did you know that they govern your domain names for your blogs and websites and control things like how .com or .net are used? And that they govern matters like how countries us their own internet? They will tell you they are representative of multi-stakeholders around the world but that is a load of BS for P.R. reasons. U.S. Department of Commerce really governs ICANN.

ICANN is: The Internet Corporation for Assigned Names and Numbers. The Regional Internet Registry system evolved over time, eventually dividing the world into five RIRs. These are the technical “hubs” that allocate and control addresses on the internet. They go like APNIC for Asia Pacific and AFNIC for Africa. I know, I know it is boring. The internet is a huge part of “most” people’s lives. So why do we care about the politics in Washington DC more than we do about what we use the most?

I find all of that very interesting. My internet stops working and I freak out and have withdrawals, my car has a flat and I just fix it, ho hum. And if my country goes to war, I am jaded.

So there is a reason that in a sermon I start out with such little known facts about how most people interact. Interaction with others raises us above most animals and plants. Yes some “lower sentients” are quite advanced in peer/family/social interactions – like Dolphins and Rhododendrons. And what about those crazy ants.

I really like the word “Internet”. Kind of like networks for friends, family, co-workers and those with just a common interest. A net. A tying together. Interwoven. Actually both intra and inter. It is a perfect tool for gratifying interaction. And like most good stuff it can be overused, underused and abused. So often we go into the area of modern communication.

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Just Say It!

I told my son about letters taking months to be delivered across the Atlantic from America and England. Incomprehensible to him. I remind him to send emails to family. Too fun it is. I am quite certain at eight he has never talked on a land line telephone. For sure never even seen a typewriter. He has written some letters at my insistence. But he is already quite competent using a phone, tablet, Ipad and a laptop. He can figure words that he can do for a search of something. And he gets that just because it is on the internet does not make it right. Math is still done on paper, books are still read that are made out of paper and summaries of that reading are hand written. And of course in class the use pencil and paper. But by this year grades 3 through 6 will have an Ipad per child.

We are so blessed to be able to communicate to loved ones thousands of miles away and even in real time.

Now this is true. In my misspent youth I learned Morse Code. Yes that is a signal of dot dot dot dash dash dash dot dot dot (should be without spaces) And then I learned Semaphore with flags and flashlights. And you can just imagine learning how to smoke signal. And do not forget the two tin cans with a hearty string to talk up to at least 20 ft in a whisper. Oh lest I forget that Morse Code is S.O.S. which came from “save our ship” which is an international signal of severe distress or eminent death without help. Like a sinking ship. I also had a buddy who’s dad was a code talker in the last big war. So he taught me some Navajo so we could “code talk” around teachers. (that actually was grounds for discipline J.

And that leads us up to the heart of love. Love must be expressed. Oh sure it does not need to be spoken and in fact that is inferior to actions. A couple years back I found myself ending a phone call with good old buddies (we must have been friends for over forty years) with “I love you”. Kind of strange I would say but they know me and know that I do love them and now it is frequent for them to end “I love you too buddy”. Ain’t that just grand.

How To Say I Love You?

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Interesting. To Each Their Own

It All Boils Down To....

So with all that great history behind us we must ask if the language of love has changed over time. I will conclude one concept right out of the chute. The way I love has changed much and often over 60 years. So we must understand that our personal communication of love changes. We should try to make that as growth in love. But we all know the cantankerous old man who just gets meaner and more vile in his later years. Not what I would call a regression but more akin to making a wrong turn. It would appear that this is kind of some antipathy of love in the realm of apathy – meaning they do not give a dang how you feel or think. Now I would call that like I call really vulgar swearing constantly.

Now “in love” must we share all our thoughts and feelings to be a good communicator? No way you need to tell your spouse just how fat or stupid they are. In this home we are a little bad with that one as saying it out loud just makes all of us giggle. Hey we know our weaknesses and discuss them and so just saying it is down right mean and we know we love each other so mean turns into funny.

I mentioned that above to put forth the concept of groups of people over extended time developing their own separate language of love that might seem totally strange to the stranger. That silly Euro notion of pecks on both cheeks in greeting (normally “air pecks). Bowing in prayer fashion. Hugs? Wow around here they are constant loving food. But some folks never do hug. Go figure. I freak out my in laws with hugs, they never do.

So after all of that we possibly can take a closer look at the communication of love, ours that is, and how it affects others. After all there may be no greater purpose in life than to make another feel truly loved.

Attention. We need to pay attention. I was pondering which is more important, listening or speaking. At first I thought that they were equal. That is wrong. Maybe 3/5’s for listening. It is strange but keeping one’s mouth shut and is a clearer signal of love than saying it out loud.

And here is one too often left out. Communicating clearly. Sloppy speech and writing would suggest you do not care. Around here we are rude and finish each other’s sentences. But it means that we are in synchronicity of love.

Check this out: I would love if you and a loving day and passed that love on to others and give my love to them also. And please do not forget to love me and you.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Bede and I like your sentiment. You made me wonder if the action, including listening is done "in love" that it is almost irrelevant. I am speaking of a real love like Paul wrote to the Corinthians about. Just a thought.

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      Bede 

      3 weeks ago from Minnesota

      Internet love? As the first person to comment on one of my articles Eric, I would say you have warm place in my heart. It meant a lot. Listening often requires much patience, which is a form of love, but speaking imparts needed consolation and encouragement. I would say they’re equal if love is the undercurrent on both sides.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ann, I wholly hope your mind does not stay in those strange places where I reside ;-)

      Wow you are so in the money about when we get a good hug from a nonhugger, Made me think of folks who get smiles for young ones. How can you not smile back?

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Venkatachari my thanks to you. I sometimes like to think of the Internet as fire. Missused can be so devastatingly damaging but used right you are warm and have hot soup.

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      Ann Carr 

      4 weeks ago from SW England

      Absolutely lovely. I find it fascinating and sometimes hilarious how your mind works! It often echoes mine, by the way.

      Some people aren't huggers because they are more 'guarded' about their personal space. They don't hug easily but when they do, the hugs are worth a thousand.

      You're right that love has a butterfly effect; a smile, a hug, a kind greeting is often passed on because we feel its value.

      Great sermon, Eric! Lots of love...

      Ann

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      Venkatachari M 

      4 weeks ago from Hyderabad, India

      A wonderful and nice topic, Eric! Love and the Internet!!!

      It's truly a beautiful medium for expressing your Love. And, I Love you and Hug you for this nice topic.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Denise and so true. The flip side is hanging out together and not needing to speak. It is just so great to be alive and walking through these mysteries God gave us.

      My son calls me Chaddy instead of daddy. We ain't got no deficit of speaking around here. I love your point.

      And how important to communicate feelings verbally.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Out of the park Linda. Of course thanks to you we throw in cooking it together. That is we love, after a good blessing, our food creations. We just did grating of things like potatoes and cheese. We are talking monster love. A meal together is a baseline of love.

      Sometimes my boy and I eat stuff like left over rice and pay attention to an electronic device. It just won't work. We end up talking so much that the devices are on hold/pause for most the supper. Hey, we try to be normal ;-)

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      Denise W Anderson 

      4 weeks ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      There is a dichotomy with listening. In order for listening to occur, there must be speaking. If you get two people together who are good listeners, who will do the speaking? There must be a willingness to both speak and listen, in order for communication to occur.

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      Linda Lum 

      4 weeks ago from Washington State, USA

      Good morning to you Eric. Before we get started, a question. Has Gabe ever seen (much less used) a rotary dial telephone? My daughters are much older than he, and they have't a clue LOL.

      Now, on to why we're here. What a wonderful way to begin the week. Yesterday the pastor of our church and his little family said goodbye to all of us at a reception held in their honor. They have been with us 14 years. In that time they have had 2 children and have stood with just about every one of us through joys and sorrows. To say that the luncheon was a lovefest is an understatement. We will continue to love them (and they us), but it will be from several thousand miles distance. Yes, the internet can be a wonderful thing.

      Someone once said that we were given 2 ears and only 1 mouth so that we listen more and talk less. Sounds like a good policy to me. Imagine listening to your wife or your son talk, but you are engaged in looking at your phone. Now, imagine that same conversation sitting right across from either of them, looking into their eyes. How much better is your understanding?

      I hope you have a wonderful day Eric because I do love you!

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill, thank you. Ain't it grand make the "rounds" with our neighbors here at HP. I have to say that I love so many of them. And in that you gave me my best early writing with your interview you are special in my heart.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Good morning my friend. Let me take this moment, on the internet, to say "I love you, Eric!"

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John I just love knowing you. The internet and HP to blame;-) I think I have mentioned it, my wife and I decided to marry over the internet. Thousands of miles apart (well at least the Pacific ocean.) 14 years and a son later and all is good.

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      John Hansen 

      4 weeks ago from Queensland Australia

      Good sermon, good music, good love. What more do we need.....oh and the Internet.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      That is my fam. What was that song "roll on eighteen wheeler" We did CB in the "day". "This is bucky beaver's love, come on,. we got a lost two boys on the slide of Wolf Creek" No 911 them days.

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      Clive Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Jamaica

      I know a couple who got married after internet love

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I like that Manatita. Unlike your praised poetry my stuff too often shoots from the brain. In my writing that is. I like the term for most of life - He oozes love.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Super Duper Tim. Your comment means a whole lot to me. Just think how wonderful when our love gets passed on. Perhaps the "chain" of love is the bestest.

      My parts of years in Italy showed me "hugs at first sight" were welcome by most. Latin is the romance language and hugging is the romance thing to do with everyone.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      4 weeks ago from Washington DC

      Well, Eric, for the most parts my love hasn't changed much since the early 1980's, that is to be honest (except with people who know when I'm playing) and not "politically correct". If you saw my "Love Is and Isn't" post that included 2 poems about love, you can see just why. When one loves like the poem I once posted in reply to you, Love aka Indifference, I can't see how it can change but can only be "practiced until perfected" by never seeking to belong to anyone or group. In that way I can show my love by respect for them.

      Peace.

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      manatita44 

      4 weeks ago from london

      Loving ways of communication. I feel my way through usually, wherever it takes me and the internet can be a useful vehicle in the right hands.

      Communication is an effective tool of the wise.

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      Tim Truzy 

      4 weeks ago from U.S.A.

      I loved this, Eric. I shared it with my wife. We read it together, smiling all the way.

      Congratulations on learning Morse Code. I tried that as a Boy Scout, never quite caught on to it. You are a clever man, my friend.

      One of my better friends is Latina, from Bolivia. Every time we meet, we hug. It's really cool to figure out the many ways of saying, "I love you."

      My wife and I have been together a long time and we are still working on the listening. But we are getting better every day.

      Thanks for your wonderful, insightful, and caring article.

      Much respect,

      Your friend on the East Coast,

      Tim

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